I feel like a failure as a parent. I don't know if I don't push him enough or what but everytime I suggest trying he gets all nervous about it. I would love to take him on bike rides with me, but he doesn't want to learn anything new. The other day we as a family went for a walk in the forest preserve to see the pretty leaves changing color. We brought a football to throw around and he is afraid of the ball! He tried to catch it a few times and gave up after it hit his finger (he was fine). I tell him how great he is and try to encourage him but he acts like such a baby sometimes. I hope I'm not coming off as a bad parent, but I just don't want my son to be afraid to ride a bike or play sports. He gives up so easily. He is in Gymnastics and is great at it. Any advice?
2006-11-07 13:24:14 · 12 answers · asked by ~jenjen~ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't push him to learn to ride a bike. Trust me I was ten not long ago. Oh tell him to keep doing gymnastics because it's loads of fun.
2006-11-07 13:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by dom's sis 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming a doctor has eliminated any medical problems such as inner ear problems causing poor equlibrium, poor eyesight, etc.
He may feel standards for achievement are set too high for him to reach. ...with the one exception being gymnastics. Could it be this is the only activity that he doesn't have to match the accomplishments of a family member so therefore he comes out being better than the rest of the family.
I'd check the competition level among family members. How much stress is put on achievement "like everyone else".
Continue to encourage the gymnastics. If he can go well in that, he is an excellent athlete. The rest will come as he builds confidence in himself and worries less about comparing himself to others in the family.
If you encourage his interests, you are not failing. He doesn't HAVE to share your interests in order for you to be a successful parent. Stick with it!
2006-11-07 21:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by momwithabat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is the same...well worse. He can't come into a room if a scary movie is on. He doesn't want to do anything but playstation. He plays after school sports and between you and me he's the laziest kid on the team. The other kids will run after the soccer ball and he prances. My son is 8 and still has training wheels ok. My brother's son is 2 and totally opposite. I am gonna have to watch for your answers but you are not alone :( I Love him sooooo....
2006-11-07 21:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by I don't get it 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was learning to ride a bike I ended up in a pond! It tooks me a few more years before I gave it another try. I wouldn't worry about it, he'll come around when he's ready..
2006-11-07 21:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by flucogrl101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to give him confidence for him to feel enough to ride the bike?. and he needs to learn your there if he falls and theres always bike riding protection like helmet, elbow pads,knee pads. give him the confidence in order for him to ride the bike. and make him believe in himself. and no you arent a failure as a parent you're just trying to get your child to ride a bike.
2006-11-07 23:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be himself. As long as you introduce new sports to him and as long as he gives it a try - you're not being a bad parent.
Think of alternatives for bikes - a skateboard, a scooter, rollerblades etc that might be more fun for him.
2006-11-08 03:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by PeppermintandPopcorn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to bike classes and he will love the encouragement
2006-11-12 03:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by frankmilano610 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't push him too hard. Some people have certain fears, and maybe when he gets a little older he will get over them. Just try to offer new things to him and see what he is interested in.
2006-11-07 21:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BACK OFF BUDDY. He does a sport-- he may act like a baby but he's his own man. Do oyu Like gymnastics... dyou like high diving, or freakin balance beam??? Are you comfortable doing contortion??
2006-11-13 03:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by JODY b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg kick his asse and show him to how to live a life. teach him pain and getting hurt is part of learning and life. sounds like you spoil him too much. right now you are a failure grow up and learn to not baby him so much
2006-11-07 21:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋