My mother married my father when she was 17 and gave birth to me, she never really loved me, only my father did. But my father died when I was 4, ever since then all my mother has done was scold me and starve me. I have a disease that makes me a little more fat than girls my age, and she's trying to make me look like a model like she does. when I can't she won't listen to me and she says I'm just lazy and a good for nothing weight on her shoulders! What do I do! I can't bear it anymore!
2006-11-07 11:27:15 · 13 answers · asked by GoreJess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to tell your mother that you are proud to be who you are and you will not listen to what she says about you! Email me I can help you through your hard times, I'll be here for you.
2006-11-08 10:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by mysteriousmystery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your pain, I to have a mother that had me when she was 17 and no dad. Mine constantly criticized me and made me feel stupid and worthless, It will take some therapy later. All you can do for right now is stand up to her and tell her if she has nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all, explain that you are not talking back but do not appreciate her or respect her feelings on the topic. You sound intelligent and warm hearted don't lose that or let her take that away from you. Do we really need to see anymore Nicole Ritchies around? Look at all the good things about your self. Are you a good friend, a good listener, patient? those are the important things to be and to aspire to being not a size 0.
2006-11-07 11:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 08:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know your mother doesn't love you? Mothers almost always love their children... unfortunately, some aren't very good at showing it. If your mother is trying to make you thin, I'm sure her intentions are good... however it's not okay for her to berate you in the process.
If your situation is truly that bad... there are places that can help you. How old are you? Emancipation might be an option (it's basically a divorce from your parent(s) and gives to the rights of an adult basically). There are teen shelters and support groups.
If you want to email me I'd be happy to talk about it more. Let me know what area you're in and I'll see what I can find. :) Hope it helps. I'm sorry you're in such a bad situation. :(
2006-11-07 11:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by kittikatti69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in school I suggest you talk to your school counselor. I know you are going through a lot and you have my sympathy. My best friend had the same problem (she is 45) and it has affected her a in many different ways. Try to get some therapy, you can sometimes call around to churches in your ares and find out if they have any affordable or free counseling. Best of luck and know you are loved.
2006-11-07 11:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you need to contact the counselors at your school, and tell them what's happening at home. They can help you find a good mediator and other officials to help your situation. Nobody should be treated like that. And I hope you know, that your mother probably does love you very much, even though she shows you different. She may have a mental issue that causes her to be angry all the time. But please, talk to the officials at your school. You should be encouraged, and loved and provided for. Take care. Good luck.
2006-11-07 11:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a trusted adult. I'm really sorry that this is happening to you. Your mom just may be taking her frustrations out on you because of your dad's death or maybe she has issues that you don't know about. Talk to a counselor at school. They can get you the help you really need. Hang in there...your mother does love you. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-11-07 11:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey i am so sorry that is happing to you. I know about abusive mothers, i had one but i don't want you to struggle like i have to. So here is a hotline Nineline 1-800-999-9999 or a web site to check out www.covenanthouse.org/nineline/index.html
Good luck honey.
2006-11-07 11:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by crazyhagan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hunny i am sorry. You can report her to chlid and youth services, for straving you and verbally abusing you. You need to call the police and tell them what is going on and they can handle your mother and place you with a family member that will be better for you.
2006-11-07 11:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by kellymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should talk 2 a counsler at school.It really works !!!Don't be afraid!!!U'll be o.k.Trust me I have more problems!!!Hope it works out 4 u!!!Good Luck!!
2006-11-07 11:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by Chain Hain Low 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋