Is it wrong to be angry with my parents???

Question

My parents expect so much of me which i think is ridiculous. They have such high expectations that i don't want to disappoint them. It always stresses me out everyday and it makes me depressed. The only place i feel right is at school with my friends because they are always their to help you. But is it wrong to be angry with my parents when they act upon me like this???

Answer 1

omg! i feel the same way

Answer 2

Whatever is going on, I am willing to bet that your parents have your best interests at heart. Their intentions are good when they set their high expectations on you.
I am not saying that you are wrong to be angry at them, but I am saying that it might help if you try to understand that they are trying to help you even if it isn't having the desired effect.

You need to talk to them, & tell them that the pressure that they put on you hurts you instead of helps.
I know many parents fall into an old trap where you (the child) comes home with a good grade, & instead of saying "what a great job you're doing, & keep up the good work", & trusting you to try harder on your own. They say "Wow that's a good mark, now we know you can do better so next time we'll expect an even better grade" Am I right? When they say that you hear YOU AREN'T GOOD ENOUGH. It seems to you to be an endless cycle of you trying harder & harder, & they raise the bar higher & higher.

There is a difference between encouragement, & pushing. If you are feeling pushed then you need to talk to your parents. Try to negotiate a deal with them that if they back off, you will stay focused on your schoolwork, & keep bringing home good grades without their riding you all of the time.

Answer 3

It's not wrong, it's just not useful. Do some things specifically to reduce your stress. Exercise regularly, eat healthy, do a sport, take up meditation. Yoga. Decide whether or not you want to achieve what your parents want you to achieve, or if you're working just to please them. If you don't want the same things as your parents want for you, try to strike a compromise. Listen to why they want the things they want for you (probably so you can have a good life and support yourself and not be on welfare someday), and propose an alternative that takes their concerns into consideration but inserts your own ideas about yourself and your goals. Read Fisher & Urry's GETTING TO YES about negotiation (it's a very quick read). Then don't be afraid to make your own decisions, as long as you make a plan for living with the consequences, even if it means opposing your parents. You will be living your own life someday, and if you do it their way and it doesn't work out, you will forever blame them, when in fact, the blame should be yours because the decision was yours, you just decided to let them push you into doing it their way.

Answer 4

I think it GREAT that your parents expect much from you!
Parents that have high expectations for their children, have children that succeed! You don't know this know, and you may not understand until you are older but, they LOVE YOU! They only want to know that you will be okay in the so near future...

You should be happy that your parents care so much...There are children out there whose parents could give a rats A S S about their children...

To be angry is a natural feeling...it's okay to be angry. Just try your hardest to remember that your parents LOVE YOU!

Stay positive...Stay focused...

Good Luck :)

Answer 5

It is ok to be mad at your parents as long as you don't start to hate them. There is such a thing as healthy anger. You could talk to them later after the anger passes and let them know how you felt. I hope it works out for you.Good luck!

Answer 6

It will be hard, but you need to have a heart to heart talk with them and be strong enough to tell them the truth about what you feel and think. They would not want you to be experiencing depressing thoughts because of their dreams. Communication is the only way. It is normal to feel angry, and it is better to get to the bottom of it to eradicate it.

Answer 7

It's okay to be angry with your parents, all children are at one time or another. Just remember that they want the best for you, know better than anyone else what you are capable of and they want you to reach your dreams. So, be angry for now, but remember that they love you no matter what.

Answer 8

What exactly is it that your parents are expecting you to do? No one can really answer without know what you consider high expectations.

Are they expecting you to go to class regularly? Know who your friends are? Meet your dates or boyfriends before you go out? Have a curfew? Act responsibly when they're not with you?

What?

And what do you consider reasonable?

Answer 9

it's absolutley alright. I know how you fee. It's your life, it it's not your parent's place to push their dreams on you. YOu can be angry, but that most certainly won't solve anything. Try talking to them, though, if your parent's are anything like mine, they may not really care. As long as you don't dissapoint them, and you do what they say, that's good enough for them. And if you do anything less, don't even show your face...

Answer 10

Yes it is OK to be mad @ your parents. If those are not the goals and expectations that you want for yourself don't worry about it. Your parents will get over it. It's your life not theirs.

Answer 11

yes, it's wrong to be angry at your parents for that. they are only doing it so you'll have a better future cuz' you'll always be aiming high. so instead of secretly hating them...talk to them...and if that doesn't work...stick to your friends at school...some times, that's what i do........cuz' my parents don't always understand the pressure...so as long as you have your friends, don't blame your parents. cut them some slack...they want the best for you. :-)