I would feel like I'd want him up at the top, not seeing whats happening down there.
2006-11-07 12:39:58 · 22 answers · asked by radiancia 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I felt the same way it's a normal feeling because after seeing how unattractive it is down there in those birthing videos the only thought in your mind is how could he ever find me attractive down there again right? I felt the same way but when the time comes and you are in labor and the baby is coming you really don't care who's down there Brad Pitt could be down there and you wouldn't bat and eyelash. You are so overhelmed with worry, fatigue, and excitement that really will be the last thing on your mind. If he wants to be down there let him because you get the joy of carrying the baby and being the baby's life support let him watch the miracle of a life time.
Good luck
2006-11-07 12:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was THERE. Right there holding my leg 3 times. He got to see it up close and personal and I really didn't care who saw what at the time. With the pain and focus on bringing a child into the world it doesn't really matter. It was an experience that brought us closer together as a couple and I think created a closer bond between father and son.
2006-11-07 12:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by ginyamarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband had better be there, otherwise he will not be fathering any more children. I figure, he has seen all that mess before, that is how I got pregnant in the first place. I am not so much upset by everyone being down there as I am about potentially pooping on the table. I don't want anyone to see that! I guess they have all seen it before though.
2006-11-07 12:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can see down there without feeling like he's going to faint then fine. I'm 22 and I had my baby 3 months ago. Having your man there with you, sharing that with you it's great, amazing, cause even when you're so busy gving birth you know he's there to support you both. It's a great thing to have them there. If he wants to go then be happy cause you will live together the greatest thing.
2006-11-07 14:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the father present at both of my births. With my daughter, we weren't together any loner, but honestly I wanted him to see what I was going through, and wanted him to know that she was more than just a baby, that she was a person whom I had to work hard to bring into this world. With my son, Frank was by my side, holding my hand, and supporting me in everyway possible. Yea, he did look even though he didn't want to, and ok, he was a little freaked out by it...but he told me that night that I was the strongest, most beautiful person he had ever met, and that he had more respect for me now than for anyone he had ever known. That was worth it.
2006-11-07 12:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Playful_Pandora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally, I needed him there for extra support. And you can ask him to stand anywhere you would like. I personally had my hubby in a headlock during the whole pushing thing with my second baby, so he couldn't go anywhere even if he wanted to. If you aren't with the babies father anymore then maybe it would be uncomfortable to have him in the room. I don't know your situation tho. Just remember that it's your choice as to who you would like with you. You shouldn't feel bad about it if you have to ask someone to leave the room.
2006-11-07 13:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by Trina419 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You bet 'ya. My husband was there for the birth of both of my children (by C-Section). I don't know how I would have made it through either one of them without him.
It is important for the father to be present...not only for you as moral support...but to know what you are going through to get this baby into the world.
2006-11-07 12:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by Susanne W. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was comfortable with him being there...I needed him there actually to remind me to breathe!
He held my leg, did everything the midwife asked of him, even though he was ill with a raging migraine and was a patient in another part of the hospital, and watched everything that happened, but kindly waited until about a week afterwards to tell me I did a poo on the delivery table thingy...how nice of him!
2006-11-07 12:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck, my husband HELPED! He helped the nurse push my legs back and even cut the cord. All 3 times. He wanted to be a part of it, and I was okay with that. And his seeing what happened down there did not affect our sex life at all.
2006-11-07 12:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband stayed by my head the entire time I pushed, but he could still see everything that was going on. I think at the point when you are pushing something out of you all you can think of is the little life that's now in your hands and you kind of lose all your dignity and shyness about your body.
2006-11-07 12:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Stacy D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋