I met my girlfriend on the internet. I packed up and moved 2000 miles to be with her. We've been together for one and 1/2 years. Firstly, we are an interacial couple- she's indian, I'm white. Currently, I am 25, and going to college. In the last year and a half, we have talked more about the status of our relationship than actually having a relationship. She's always getting upset, re-evaluating who said what, I leave, she will follow me. When I get mad and want to be left alone, she stands there for hours on end to try and "resolve" whatever issue she has created about our relationship. Hours of fighting, we end arguing more about technicalities than issues. We say we love each other, have co-signed for large student loans with each other, have pre-maturley planned out our kids future names (if we were to have any). She thinks I am going to leave her and accuses me all the time. However, BECAUSE she ALWAYS talks about how I'm going to leave her, that makes me want to leave.
2006-11-07 12:03:24 · 12 answers · asked by Sweet Revelation 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, if shes Native Indian(American Indian) thats the way we are raised. You have a problem, you deal with it. There is no me time to think about what has happened and what was said, its dealt with right there. But if she is constantly accusing you of leaving then tell her it bothers you. Let her know that if you planned on doing that you wouldn't have moved so far to be with her, and you wouldnt still be there. Just talk to her, and dont be afraid to tell her to listen. Some people just need to know when to stop talking and listen, make sure you both know that time.
2006-11-07 12:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in the driver seats. Sounds like she is a submissive lady who is loyal to you.
I think the problem is she need assurance. If you do like her and want to be with her. Give her a bit assurance. It does not mean you have to propose or something like that. But send her a small gift now and then. Buy her a flower here a then . ( not necessary a fancy bouquet ).
You will be amazed that a bunch of small assurance things will add up and she will be thinking about something else than doubting you.
How about giving her a hug every other day before you leave. A good bear hug.
These are just something small and not costly.
Let see how it will plays out before you jump to conclusion.
2006-11-07 12:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be rude Buddy, but I think she has a fear of abandonment, and that is concerning. Stay by her side if she is willing to get help. Suggest that she get some kind of a mental evalution and or counselling. If she refuses to get treatment and keeps acting like that then tell her you will leave if she doesn't deal with her issue.
2006-11-07 12:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...wow, that's quite the situation. I mean, people disagree and argue--it's human nature. I think you should tell her exactly how you feel and be honest about the stuff that you really don't like and how it scares you off. If this continues and she is just impossible to get along with, get out of it before you get married and have kids...the longer you wait the harder it will be, man.
2006-11-07 12:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Tgrman80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty normal to me!!!
She seems a little insecure... If you want to be with her you got to be honest and tell her everything you said on here. She obviously wants to be with you so don't worry about all of the little fights just enjoy each other.
2006-11-07 12:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by JaNa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for your life (and your sanity). She sounds like a control freak. If she has so little self-confidence, your life is going to be a living hell. Cut your losses. Get FAR away and worry about the bills later!!!
2006-11-07 12:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FWB relationships are often for the time while the two aspects are single. so as quickly as one part unearths a woman/guy that they like for sure they are going to bypass with it and that i've got confidence thats while the FWB courting is over.
2016-10-03 09:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by murchison 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to say exactly what u just wrote down to her. Tell her extactly what you feel. i no its hard and sometimes your partner wont shut up long enuf for you to say everythin you need to; but try askin her to just stop and listen why you say everything u need too. If u dont do it soon, u will prob end up fighting so much u wont make it to those kids you where planning for.
2006-11-07 12:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Abbey R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best place to go would definitely be counseling.
2006-11-07 12:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by chikoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound good. id end it now or youll just be sorry later down the road
2006-11-07 12:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by kris10dice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋