CHRISTIANS ONLY!!!! This may sound weird at first, but keep on reading please? I really need you help!!!?

Question

I am 14 years old, and am a Christian, maybe not the strongest, but I pray, read my Bibile, and try to do what God tells me.
Now I have been going out with this guy for just over 4 months. He is Catholic, but I am pretty sure that he is a born again Christian. We've been through alot together and are really committed to each other and this realationship.
On November 4th our golden anniversary we kissed. We were at his dad's girlfriend's house about 3 hours away. We were gone all weekend. My parents had told me not to kiss him before we left and I remember telling him that, but he doesn't remember me telling him until after we had already kissed. Once we realized what had happened we were both just crying and praying for a long time.
Now we came home and my parents found out (his parents don't care). They are really upset and we're both really afraid that they are going to make us break-up. They had a really long serious talk with me about what I did to him.

They don't think that He's Christian and therefore I am totally at blame. They don't trust me at all now, and say that I have unleashed a flood-gate of sin upon him now. Since I'm not going to have sex before marriage, and by kissing him I have initiated his sex-drive, his only options are porn, sex, or getting really mad around me and stuff. I don't want this to happen to him since I care so deeply for him. What should I do now? I have only seen him in school for a few hours since then, and my parents still want to have a talk with both of us. We've been praying, but I wanted to get the opinions of some God fearing born again Christians on here. Please help me! I just have no clue what to do!!

He hates his church which scares me, but he loves my church, he just says that his church is too boring.
I still want to kiss him though, and I know that he wants to kiss me.
Yes we are both 14 and besides my dog this was both of ours first kiss.

By Golden Anniversary i mean that the date of our anniversary is how long that we have been going out. That is what is means where I live.

We don't actually go out on dates without a chaperone, well we did once, but my parents actually set that up. Anyway we do mainly just hang out at my house sometimes we go to his house, but for the main its just here on my couch.

Answer 1

Relax. If that's the height of your problems, you've got it on easy street.

Answer 2

Hey, don't be offended or anything, but I really don't think you are old enough yet to even be in a relationship like that yet. I'm 17 and I've never had a boyfriend before, never even hugged a guy in my life, (besides family) and I am perfectly content. I don't exactly consider kissing wrong, though it's best to avoid until marriage because it could lead to some really big trouble, but to the people who say it isn't sin, I want to point out that being in disobedience to your parents was a sin. As for that, if you truly are a believer, I would say you should apologize to your parents, listen when they want to talk more about it, repent and make your relationship with Christ right, and my suggestion, though it could be really hard, is to not see this young man again. The reasons being that we should not be unequally yoked, and you are a bit too young still. Trust God with the outcome, and know that He will forgive you.

Answer 3

So, wait, was it your first kiss? And you guys have been going out for four months, and had never kissed?
I'd be so proud of you if you were my daughter! I got my first kiss when I was FOUR, and sometimes, I wasn't dating a guy for very long before I kissed them (or allowed them to kiss me). Usually it was within a week.
What you did was NOT a sin. If you guys had had sex, yes, it would be. But if it was just a kiss, and not even a very long one, I don't see anything wrong with that.
The ONLY thing you did wrong, was you disobeyed your parents. You shouldn't have done that. But on the other hand, I don't think it's necessary to put such a restriction on you. Perhaps you should talk to them, find out what they expect of you, and tell THEM what YOUR thoughts are on the matter. Also, make sure they know your limitations. Ask them to please trust you. You're becoming an adult quickly. In four years, it's possible that you'll be able to move out (finances permitting) and then they'll have absolutely NO authority over your life. That isn't that far away!
Honestly, I'm impressed. Dating a guy for four months, and just now kissing? That says a lot for him as well, and YES, Catholics are Christians.

Answer 4

You are normal 14 year old girl. You also say you are a Christian, so you should be reading answers by other Christians who are like minded.

I did see some answers from nons that were true tho'
Don't let this normal affection turn into "life altering shame and fear of burning in hell" Not him and NOT YOU.
Remember "Honor thy mother and father..." Your parents may have went overboard with guilt and shame, they are trying to deal with the "WHat if's".
They worry you will go to far sexually, just like ALL PARENTS worry. They worry "what if she is raped , what if she gets pregnant, what will the CHURCH think...."
These are LEGITIMATE concerns BUT they are selfish concerns of ALL parents that have NOTHING to do with religion. Talk with your parents with out YOU getting rude and tell them they can trust you to NOT do more than have a kiss now and again.
The answers about chaperones are great too. Have the boy over to YOUR house if you like to spend time with him.

Answer 5

WOW! I can't believe you both cried and prayed over a simple kiss! I can't even imagine thinking that way.

I'm sure you're probably too far gone to ever listen to me but girl you need to get a grip (your boyfriend also). It was just a kiss. A kiss is a very beautiful thing and you should be grateful for it. That Bible stuff has warped your little mind. It saddens me that your religion made you feel such guild over something so wonderful. I only hope when you get older and more mature you're able to break away from such antiquated ideas.

Answer 6

I do comprehend your moms and dads' obstacle sweetie however they're useless unsuitable after they blame you for "establishing the floodgate" of his ardour by means of kissing him. They ought to no longer be remembering again to their teenagers however the ones hormones are raging and the emotions are already there. Kissing isn't a sin. Passion and wish and usual, God-given emotions. You each are certainly very younger and also you must watch out however you sound such as you do certainly WANT to reside a Christian lifestyles and do the proper factor. That may be very noble of you. Your moms and dads are not able to prevent. They taught you the change among proper and unsuitable they usually raised you in church. It's time to allow move and provide God manipulate. Only God can prevent and also you ought to name on Him individually to provide you force on this trouble together with your boyfriend and within the trouble with you moms and dads. Call on Him to provide you solutions - ask what's the RIGHT factor so that you can do with the connection. It sounds such as you 2 quite love each and every different and that's viable at 14 - I recognize due to the fact it occurred to me at that age. All those years later I might in no way lie and say it wasn't truly. If your boyfriend says he's a born-once more Christian and he lives that lifestyles that's all you must move by means of. The reality that he's unsatisfied within the Catholic church and pleased at your church shows that he's looking for anything greater than the rituals the Catholic church presents. If he was once "misplaced" he would not think the equal. He could be uncomfortable there at your church. I'm praying for either one of you! You sound like this kind of candy and honest woman. I quite desire all of it works out for you! God bless you!

Answer 7

Dear Wake Up Call,
Hi, I am a Mom and have been a Christian for about 15 years. The first thing I would say is you are very young!! For my kids, to avoid temptation and the kind of situation you describe, we have a policy of no dating! Our kids are allowed to hang out in groups of three or more. But to pair off with a guy at your age and give your heart away is something that I feel you are probably not emotionally mature enough to do.

Our advice to our children is to wait to give your heart away to the one God has for you to marry. This sounds old fashioned and is not the "norm" for today.But I feel this is the best way to honor and glorify God.

It is ok for you to have a talk with your folks about it, I hope they will be kind and loving toward you and your boy friend. Parents are admonished to not "exasperate" their children. Children are admonished to honor and obey their parents. Your responsibility is to honor your parents, so by kissing this guy you did dis-honor them. I would ask for their forgiveness about that. And consider waiting to get into dating till you are much older.

Regarding this guy being born again - being pretty sure and knowing full well are two different things.
Here is a link that shows the differences between Catholicism and Christianity:
http://www.reachingcatholics.org/mainpage.html

Answer 8

It's clear that he is also a good Christian, since he prayed about it afterwards and everything. I think the 2 of you can continue your relationship without worrying about what that kiss will do to him or you.

Most girls your age would probably not worry like this over a simple kiss. Your parents ought to consider themselves very blessed to have a daughter as conscientious as you. Remind them that you want to do what is right, and so does your boyfriend.

Answer 9

You are growing up and it scares them. As it does all parents. They only want what is best for you, and at 14, they do not believe that you know what that is. My suggestion is this; slow down. Don't be in any hurry to grow up. Life as an adult is very, very hard. You think right now that when you are grown you will have all the freedom that you want. But, what that freedom means, is standing on your own feet, and having to live with the decisions you make. I would love for my parents to still be able to take care of me. So, please remember that they love you very much, and want the best that life has to offer to you. Good Luck!!!!

Answer 10

Your parents are going to be really strict because they care about you and want to steer as far away as possible from sin. I suppose they figure one little kiss and lead to lots of immoral activity. Which is true. But you need to know that you have your own relationship with God. You need to be ok with what you do and how you feel in regards to your actions and if you're willing to ask for forgiveness if you feel they are truly hurtful to God. Yes your parents may freak! But what's more important is how God feels about what you do. Your parents are trying to lead you to the right path, so sure listen to them, but fear God, not you parents and don't be upset with them cause they care. Let God worry about them. You're alright hon.

Answer 11

Kissing is not bad, but he should have respected your parents wishes. I suggest that you and he and both sets of parents sit down together and really talk this out before it goes any further though. I will be praying for you both.