A lot is going on in my family life that is not positive. I know that together we will make it though. I just keep on finding myself in tears. Today my 4 year old saw me and got very upset by it. I need advice on how not to cry when my innocent little babies are around.
2006-11-07 13:34:06 · 15 answers · asked by kelliemag 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Why hide it?
Just explain that mommy is sad and sometimes we cry when we are sad.
If they ask why you are crying, simply tell them not to worry and that everything will be alright.
It is better to release your hurt thru tears, then to bottle it up inside and release it in anger at them for no reason.
2006-11-07 13:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 year old that is very intuitive,and a 7mth old that is just angelic i too am having familial difficulties, and what i do is everytime i feel like crying and they are around i look into their sweet innocent faces and think about how happy they make me, instead of the pain im feeling right then, and smile. It's not healthy to hold it all in though, cry if you need to but go to your room, go to the bathroom, or take a drive. I say to myself "im hurt but i have to be strong for my kids"
2006-11-07 21:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Stormy Waters 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that might not be totally possible, but you can just try to be strong for them. I feel really bad for you right now. I kinda have the exact same thing going on, so I KNOW how you are feeling. Just try to think positively. I have even turned to reading my bible more and asking God for help because I know we can't do this all alone. I have also started talking to the kids about funny things that have happened over time when they are around. Well, that is what I have done. I hope this helps. Hang in there. Things will get better eventually. God Bless You!
2006-11-07 21:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Shari 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You could try setting goals for the future and focusing on them rather than what's going on in the present, or find yourself a hobby to distract you. I really don't think that there's any magical way to make yourself not cry though. Sometimes, you just have to let it out. Rather than hiding the emotion from your children, you might try to explain to them that you're just sad sometimes, that it's not their fault, and that it's ok to cry.
You might also want to talk to a psychiatrist or your family physician. Maybe he or she could prescribe something to help you get through the rough times and focus on the light at the end of the tunnel.
2006-11-07 21:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by Janie O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should hide it and 4 year old is a lot more perceptive than you think. As a mother you will learn how and what to hide from your children but you will learn that as they get older it will get harder. Don't overload him with a lot of negative things, just that you were unhappy and you felt this was the best way to get it out of you system. Crying isn't always a sign of weakness or pain so try to explain this as well.
2006-11-10 04:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any advice, but you are not alone. It surprised me and completely touched me when my daughter noticed me crying for the first time, and she came over to me and climbed up and gave me a hug! (She's 2 now.) If you need to, occupy them with something and go in another room. I've had things going on lately too, and if I even start thinking about it, I start bawling. It's been nice to just try not to think about it. Just make sure not to ignore your children because of it, and being around them and playing with them may even take your mind off it for awhile and put you in a better mood, at least around them.
2006-11-08 09:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to limit your crying time to 5 minutes a day. You do this in the bathroom before anyone has gotten up to start the day, and it helps if you can cry in the shower. ONce you feel like you have gotten it all out of you, you just tell yourself that you are not allowed to cry anymore today, you have reached your crying limit and now you have to be the strong mommy that your children are depending on. If you feel more stressed later on during the day, try taking your 5 minute shower break when the kids are napping. Set limits for yourself, it will give you something to be proud of at the end of the day after accomplishing it.
2006-11-07 21:44:31 · answer #7 · answered by Carthlete 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Children pick up on things no matter what you do; they are deeply connected to their mothers. So let the lesson they learn be that it is okay to have a wide range of emotions, sometimes very deep ones, but also that we still try to smile and be strong through it all.
Possibly seek help from your family physician who might be able to give you a pill, short term, but try to find your own ways, good ones, proactive ones, through this.
2006-11-07 23:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's good for children to see their parents cry. It helps them know that sometimes it's ok to cry. Just explain to them that you are very sad and go into as much or as little detail as you can that is appropriate for their age. If you can't really go into any detail with them it's ok to explain that it's a "grown up" problem that is making you sad. Make sure you end the conversation with a hug and letting them know that you are ok. Good luck to you!
2006-11-07 23:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong for your children to see different emotions from you. My daughter has seen me happy, sad, angry, etc. Moms can't be robots. When you cry in front of your kids tell them it's because you're feeling sad. Do not say "Grandma makes me cry," or "Daddy makes me cry" or whatever the case may be. Hopefully you can then focus on your kids and stop crying for awhile.
2006-11-07 22:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋