For christians ,ONLY FOR CHRISTINAS PLEASE,who found their true love.....?

Question

(No offense to non-christians but I know what you gonna say please if you are not one, I respect your beliefs but please don't answer this. Thanks)

How long did it take you to find your true love? and how did you become so sure that he/she is the right one God has chosen for you?
I always tend to ask girls and then I think what if she is not the one God has for me?
Please any experiences?

SORRY FOR SPELL ERROR. ....CHRISTIANS *

Mr.Adam how about the spell correction, I made at the end?

Mr T,Adam:
Not at all it isn't disturbing me, I was actually laughing when you said I am not Christina. Sorry I think I needed to add.
( just kiding at the end, lol )
Thanks anyways.

Answer 1

So if I am not a CHRISTINA I can not answer. I don't think you will get many answers, due to the lack of christinas on this site. (just kidding)

edit: oh, sorry then. Responding in all capitals gave it an aggressive tone. Have a nice day.

Answer 2

I'm 31 years old, and have explored many religions from the time I was 17. I still have not found my true love. I know that when I was a Christian I had very high standards (I still do) and could not find a guy who I felt met those standards. It seemed that all the guys I met smoked, drank, cussed, and were otherwise not gentlemen.

Then I sought to convert to Judaism, and for 10 years, that is what I believed in. I did not want to marry anyone who was not Jewish during that time, and I live in an area where there are VERY few Jews. So meeting anyone at that time was nearly impossible.

Then I converted to Hinduism. But with my conversion to Hinduism I became open to dating and marrying someone outside of my faith, so long as the person loved God and had a strong faith and also an acceptance of my beliefs. That has been very difficult to find.

Now I'm embracing a lot more from my Christian heritage than I did before. I would not mind marrying a Christian, and in fact, I just want to marry whoever God wants me to marry. I still have not found him. But I haven't given up hope altogether yet! I'm visiting different churches and places of worship nowadays (not to meet someone), but maybe I'll meet someone there. Who knows.

Answer 3

I'm not sure how helpful this will be but I was 28 when we met. I wasn't even looking, we just happened to cross paths and started talking, then calling each other, and dating after that. We had a LOT of common interests so it made being together enjoyable and easy. Neither of us had to "try" hard to adjust to the others interests.

If the person you are asking out has the same faith that is a step in the right direction. I don't think that there is a specific way that would work for everyone. If you are in prayer and the person who you are to marry is in prayer, God will give you wisdom.

Keep seeking HIS will in your life.

Answer 4

I met my husband when I was 24, and we went together for a year and a half before the wedding.

Things to look for in a spouse:
#1) Be sure they are a Christian and they feel the same as you about spiritual matters. I know some couples can coexist when they don't agree, but trust me, it's difficult.

#2) They respect you and are willing to go slow. If they're pressuring you into sex or pulling you away from your family, you don't need them in your life. True love is patient and wants the best for you.

#3) You truly get along with each other and you love each other's personalities. Don't go with a girl just because she's in church. Make sure she's someone you really can live with.

If God wants you to meet her, you will meet her. Just relax and go with the flow, and give girls a chance. You'll never go out with "her" if you don't go out at all. I knew my husband was right because every step was easy and natural, and I knew I'd be happy with him for years to come.
When I was set up with him, I wasn't sure it would work because of his background and his family. But I gave him a chance, and I'm glad I did. Like I said before, give girls a chance and then just follow your heart.

Answer 5

I found her when I was 20. Met her at a Christian University. How did I KNOW? All the other girls I had dated I had to work at it when I was with them. When I was with her it just fell into place like we were supposed to be together. We talked without effort. We had the same values and perspective on life. We just fit each other. No way other than that to explain it. We have now been married for 27 years and have two beautiful daughters age 22 and 20. The oldest is getting married this January. God has blessed me greatly.

As to you. Relax. Don't try to hard. Just keep praying that God will prepare a mate for you and let Him do the work. BUT be ready to recognize His gift when it comes your way.

Answer 6

I prayed for a whole year for GOD to give me a vocation! I was 29 going on 30 and I wasn't sure what GOD wanted from me. After a year of prayer and devotion to an answer. I met my wife and married and have been for the past 16 years. Ask for GOD for discernment.
Keep GOD as your true love!!

Answer 7

...I became a Christian at age 21. I married my sweetheart when I was 28. I had dated several Christians girls, and for whatever reason, they moved out of the picture, there were some problems and/or disagreements, and somehow continuing to date must didn't work.
...I was invited to go on beach weekend with others at my church. I carpooled with 2 nice girls and 1 other guy. The girl who owned the car had just gotten off work (midnight shift), and asked someone to drive, so I did.
...We arrived at the beach, and the girl I was after that weekend I could never to seem to catch up with, so I started to talk to Carol. After that weekend, we continued to see each other. We got married one year later.
...Several times I asked God for His direction.
...When we were apart, like at Christmas, I really missed her - I felt empty and somehow incomplete.
...A few other things happened, too. My mother liked Carol more than any of the others, and said, "I like your girlfriend - she seems to suit you real fine." I appreciated my mom's approval - she never said that about any of the other girls I dated.
...Later my mom showed me her mother's engagement ring, and told me I could have it whenever I needed it - I had no idea that was coming.
...I have the girl of my dreams - God really did me well.
...May I make a few suggestions?
1. Date and marry only a growing Christian.
2. Ask God for a spouse who loves Him more than you.
3. Do some ministry together, to see if you can serve together.
4. Beware of dating a lot where you are alone.
5. Try to avoid touching each other - save that for after the wedding. No sex before marriage.
6. Don't choose a date that wouldn't make a good mate.
6. Seek parents' approval prior to marriage.
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...I think the bottom line is, that God brought her into my life at the right time and He gave me grace to understand Carol was the one, and I had other signs, too, (like Mom's approval).

Answer 8

Well I looked for love my entire life trying to replace the love I did not receive from my farther.... until I thought I met the love of my life because he was perfect in my eyes..... We were engaged for 1 year and he went off to the Navy we were to be married after his boot camp was completed... and he did indeed get married after boot camp but, he married my cousin. I was soooo hurt, but that pain wasn't a bad thing, because he hurt me just enough to finally make me pay attention to what my grandmother told me the entire time while growing up she would say,” Baby stop looking for a man in the street and humble yourself and pray and tell God to send you, your husband, and I promise you that when you see him you will know him." I held onto that prayer and those words for a year after being hurt so much, and one day I went to see an old friend that I had an argument with and had not talked to for 6 months, and she started to tell me about this guy. She also said that he may or may not have been my type, but I was still holding on to that prayer so I didn't for once in my life worry about the outside as much as I was worried about seeing him so I could know if he was my husband. Well he came over to meet me, and I took a peek at him from my hallway bathroom while he was standing in the living room, and it scared me. Why? Because he was indeed the total opposite of my ideal man, but I knew he was my husband, I closed the bathroom door and cried and thanked God, This was August 17, 2000 and we have been together every since, and married since Aug.17, 2001. Your husband was chosen for you before you were born so lean on faith and not your own understanding and sit patiently waiting on God, He will send him.....

Answer 9

Excuse me, but how is it that you know what I'm going to say as a non-Christian? Do you think that just because I'm not a Christian I'm going to put down your search for true love or your questioning of "is this the one"? That is common across MANY faiths, you don't have to be a Christian to wonder. Shame on you.

Answer 10

Before I met my husband, I dedicated myself to being single and not concerned about dating until that person came along. I was single for 2 years before I met my husband. I didn't even want to fall in love with him, but we became friends, had fun, joked and laughed a lot, and then one day, I woke up and realized I loved him.

I didn't say anything to him about it, but instead prayed and asked God to show me whether he was the man for me or not. I felt that indeed God had told me that he was the man for me. THe next day, my husband-to-be told me that he had been asking God if we were to be together and God told him yes. I told him that God had told me the exact same thing the night before.

We dated for 8 months then got married.

My advice to you is to not focus on dating or finding someone to spend your life with. Instead, focus on getting to know yourself, making yourself a complete and whole person, and spending as much time getting to know God and understanding his ways so that when the time comes, you will make a good husband. The world is so focused on relationships that they put pressure on single people to find their mate. Sometimes, being alone is best and let God do the rest. God had a lot of work to do in me during my two single years. If my husband had met me before my time of learning was up, we would not have worked out at all.