There is this guy that I am in love with. We are good friends but nothing more. Should I ask him out or just stay good friends. There is a possibility that he likes me too.
2006-11-07 14:10:59 · 12 answers · asked by pink_panther 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be very careful with this one. I had a guy that was like a best friend for 7 years........he asked me out and I was very hesitant and resisted for a month or so but he kept insisting, telling me that he had loved me for years. Well we ended up dating and getting into a relationship that lasted 2 1/2 years, but then it ended and along with it ended our friendship that was so special. You can never go back to being friends the way u were once u have been in a relationship. The most important thing to know is how he is as your friend is not necessarily how he will be as a bf........this I found out the hard way. If you and him are willing to take the risk that's up to u but just know from my experience that u do have alot to lose if it doesn't work. I wish u all the best.
2006-11-07 14:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point, you have to communicate with him your feelings. How do you know that there is a possiblity that he likes you? I say go for it, tell him straight up how you feel. You know that you will never be happy until you try a relationship with him, because if you don't, you will always look back on it with regrets. Some say that you shouldn't ruin a friendship, but what a wonderful thing it is when you have a boyfriend who is also a wonderful friend. GOOD LUCK :-)
2006-11-07 22:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Love is going a bit far at this stage, maybe you are infatuated with him to say the least...
When you talk to him does he show signs of interest?
Does he light up when you talk with him about common interests?
Have you hinted to him that it would be nice to maybe go out together?
When together does he treat you as a special friend and show that little bit extra attention??
If you answered NO to all these questions then maybe you are just wishing and need to take it to next level or maybe just stay friends anyway and live in hope that he will be attracted to you..
2006-11-07 22:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by Whoops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys aren't friends with girls unless, on some level, they are physically attracted to them. So you need to find out for sure. Take him shopping with you and try on some sexy clothing for him, and see how he reacts. Just start with some harmless flirting and see if he does it back. You just got to be a girl and send all those signals like touching his arm, laugh at his jokes, jump on his back etc... If he asks what the hell you're doing like he's not interested its so easy to play it off and save the friendship. But if you come right out and ask, things could be a little weird if he's not interested but knows that you are.
2006-11-07 22:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by Agent69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out. What could possibly happen? If he was a true friend, he will continue to be a friend. If not, then you don't need someone like that. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-07 22:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i would do is remain friends and take it slow if you are meant to be together you will be in due time dont do anything that will scare him off and see if he makes the first move give it a certain time and in that time if nothing happens yes ask him or talk to him about your relationship and see wht happens good luck CC
2006-11-07 22:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by readyhead42@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a shot!! life is too short. If he doesn't like you the same, then move on. There's a ton of great guys out there that you shouldn't just worry about just one....
2006-11-07 22:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to ruin a perfectly good friendship is to have sex, take it from someone who knows
2006-11-07 22:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him out. the worst he can do is say no and if you dont ask him out then you wont end up going out with him anyways. so really what is the difference. i really liked this guy once, i asked him out but he didnt like me that way and we are still friends. its not that bad, really. just do it!! :)
2006-11-07 22:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by susi w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to find out if he likes you first, b/c you don't want to ruin the friendship if he really doesn't have feelings for you in that way.
2006-11-07 22:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋