My husband is in a serious deep depression. He is pushing away everyone who loves him. He even wants a separation.
His mother died several months ago and he is realizing that his other family members aren't there for him. Always cancelling seeing him or cancelling visits (they live out of town).
Why is he ending a relationship with the only people who are there for him and care for him?
2006-11-07 12:55:21 · 6 answers · asked by Sandra C 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I do very much. I don't talk to friends, go around family and very seldom talk to my mom on the phone (if I don't call for a day, she calls..so I do talk to her). Try to keep your marriage together. It sounds like you need to try to convince to go see a therapist to deal with this. It's important for you to ALWAYS be there even if he pushes you away. Some times when I am depressed I tell everyone to leave me alone and they do..but that's not what I wanted.then when they leave me alone, I think they don't care.
As far as his mother dieing, he is probably still grieving and missing her..that may be why he is depressed. The other family members may not want to be around him..maybe they are afraid or they are still grieving too.
It has NOTHING to do with you. It's a thing depressed people experience. If you can't get him to go see somebody maybe you should (or go together). they can tell you what you can do to help him.
2006-11-07 13:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by chilover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, how unfair of the family to not let him have his own grief.....when my mother passed away 10 years ago, my brother who had never been depressed in his life, reached such a point of grief and depression that he couldn't even make a daily decision....it took him, with antidepressants and sleep meds, a year to grieve Mom's death. I am bi-polar and when I am in a cycle of depression, my family I push away as far as I can....I just want to isolate for a while....they do understand and care for me very much. I hope for both your sakes that you all can get some help and he, in particular, seek a physician.
2006-11-07 21:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cassie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are going through. Your husband is going through the grief process like I did when my folks died 6 years ago. It took me professional counseling to make it easier for me to deal with. However, when it comes to pushing loved ones away, I recently have done it. I suffer with bipolar disorder and I have been invited to attend my niece's wedding this weekend and I simply refused to go, and I am not even going to celebrate the holidays with them this year because I feel that they do not understand that I have mental illness.
2006-11-08 19:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by kevin g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done that several times. The reason I found I was doing was that I felt that in my emotional state I was being a burden to my loved ones. I, in hurting myself, was hurting them as well and I felt ashamed. I also had a fear that they would place harsh judgements on me for my problems, and pushed them away before they had a chance to do that.
When you don't love yourself, it is almost impossible to imagine that anyone else would ever care about you.
2006-11-07 22:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Courtlyn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disassociation seems to be the easiest thing for him right now. That way he do sent have to deal with anyone. I would bet he trys to sleep alot. Another way to separate himself from the world. He needs professional help. Best wishes
2006-11-07 21:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by us citizen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with depression tend to withdraw from those closest to them. They are struggling with life and isolate themselves, which can further compounds the depression. Your husband needs help, but only he can get it. Be supportive, be aware, take care of yourself too and good luck.
2006-11-07 21:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by CH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋