My parents live in Europe; they have retired there for a while now. I wanted to stay in Australia though, to follow my dreams. There would've been no way to do what I wanted to do if I had gone back with them. They, however, are like programmed robots and they only see it one way. Their way! Nothing I do or say changes their mind because the problem is that they don't even REALIZE that they're wrong! They keep sending friends&relatives to talk me out of my "madness" and go back to them. So, I have resorted to keeping my new address secret from them(i have given my phone number though, which I think is fair) because otherwise it wouldn't stop. They're like Agents from the Matrix, or like the Terminator. They just have one mission and have blinkers on! If they weren't so controlling and had let me follow my dreams in the first place, I wouldn't have "escaped" their tyrrany. Of course, they won't admit(or probably don't realize it) that they drove me away and that I know what I'm doing.
2006-11-07 14:08:26 · 10 answers · asked by Neo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i am 31 yrs old, by the way, and I never ask them for money or anything.
2006-11-07 14:16:35 · update #1
the question specifically is: how the **** do I deal with them? they just cant seem to tell the difference between me being 10 or 31!@#$%
2006-11-07 14:18:21 · update #2
Tell them to suck your c ock.
2006-11-07 14:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by Wired 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship need at least too personns... If one change, the other react automatically.
If you had to go so far to escape them, maybe it's because they're still "in your head". Get them out of your head first the rest will follow soon. If they can't follow themselves, that won't be your problem anymore and you will see a diffrence in your relationship with them :)
How to get them out of your head ? therapy, god, beer, hypnosis or good friends can help you, or simply you have to wait until they die or change...
2006-11-07 14:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by Julie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you? That would have a pretty big bearing on wether or not they should be "controlling" you. At any rate maybe you should just ask them to back off a little, that you appreciate that they're trying to care for you, but you feel smothered.
2006-11-07 14:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by darlintxdaisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I' m almost 60 & my mom is like your parents. In her eyes I can't do anything right. She has it in her mind that if something happens to my husband, I will move to NY to be with her. My family lives in IL & I keep telling her that is where I belong. Keep telling your parents, that you are old enough to take care of yourself & if you make any mistakes, you will have to take the conquences of your actions. Tell your parents that you appreciate their concern, but you're old enough to make your own decisions. Also tell them while you value their advise you have to learn from your action whether they are right or wrong. Good luck. I know how hard things are for you, but if they raised you right they have nothing to worry about. Believe me you will make mistakes, we all do. But I know you are an inteligent person & can take care of yourself.
2006-11-07 14:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by pmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand but no matter how you make it sound the point is all parents want the best for there children.they may not be fair in the way they treat you,but at least they care abot you,some kids don,t have that no matter how tranny they are if you dont mine me asking how old are you? how did you esape from them?. you are right to much love is smothering a person needs time to breath
2006-11-07 14:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait, dont u live by urself? dont they live in another country? i think it's time they let you grow up some! just reading that made me upset cus my parents are the same way! do what you do. go after ur dreams, & more power to u! dont let them hole you back from anything, u go ahead n do what u feel. they dont have to know everything. and what they dont know wont hurt them. trust me on that one. good luck!
2006-11-07 14:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents are the same way my mom do not want me having a man she hates the fact i am having sex and i am 21 with a 2 year old son. she do not want me to move out the house.so what i can tell you is tell yoUr parents that you are a grown man and u can make ur own mine up.
2006-11-07 14:13:22 · answer #7 · answered by Cherrelle C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you have to cut the cord! First of all, you must search for your economic independence and then jump towards liberty!
That's the only way, but never fight them. They will always be your parents.
2006-11-07 14:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by blkgator 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh! ur parents are annoying!!! tell them that they have no power over you and stop annoying you. you have a life and you know how to live it. they don't know what's best for you and you want to follow ur dreams, not their's
2006-11-07 14:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by Tim M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO....whats the question?
2006-11-07 14:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by sonnystylez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋