My dad gets mad at me a lot. One day he grabbed my arm & squeezed it really tight, jerked me across the room, & screamed in my ear. I don't want to sound like a baby, but i'm scared, this kind of stuff happends a lot! Like this one day, my sister & I were arguing & my dad took off his belt & told us if we didn't shut up he would use it. And one time my brother gave my sister the finger, my dad told him to put his hand down or he would break his fingers. I told my mom & she said "Now honey, your father is just trying to make you kids act right, he would NEVER actually do anything." & i don't know why, but i'm still scared! Is this abuse?
2006-11-07 13:42:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-11-09 10:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by *t-a-y-a-* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe by the legal-ease the answer would be yes. By real experience - you're dad is just trying to scare you straight. I know it can be uncomfortable when a parent is yelling and saying threatening things but most likely he's just rough around the edges and trying to keep his kids in line. If he was smacking you into a wall then it would be a different story, but threatening to break fingers that are making obscene gestures is for your brother's own good. It doesn't sound like he's actually harming you guys, Tell him he's scaring you and you might get the answer you're looking for.
2006-11-07 13:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by gummybear1772 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
verbal abuse yes. Screaming and threatening to break fingers or use a belt is verbal abuse. Grabbing your arm and jerking you across the room is physical abuse. This behavior if it scares you is abuse. If you do not feel safe in your home talk to a counselor at school. I don't know your age but if you do report this know that you may be removed from the home for your saftey. Lots of parents yell at their kids but this goes a step further.
2006-11-07 13:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do NOT think people should be telling a child to call a child abuse hotline number. To me, it doesn't sound like abuse...but I want to say something that's not popular nowadays, and that is that PARENTS are the ones in charge. It's not the tail wagging the dog. Now to balance that, there are parents that abuse their children, we ALL know that; but I believe in spanking....(notice I said spanking which means on the bottom...and not beating....which is child abuse). Imagine if parents called the children's services and decided we no longer wanted our kids because of their unruly behaviour! While I don't necessarily like the way your dad acted, he didn't do anything you need to report him for, for heaven's sake! I was afraid of my dad when I did wrong too....kept me out of a MOUNTAIN of trouble!
2006-11-07 14:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably isn't abuse unless he's actually done something beyond threats or the equivallent pain of a spanking..a parents job is to teach the child how to behave properly, in the way they think right. Abuse would be breaking limbs, smashing objects against a person, using anything sharp, starving them or something really cruel and unusual..does not count grounding with no dinner though.
2006-11-07 13:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by Boomer 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is what i call discipline. Abuse is when he hits you for no reason. You should be scared of him cos he's your dad... and he's trying to teach you to be a good person. He only does it when you & your siblings get out of hand... don't worry, the day you start acting like adults, your dad will stop all the rigid discipline... trust me, i went through all this too.
2006-11-07 18:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by Rin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is abuse. Your mom is in denial and does not want to confront your dad about the issues. You need to win your mom over to your side first and then find a way to talk the truth to your dad, or get him some help with his mental state.
2006-11-07 13:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he is yelling at you and your siblings for the right reason, but he should cool down a little bit. But if he actually starts to physically hurt you and you siblings and your mom doesn't believe you, then you should notify a school counselor or if it is really serious, then you should go to the police.
2006-11-07 13:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by becs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Verbal abuse is one thing.
Physical abuse is another. Grabbing an arm like he did is definitely physical abuse. If he does it again, leave the house and ask the authorities to come by and talk to your dad.
NO ONE should live in fear.
2006-11-07 13:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is emotional and physical abuse.
Here are some sites:
http://homepages.wmich.edu/~g3charle/
http://www.turn-point.org/childabuse.html
I don't know your situation but it could be that your mother is too scared of your father to agree with you that he's abusing you kids and probibly her as well!
GOOD LUCK!!
Write me if you wish!
2006-11-07 13:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by mistyfan69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get help or you dad should get help b/c it might get worse. Also ask your brother and sister how do they feel about it and if they feel the same way you do ya'll should get help together. But don't let you dad find out that ya'll are trying to get help don't even let your mom know. Good Luck!!!!!!!!
2006-11-07 13:53:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋