i just seen a question that my mother ask so hear the real story?

Question

yes my husband is 10 years younger then me we do have 7 kids my mother doesn,t like him because of the age thing we love each other and he is good to me and the kids he can,t stand my mother she is to noise and she should talk my dad is 20 years older then her so should i let her tell us what to do or keep her away please help me

Answer 1

You have two options. One use the honor system and tell her how you feel. You must be brave for this. The main thing is that you do what is best for your marriage. I would recommend staying away. i mean stilll have a relationship, call one a month or something. Let her know you are there for her, but keep a distance.

Answer 2

Some things are critical here and unknown, so bear with me... Firstly, Who's life is it? Who has to get up to 7 kids and a husband every morning? Who is putting so much weight on how someone else feels or what they think? You have a man you love, whom is good to you and your troop, and you see a future there. Mom may speak from her heartaches and mistakes but the line must be drawn regarding her being nosy or interfering. Speak with yor husband(and children who are mature enough) about the situation cuz' EVERYONE is experiencing this whether you realize/accept it and get a concensus for YOUR families wants/needs and if so, talk to you Mom- I don't mean ambush her cuz' she will take a defense and only complicate the matter- Be upfront and tell her you want her to come over and discuss something of a sensitive nature with her as a family so it can be put behind you all and you can all take a step forward. If she feels you ARE ganging up on her or have brainwashed the kids, well, then tell her you feel sorry she feels as she does and, as a family, you've all chosen to move forward without her although she is still very much a part of the family and always will be. Good luck with your journey but remember, after all, it's YOUR journey and isn't up to anyone elses critique! In layman's terms... Do what makes your heart sing and your household work! Been there!

Answer 3

I can sympathise my wife is 6 years older than me and my mother never liked her either. Unfortunetly I now only talk to her on the phone every couple of mounths and only see her a couple of times a year .She dose not know her grandchildren and seems to have very little intrest in my family.I do love my mom and we do stay in contact but given the choice between my mom or my family I chose my family my wife and kids are my life.Besides I learned long ago that if you live your life trying to make everyone else happy you end up miserable.Its your life and its short. Do what makes you happy and forget about everyone else.

Answer 4

You have a right to be happy. If your mother can't be in your life and accept the fact that your husband is going to be in your life, also, then maybe you should take a break from your mother. If your husband is good to you and your children, and you're are happy, that should be enough for your mother to be happy for you. You have to make the decision yourself. I hope you continue to be happy and your mother decides to accept that fact. Good luck.

Answer 5

If your husband loves you and your kids,
and you love him,
He's good to you,that's all that matters .
Sounds better than a lot of realtionships on here.
Loves out weighs age everytime. You're a grown up,
don't let anyone turn you away from the person you love,
the one who loves you.

Answer 6

no you shouldnt let her tell you what to do, its your life you have to live it, tell her to butt out, but do it in a nice way, she is your mother, and to keep the friction down between you and your husband, you should keep what ever it is she is telling you ( about him ) to your self, running and telling him every bad thing she says is probably the reason they dont get along. Unless of coarse she says it to his face. But yes, she needs to butt out, and she's not gonna do it until you tell her to.

Answer 7

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