She doesn't do anything but sit on her butt. She yells at the boy all the time. he's only two. don't my husband and I deserve privacy? I can't seem to put my son out. But if he wants to see his son, shoud she have to come and stay with us. this drives my husband and I crazy.
2006-11-07 11:26:49 · 26 answers · asked by Cathy H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Whoah!!!! Time for a reality check girl,....Tell your son that you have no objection to him have his son and mom stay occasionally ,BUT the lazy slob needs to pull her weight.
You and hubby are entitled to privacy and peace in your own house, I think she is using your hospitality to the max and needs to be told a few hard truths along with your son...good luck
2006-11-07 11:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by roslyn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a real mess to be honest with you. I dont think a 23 year old son with a kid should be living at home. He has adult responsibilities and he should be living as an adult not as a child which he automatically does by living under your roof. Ideally, he should move out, that way you and your husband get some privacy and your son should see his son on his own terms and he needs to work that out with his (ex?) partner. Your son needs to start acting like an accountable man and you need to stop making excuses for him. Sorry, but its true.
2006-11-07 11:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband have raised your kids and it's time for you two to enjoy life. Your son is an adult now and needs to take on responsibilty. If you're having a problem with the whole situation, tell him. The situation won't be resolved until you do something about it. Unfortunately, it isn't going to be easy. But it's something you have to do. Be honest and let him know you love him very much but something has to change. You deserve the privacy and the time to relax with your husband.
Good Luck!
2006-11-07 11:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he can see HIS son without the mother being there. he has a right to spend time with HIS son and only HIS son. If you and your son feel that the mother of HIS son isn't a good mom and is yelling at a two year old all the time, you can fight for custody of him.
2006-11-07 11:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by kellymarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you're enabling this to happen. He's 23 years old, it's time for him to grow up and be responsible. If he's old enough to have a baby, he's old enough to take care of him. If you don't set a timeframe for him to get a good enough job to support himself and his son, he will be there until you decide to put him out. Sit down with him and tell him he has a month, two months, whatever time you decide to get it together or he's going to have to find another place to live. You'll be doing him a favor, as hard as it may seem.
2006-11-07 11:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by UNI Panther 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is your son still living with you to begin with ? if he is an adult he should have a job and be out on his own. I'm afraid that if you tell him that his son can come there but not his girlfriend, that's going to create a problem. so, i think what you need to do is give your son a dead line to have a place of his own. you said that you want privacy but only when it comes to his girlfriend is the way it sounds. cut the apron strings, he should be out on his own. then you will have all the privacy you want. your issue here is not privacy, its the girlfriend. he goes, she will go. that's all there is to it.
2006-11-07 12:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best thing we ever did was to draw a line at our front door. Remember, your house, your rules. Second thing is that you and your husband have to be together on this. No good parent, bad parent thing.
My feeling is that he is now playing in the big boy world. Time to stop sponging off mommie and daddy. Throw the bum out of the house and tell his sorry butt that this is the consequence of his irresponsible actions. He, the baby factory he inseminated and the bastard child can go live somewhere else.
Or, he can obey your rules. Pretty simple choice.
2006-11-07 11:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by Al Buterol 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-15 12:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your home. You make the rules. If it were me, I'd tell the son the baby can visit, but the Mom can't stayover. If he doesn't like it, he can move out or go stay with them. If she doesn't like it, your son may have to sue for visitation.
2006-11-07 11:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by jenjen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why r u even condoning this?
you are not doing anything good for your son if you let him live with you and have his baby mamma drama come to your house and sit on her butt all day.
u said "i can't seem to put my son out.
yes u can. tell him to pack his bags and find a job. tell him u can help him for a week at a motel (find a cheap one) and after that he's on his own.
u don't have to cut ties with him but he has to be outta there pronto.
teach him to grow up.
2006-11-07 11:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by chapped lips 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋