i have this boyfriend that doesnt trust me but never gave him a reason not 2 what do i do?

Question

ive never given my boyfriend a reason not 2 trust me but he doesnt, i think its partly cuz of his past relationship with his babys mom... how do i get him to trust me and quit comparing me to her infidelity? i love him and want our relationship 2 work but he cant completely love me until he learns to trust and believe me. i need help

i have never given him a reason not 2 trust me. i know its partly because of his past relationship, but im not her! ive been cheated on before and would never do that 2 him. it hurts 2 bad. ive dropped all my guy friends and do go out anymore just to try and prove my love for him but sometimes wonder if im doing 2 much or not enough?... i really want us to work but dont know what to do to get him to even trust a little... weve been together for almost a year and barely made any progress

Answer 1

You tell him that you're being faithful to him and if he can't trust you there can be no relationship.

Relationships are all about trust.

Answer 2

you have to understand where he's coming from. if I was cheated on I'd have a hard time trusting girls for a while, especially if it involves a bf/gf relationship. However, if it has been going on for a while, you might want to talk to him about it, maybe mention how you feel hurt when you're being compared to someone else. But this is really something that he needs to work out and really try to solve. The only thing is that these types of problems tend to take a while to solve, so just be patient with him when he says things that imply your infidelity, and remind him that you're not like her.

good luck, and hope this helps!

Answer 3

May be are you dead drop Gorgeous?
I tend to think those kind of Ladies can't be trust worthy.
So tell him day after day, sacrifice your time. Get home earlier and do some sweet things to him, and prove him that he is the one on top of your mind.
And like you said his past relation can affect him. So work harder till he understands you.

Answer 4

I have gone through the same thing with my husband. It takes time and patients! When he questions you, do not get defensive, just reassure him of your love. He will be overpossesive for a while because he has a lot to get over, but if you really show him the he is the only one, he will realize that you are not his ex. It is a shame that we sometimes pay for what someone else has done, but if you really love him it is worth it.
Best of luck and God Bless

Answer 5

My wife does not trust ANYONE. I realize this, accept this. This is the way she is. Abusive father and mother. 30 years of marriage together, she still does not trust me. But I realize that she is NOT ME! We are different. We deal with it, and have great days together, and some bad days together. But the great days are more than the bad days.

Answer 6

If he's been hurt in the past then it's gonna take some time. Just make sure you don't cheat on him and it'll happen sooner then later.

Answer 7

Tell him it's over. Let him know that he has trust issues which have nothing to do with you; if this is how it's going to be, then you don't need it.

Answer 8

you need to tell him he cant base his prsent rlationships on his past ones. relationships are based on trust and if you dont have trust you dont have anything. tell him he will be missing out on something great for this reason and if you mean anything to him he will learn to trust you. or mybe it's his self he doesnt trust.

Answer 9

You will have to expose his fears in order to make them disappear. You're right about how important the trust is.

Answer 10

Why do you love some1 who doesn't even respect you enough to trust you? I'd say the guy's a dud!