Even if she's very attractive and has alot of other things going for her in life?
Why or why not?
2006-11-07 13:14:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For one thing, you don't see women alone for long, in the movies, or sometimes in real life. Modelling is important learning.
Second, biologically, I don't know of any primate species in which females are on their own without the protection of a mate. Maybe it is odd in a way we can't describe.
But, we have a lot more males to choose from, and a lot more paths for self-discovery and for success!
So as humans, we women are actually better off rejecting others' evaluations of us as less than attractive because we "can't" prove it by getting a man.
We are better off taking care of ourselves, valuing ourselves, and thus being better able to attract the right kind of man who will respect us as we respect ourselves.
We are better off being able to ward off most men from a distance who for whatever reason do not suit us, rahter than wasting so much time because we just don't know how to be alone.
At 27, I discovered that. At 29, I found a man and a relationship that I wouldn't trade for all the world, even if it ended tomorrow. I won't take him for granted, but I doubt that will happen.
To all women who feel pressured, good luck, stand strong, and believe in yourself!
2006-11-07 13:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people put way too much importance in other people's business. And, for some reason there are just a lot of people that think everyone has to have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you are happy, and have a lot of other things going on that keep you busy and content, then good for you. Don't worry about what anyone else has to say.
It is great to hear that there is a 23 year old woman who is independent enough to not feel that she has to have a man, and can make it on her own.
I'm sure that when the time is right, you will be happy in a relationship, but until then enjoy the time and freedom!
2006-11-07 21:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by star22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. I'm in the same boat except I'm 22. I think it's because either she's the shy quiet type or she hasn't meant the right guy yet. The media gives off this whole persona of how if you aren't in a relationship you are branded as being a loser, so a ton of teenagers and aduts feel they are because of it. Don't let it get to you and don't worry about what others think. The only opinion of people that matter should either be those you are care about and your own.
2006-11-07 21:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by just another girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason a seemingly successful, attractive 27 year old woman is not married. I get the same questions. I am not in a relationship, nor am I married. People think that just because all of my friends are either married, engaged, or seriously dating, that I have to do the same. I am just tired of dating. There is nothing wrong with having time to yourself to get to know yourself and your likes and dislikes. Whatever you do, don't let them pressure you into dating if you don't want to.
2006-11-07 21:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a boyfriend and I'm 30. But a guy I REALLY like just told me that he wants to ask me out for coffee.
There's no rule on when or where you should have a boyfriend. Its not weird in anyway for a 23 year old chick not to have one.
Who cares, you'll get one in your own sweet time:)
2006-11-07 21:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's weird. I'm 23, and have a boyfriend, but I know plenty of people my age that are single. It's not like we're old spinsters if we don't have boyfriends at 23! Sometimes being single isn't so bad.
2006-11-07 21:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally i think that society feels that by a certain age, we should already either with someone or engaged. some just dont realize that some people have other things in their life that are just more important to deal with than a relationship...i.e: i have a cousin that spent most of her life going to college before she even got serious with a relationship. her career was first in her life. she finally got married and now has 2 boys and very happy! i dont think your weird!
2006-11-07 21:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 23 year old and I don't have a boyfriend. And I think so? I dont care what people think of me.
2006-11-07 22:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by the_scrapbook_factory 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess they just assume that someone so great should be taken. Don't worry I know what you are going through, im 24 no boyfriend, good education, career, attractive etc...Keep holding out for the right one! who cares if other people think it weird!
2006-11-07 21:18:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Because they find it impossible that a GORGEOUS girl would be SINGLE. It's just an assumption. Besides, at 23 people are usually at their stage in their life looking for a mate. They are usually in a relationship looking to get married.
2006-11-07 21:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋