My Friend Is Dating The Same Guy For The 3RD Time!?

Question

Okay my friend is cute and stuff, but she is dating the same dude again! This is the third time and I'm worried for her since last time she fell in love with him, and when he broke-up with her the second time she cried forever. She got so attached to him, not to mention, the kissed, hugged, and always were together. I'm afraid my friend is going to be hurt again, what should I tell her to make her realize this?

Answer 1

I had a friend who had 2 guys she was back n forth between (Never 2 at a time) since around grade 8 or so (she was still with one of them up to last year). What your friend needs to do is get out and meet a new and better guy. She HAS to let him go. She HAS to not go into a rebound relationship right after she gets dumped. He may be familliar to her but he could be using her as a way to get through "lonley" times. Your her frined, you gotta help her with this. Take her out places to meet new people, introduce her to some friends of yours that she doesn't know! It's a vicious cycle, and it just as bad the 3rd 4th or 5th time.

Answer 2

just tell her how u feel about her boyfriend. be honest. after telling her, make sure that u say that ur just worried about her and that if she still wants to date this guy, ur going to support her.

i think she already knows that there's a real chance that she might get hurt. she myt even be telling herself the same thing that u told us, but love just makes us do crazy things sometimes. but what gets us through the bad times are our friends. and as her friend, u should be there for her and support her in her time of confusion.

Answer 3

OH LORDIE! I have this problem like all the damn time. Except my friend doesn't ever date the guy, just gets her heart broken by him.

People tell me I shouldn't care about it, it's not my <3 that's going to get broken, but I care. I mean come on! She's my friend.

I think you should talk to her about this dude, find out WHY she likes him so effin` much. Just kinda warn her....not threatening ["You're gonna get kicked to the curb AGAIN!"] just more of like....make sure she knows what the consequences of dating this guy are.

Answer 4

You can't tell her anything. She has to fall flat on her face again She hasn't learned the lesson yet,, it might take her a few times, but you will never talk her out of dating him, so don't waste your breath.
Some people are destined to repeat their behaviour over and over again and never catch on.. they are the ones who can't separate reality from fantasy... A leopard doesn't change it's spots and she probably will get bitten again,,,and again until she has had enough... She is emotionally overwhelmed with this guy and you will probably have to catch her again when she falls.....

Answer 5

let her find out for herself. it is hard to stay away from someone when you think you are in love. she will just have to see for herself that the relationship is no good and he just keeps hurting her but when things do go wrong she has you to talk too

Answer 6

if she hasn't learned by now then there really isnt any point in telling her AGAIN, tha he will hurt her, now if he doesnt then good for him however if he does then good for her and maybe then she will learn not to do it again. Still be her friend she is gonna need you if he does.

Answer 7

sounds like difficulty merely waiting to take place. (tried that - it would not artwork!!) yet hey, it would for them. i'm happy on your difficulty, yet there is truthfully not plenty you're able to do. that is something they're going to do no matter in case you're nervous or not. i assume all you're able to do is help them emotionally and surprisingly incourage risk-free intercourse.

Answer 8

She'll learn eventually. Start stocking up on the Kleenexes now!

Answer 9

Tell her that being a floor mat is not attractive to men.

Answer 10

That's not good,talk to her.