It's me again......?

Question

i just put a ? about my son who will be 2 in February. I just want to make sure there is nothing wrong with him.i know I should take him to the doctor, but my doctor always tells me he's just being a boy and I feel stupid. So just let me tell you about him and you tell me .
When he was born he failed his hearing test in 1 ear. At the three month re check he failed both ears. He eventually passed both ears. He now has a language problem, not talking. I mean I've heard him say words once or twice but he usually just babbles with odd sound s or calls everything dadada. He didn't start walking until he was 1, my first started 9 months. When he did start walking he would litterally run straight into a door, wall,person,didn't matter. Then When ever he was mad he would bang his head on to anything hard and leave huge knots. Now he's finally stopped that and started whining ALL the time. He will purposely do something bad while smilin at you. tried time out, ignoring him, whats next? HELP

Answer 1

You should definitely rule out an underlying medical problem with your 2 year old. I don't blame you for being concerned, and the original diagnosis of a hearing problem would make me concerned, too.

However, a few things you mention are perfectly normal:
1) Kids walk at different ages - some walk younger, but one is a very normal age to start.
2) Looking at you & smiling while doing something "bad" is so, so, so normal too. They're just checking to see if they'll get the same reaction every time they do something. Ignore it, but don't be worried.
3) Don't worry about the talking either. My son really didn't talk until 15 months or so and took several more weeks to get really going. He quickly caught up!
4) My son also banged his head. He didn't do it hard enought to hurt himself, but I've heard of other kids that did. Yes, it CAN be indicitive of problems, but it can also be normal.

This and your other question indicate that your son is whining for attention and that you've got multiple kids. Maybe he needs some good one-on-one time with you. This doesn't mean you have to give in to tantrums, just make sure there is time in your day to sit down and spend a few minutes focused on him. Don't compare him to your other kids, that will only increase his whining.

Answer 2

I would be a little concerned about his lack of speech. Developmentally he should be speaking in groups of words by now. I'd go to see a different Dr. and ask to have him evaluated for language. It's relatively common for kids to have ear infections which can cause them to fail a hearing test. Once the infection clears up, their hearing returns to normal. The problem is, that when a very young child has an ear infection for a significant time, it can interfere with language development.

As for the other things, learning to walk at 1 is not late. Developmentally that's the average age. My first son walked a week before his first birthday, and my second walked at 9 1/2 months. I've heard lots of stories about my brother running into people, walls, etc. He turned out fine. Banging his head on the floor is about learning about cause and effect and gives him something he is in control of. Although I'd still discuss it with a reputable Dr. because it could be a concern if he does it for long periods of time, or continually hurts himself.
Purposely doing something bad while smiling at you, is developmentally normal (but annoying). It shows he's learning right from wrong, but he's testing his limits. Welcome to the terrible twos! There are different techniques to Time Out, but you have to be consistent and stick to it for quite some time for it to work, expecially if you have a stubborn child. It's really difficult to stay so consistent when they "push your buttons" but that's the only thing that will work in the long run. I know this doesn't sound too helpful, but it sounds like you just have a strong willed child. He'll probably drive you crazy and then turn into a wonderful leader.

Answer 3

He sounds exactly like my son :) Your first was prob a girl right? I always compare my son to my first (which was a girl) and they are completely different. He is acting completely normal for 21 month old toddler boy! I've been told it doesn't get any easier which isn't what I wanted to hear and prob you either. If you are truly concerned get a second opinion.. but people who say those are not normal behaviors obviously don't have sons cuz everyone I talk to says my son who is acting just like yours is acting normal for his age and gender. But like I said if you are really concerned get a second opinion. That way you'll feel comforted and put your concerns to rest. Take Care.

Take him to an ears nose and throat doc. Maybe he cant speak clearly because he doesn't hear clearly and if he is walking the same it could be an equilibrium problem which has to do with his ears.

Dont worry about Autism. From what you said he doesnt seem to have any of the systems. http://www.myomancy.com/2006/07/signs_of_autism.html

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Yep everyone who posted the don't be concerned i believe is right. My little cousin (he's the first baby for my aunt) didn't talk till he was 3 1/2, but her second child started to talk at 2 b/c her brother was. Also my little brother had trouble talking too. He barely talked at all and would hit his head b/c he had inner ear canal prob. They took him to an ENT (ear nose throat doctor) who gave him tubes. He still said my name like "para" for a while (he couldn't say anything starting with s etc.) but he's okay now. Hope this helps!!! Good luck.

Answer 6

If you are not satisfied with the answers the doctor is giving you maybe you need to find a new doctor. I know that is easier said than done but if you really feel in your heart that your son has a problem the earlier he is diagnosed the more there is that can be done to help him. I hope you're wrong & he is fine (and I know you do too) but in the meantime good luck!

Answer 7

i have a 19 mos old. he'll be 2 in march. he does not say anything either.(im started to get worried too)he started walking when he was 9 mos. but yes he ran into anything. sometimes still he'll sit against the wall and bang hes head and laugh. and when he runs or sometimes walk he'll run into stuff cause he never watches where he's going. and YES i dont what it is but my son is becomming a whinny baby too. idk. was your first a girl, if so it could just be a boy thing. i wouldnt be too worried though.

Answer 8

your son is just growing normally, when children first start walking they stumble all of the time, and when your child get angry and hits his head on things, that is how he gets his frustration out. Right now your kid is going through his terrible two's and will probably not come out of it untill about 3 and a half or four years old

Answer 9

You are the mother and mothers know when something is wrong with their children. If you do not like what the dr is saying, move on to another one. I would get a second opinion anyway, since this can be serious.

Answer 10

I suggest finding another doctor...those are NOT common behaviors for a child that age. Sounds like he is not taking your concerns seriously.