i really need some help on my gf?

Question

well i was talkin wit her and i told her that i need to tell her that i used to smoke because i was basically lying to her. to me i think if u dont tell someone that u love that uve done something bad is lying...so neways i told her and she just broke down and just said she had to go...now its been 3 days and shes hasnt talked to me and now i think shes gonna break up with me...i tried to talk to her about it but shes just mad about it...help

Answer 1

Well, I guess this also depends on how long you were dating before you decieded to tell her. And it also depends on if she had asked you this question before. If you had told her you didn't smoke, and now you are telling her you did, she's going to lose a lot of trust in you. Be sure to tell her you are NEVER going to smoke again and it's something that you learned an important lesson about. Her reaction is a very good reason to not pick up a smoke ever again, and you have to let her know that that is what your intentions are. Let her be mad for a bit, and then try to discuss. If she doesn't want to talk, then you have to decide if maybe she's not the right one for you. Good Luck :-)

Answer 2

So she's breaking up with you because you used to smoke or because you didn't tell her? People don't sit down when they first meet and say everything they have done in the past that the other might not like because it really shouldn't matter. She wasn't around then and you don't smoke now so really this shows me she is an over-reacting person and that is what would need to change. Why would something like this matter? Maybe there is something else and she is using this as an excuse.

Answer 3

She's upset 'cos you USED to smoke? To be honest that sounds a bit stupid: if its a thing of the past she should accept it and just get on with life: it makes no difference now. Not like you still smoke and hide it from her is it?!
Contact her and make her understand that everyone has skeletons in their closets, and that this is absolutely nothing to be worried/concerned or upset about.

Answer 4

first of all it is not a very big deal, think about it if she is going to get mad over something you used to do before you guys got together, then what is the future goin to be like? You appologized now the ball is in her court.

Answer 5

Help yourself, *******.

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Yeah, nice answer, moron. Normally your supposed to help someone.

Well...I do agree that if you don't tell her that, you should be a little ashamed. But if she can't take the fact that you lied to her, maybe she shouldn't be your girlfriend. I bet you that she also has things she is hiding from you, she just doesn't have the guts to tell you.

Answer 6

some girlz get turned off by guyz who smoke. you USED to smoke. just call her and say it was in the past and the past is behind you and you changed. good luck!!! and ben g, you cant use language like that on a site with kidz runnin around on it!!! JERK!!!

Answer 7

tell her its a part of your past.. and that she is the the future.. ya know my x bf smoked and i did the same it hurt cuz he lied... but i got over it and i still went out with him after he quit!

Answer 8

try to talk to her and tel her how u feel. and if it still doesnt affect her at all, then you really need to find another girl. she's not worth it! shes overacting!!!!

Answer 9

Write a letter to her and keep writing it until she calls you.

Answer 10

write a poem and explain to her you quit.