My husband has nightmares of me cheeting on him and catching me or me confessing on cheeting on him.
2006-11-07 12:11:27 · 22 answers · asked by angelica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It could be due to a past experience he had with someone he had a deep relationship with. He may have had someone cheat on him that he really cared abotu and it hurt him. His dreams may be a subcontious fear of the bad situation happening again, his fear of loosing you over the same thing. You have to be honest and loyal, and he has to understand that you will be honest and loyal. This man does love you, don't break his heart.
Talk to him about it. Maybe that kind of situation happened in the past.
2006-11-07 12:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the reason, the fact that's recurring makes me a little nervous for you two. If it's a one-time deal, then there is a natural curiosity and insecurity being explored in a dream, and hopefully resolved.
There can be many reasons, including past experience, insecurity about his ability to keep you, being unsure about how you now feel about him, a change in one or both partners' libido, and the list goes on.
Remember, no one can be 100% inside of someone else's head, and this could be the only way his mind knows how to express trust issues, or the separation between you that leaves room for error in the relationship.
If you have a few open-ended conversations that are not totally focused on the dreams and all that, you might start to see patterns. The truth might just wind itself out, and you can work on it from there. If that doesn't work, you may need a third party to help get at the hidden messages, and you'll probably be doing the same basic thing in therapy.
Good luck to both of you!
2006-11-07 12:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are your subconscious showing thru. If you have a fear of something...Your subconscious turns it into a dream. Sometimes it even magnifies it. For some people, it's that you have those little signs that say this is happening but you don't put it together until after you are asleep. So, you have a dream that puts all those little things together. It's just like the song says (for good dreams) A dream is a wish your heart makes. Same thing with nightmares. It is a subconscious realization of your fears.
2006-11-07 12:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Amelia Rose's Mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes our nightmares are about our worse fears. Most guys have commitment issues and it is difficult for them to let go of their independence. One must die as a single person and be reborn as a couple. Once he embraces this role, his identity is lost and reshaped. He actually can find out that he loves someone more than life itself and she has become his reason for living. Once he comes to that realization, then his worst fear is that she could leave him. It could mean that some how he feels that maybe he is not good enough for you and that you deserve better. Doubts and insecurities creep in and feed upon each other and can manifest itself in dreams.
2006-11-07 12:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a dream is just a dream. Don't listen to the morons who are saying he's paranoid or is jealous or is cheating and is afraid to get caught. Amazing how people will talk out of their asses like that. It's just a dream.
2006-11-08 20:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY problem is that I keep dreaming that I'm having wedding disasters and I'm getting married in a school. (I'm an education major, and I've got to student teach next semester. I'm getting married next summer. It's all related and crazy, but at least I understand the dream.)
If your husband keeps having these dreams, it could be possible that he thinks you're hiding something from him--OR he could be hiding something from you and feels guilty about it. You confessing in his dreams could be his subconscious reminding him of his guilt. I'd ask him if there's something going on with him that he hasn't told you about...
2006-11-08 13:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our unconscious being is seen through dreams. Inside our unconscious mind lies our deep fears, wants and desires: our wishful thinking. That is but normal, all you have to do is give him assurance that you love him, that you will never cheat on him and that he will be your first and last love. Making him conscious that your love is something to hold on to... that's a why of erasing that thought under his unconscious mind.
Good day. Happy life.
2006-11-07 12:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Manuel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a dream that my husband was cheating on me so woke his a ss up and asked him he was like no baby go back to sleep It was just a bad dream.
2006-11-07 12:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams are just dreams. It's not real. Maybe your husband has a hunch on you cheating on him. Just reassure him that you will never do such a thing. Let him know that you love him and that you will never leave him.
2006-11-07 12:13:47 · answer #9 · answered by Bobcat9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because he's insecure and he's afraid he's gonna lose you. Maybe you're giving him reason to feel this way. Talk to him and see what you're doing that's making him feel this or what's going on in general.
2006-11-07 12:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by Polina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋