He had time to request the day off but didn't. His finances have been hurting but he could've picked up another day. Yes, friday typically is a good money day (he's a server) but what's more important?
2006-11-07 14:08:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can you two get together after he works? If not, celebrate the next day. Hopefully he cares enough to make alternate plans. If not, then maybe he is not the right one for you. If that is the case, then you are not overreacting.
There is also the chance that he is just one of those guys who doesn't get caught up in the celebration of birthdays, anniversaries etc. If this is the case, then accept the fact that some men are just not clued into that stuff. It is your job to let him know that these things are important to you. Don't play guessing games. You will never be happy if you do. Men are pretty black and white. They need to be told and are not good at reading minds.
2006-11-07 14:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a server, he would be wise to work any and all fridays he can possibly schedule. Is it not possible for the both of you to choose the next off day and call that your 'BD Party Day' and celebrate to your life's content? A day is just a day, but a day with your love is the most special of days. Party on Girl.
2006-11-07 14:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by david.duke4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he needs to work, he needs to work. I've been happily married for 12 years and my husband and I are RARELY off on each others birthdays or our anniversary. I know he loves me, and he knows I love him, but in the big picture of things, they are just days of the week.
My husband is on call with the hospital, I'm on call with the Police Department, we shuffle kids around when we both get called out, we have left in the middle of things, canceled things and such because we have responsibilities. If your finances suffer, everything else suffers.
Be an understanding girlfriend, and get together with him after his shift is over, and don't make him feel guilty about it. A birthday dinner on Tuesday is just as good as one on Friday as long as you are together.
2006-11-07 14:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't get mad at him over that. i understand that your hurting but if he has financial problems and is a server then he probably couldn't afford to not work on a friday. most resturants won't even let you off. you all should just try to go out another day close to your birthday to celebrate. i've always had to work on mine and that's what i always do. it's not the same but it's still good. maybe you all can go out thurs night or go out for lunch and stuff fri morning.
2006-11-07 14:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by maryjane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being selfish. You can spend another day together or after work. I know b-days are important but it's not the end of the world if you don't spend every second together on your b-day. It's alright to be upset, but don't be "that girl" yanno the one I mean.
2006-11-07 14:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by Daughtry-luver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No .. don't be hurt.. Just make plans for another day. Money is really important these days.. and we all work hard on making it.
2006-11-07 14:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by tearzofaprincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happy Belated Birthday! does he know it's important to you? my bf also didn't celebrate my past bday due to tight finances... but he promised me a present, though i'm still waiting... birthdays are important to me too--make sure he understands that :)
2006-11-07 14:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he didn't try to request another shift, then i would be disappointed. on the other hand, have you ever thought that maybe he is working that night so he can earn a little extra cash to give you a nicer belated birthday??
2006-11-07 14:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by stitchfan85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the first time that something like this has happened? If not, don't worry about it. But if he does this to you all the time, then it shows that he doesn't care. And you don't need somebody like that.
2006-11-07 14:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money is more important, let him work.
2006-11-07 14:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by m deal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋