should i tell my mom that i don't wanna live with my realtive because he is a perverted pedophile who makes friends with my lady friends because he is sick?
should i tell her that she is stupid for beleiving my brothers lies and bulls-hit. and that she is wrong for expecting everything from me while she is letting him get away with whatever he wants?
should i tell her that i don't wanna be around them because they are lazy and irresponsible? and that i don't wanna be around that.
is it wrong to want to be all that you can be? is it wrong to want these things? is it wrong to want to break out of your situation and improve it? is it wrong to not wanna settle like they do?
2006-11-07 11:57:50 · 14 answers · asked by Dudikof 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Is it wrong that you use the term "is it wrong" so often?
How old are you? ... move out and support yourself ... no hassles from anyone then
2006-11-07 12:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should and need to tell. If your mom is a moral and responsible person, she will not tolerate what is going on, and she will find a way to deal with that kind of horrible thinking and acting of the relative. Do not tell her she is stupid as this will alienate her from your good cause, but rather try to show her or tell her the truth in a calm and sensible way. Tell her she may be experiencing something that is hiding the truth from her consciousness or awareness, and that way she shouldn't be afraid to take a step back and look at how she is viewing life situations. Give her a chance to come out of her old way of seeing things in a gentle way. You can explain to her that you do not want to be around them because the attributes they express are unlike yours and it becomes increasingly difficult to be with people who are drifting in a different direction in life. It is right to want to and to change for good and break out of a bad situation and to improve it. That is a big part of life, is to change and grow into good things and part with the bad.
2006-11-07 20:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of questions here. First of all if you are living with a pedophile, and not just a player, then it must be reported for the good of all children everywhere.
But - my dear, if you tell her all that you listed here -it will remove the weight of the first issue - in other words with all these complaints - even if valid, she will think that you are just trying to make trouble.
Narrow your complaints to the first - get that taken care of then move to the others. And no you are not wrong to want to improve your situation and I applaud you for it. Take it one small step at a time. Always be sure your own behavior is exemplary and above reproach. then take a look at others and do not let yourself be lowered to their level. Rise above it - it can be done.
2006-11-07 20:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look maybe you should get some therapy, if your relative is able to make friend as you call it with your friends something is wrong not only with him, but you are having some problems too, YOu need NEW friends. If your mom knows about it, why keep putting yourself through it? Love your mom and pray, get some help with the problem and maybe your will see another way to deal with it. NO disrespect intended---
2006-11-07 20:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by SWRK student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need some help with this one go to a counsellor and let them help you handle it. If things are unsafe for you to be with this man they will step in with the appropriate people. Also it would better to get help so its not done in an attacking and nasty mode where things maybe said that you will regret on both sides. You said before about your mother not believing you how do you think she will react if you go in on attack mode saying all this stuff...yeah its hard but to accept help is more gutsier than you think.
2006-11-07 20:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong to want to change YOUR life for the better and get away from people who bring you down,,no matter if its your family or not. Get away from all of them and do what you have to do for yourself and to better yourself. You are the stronger person by breaking free from a crazy cycle.
2006-11-07 20:02:36 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely tell her. Especially about the pedophile. That's just sick.
And there is never anything wrong with trying to improve yourself.
2006-11-07 19:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by dil7827 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pedophile: Yes, tell her right away.
Brother: Um, probably, but, not in that manner, be nice about it, but expose his lies to her.
'Them'... uh, who's 'them'
Well, it's not okay to run away from home if that's what you mean, but, it's totally normal to want more than you have.
2006-11-07 20:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by Sylvie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL YOUR MOM EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL!! NO IT IS NOT WRONG TO WANT TO BE EVERYTHING YOU CAN BE. YOU ARE THE ONLY PERSON IN CONTROL OF YOUR OWN DESTINY! IF YOU KNOW YOUR GOALS...........GO FOR IT AND DON'T LET ANYBODY DRAG YOU DOWN. DON'T SETTLE FOR NOTHING LESS THAN WHAT YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE. BOTTOM LINE......IT'S YOUR LIFE. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-11-07 20:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by claude l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you still go to school? if so go to your school's counselor. your problems are way to big to settle on the internet! seek real help! and NO it's never wrong to be all you can be. just don't only think about it, DO IT!
2006-11-07 21:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by gabriela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋