i want a child but my boyfriend doesnt what should i do?

Question

i want a child despretly and i know that my boyfriend and i could handle it but he doesnt want to what can i do tomaybe change his mind

Answer 1

Wait until you marry and then try conviencing him.

Answer 2

First of all, getting pregnant anyways is not a good idea. He has just as much right to not have children as you do. Second, depending on how old he is might have something to do with it. Some men, won't have interest until their older. My brother spent his whole life saying he didn't want to get married, up until he met his girlfriend and married her. And he loves being married, he just couldn't imagine it until the right girl came around. If he's around other men with children, he might change his mind. At the same time life is short, if you are that passionate about it and he is so unpassionate about it...maybe you should consider moving on.

Answer 3

it really depends on how old you are, and how long you have been with your boyfriend. If your younger, like 18-20, you should probably wait, for the better. If you've been together for only a couple years, wait it out. I know it's tempting and all, but think of how much strain a baby could put on your relationship if you are truly not prepared. Besides, i really think you should wait until you are married. But that's just my opinion. I have been with my boyfriend for three years, and I know I want a baby, but it's just not the best thing for right now. I also know we are getting married. I'd just wait it out until he's ready.

Answer 4

I am not sure how old you are but your best bet is to wait till your married and have a career. That way you are financially stable. Kids arnt cheap and this could be the reason why he doesn't want a baby right now i had a baby when i was 19 and it is so hard. I am now trying to get a degree it is hard going to college and taking care of a baby and working. And daycare isn't cheap. please think about this and do what is right

Answer 5

Do not try to change his mind and don't try to trap him into having a child, if he doesn't want one now then ask him later on, how he feels about having a child. You don't want to end up with a child and no man, because he wasn't ready for that responsibility. Talk with him and give him time. And if he don't change his mind and you want children, maybe you need to look at your relationship a little further.

Answer 6

hi
well first of all tell him about the good things about
babies try to make life easy for him .
tell him the he doesnt even have to spend money on
the baby cuz the government give u 400-500$ every month
and also tell him how nice a baby is and how nice it is to play
with babies. Try to make him understand that it is not him that is gettin pregnant and have to go to the doctor every 2 week s
to check on the baby .

another opinion is how about u wait maybe he will change his mind and tell u that he wants a baby .

Answer 7

Offer him what he wants in order to get what you want. Sure, the idea of kids is a little far fetched for this sucker. But maybe not so far fetched as a promise of a freak in the bedroom and the occasional threesome. You will have him fertilizing eggs quicker than you know what to do with yourself with a little bit of freakiness on your part.

Answer 8

Either wait until he's ready, or think about looking for a man who wants to be a dad. If you trap your current boyfriend into getting you pregnant, he may become a great dad, but it could destroy your relationship forever, even set you up to be a single mom.

Answer 9

I would first like to know your age .. that makes a huge difference. i also question why you are so desperate to have a child. are you having problems in your relationship? sometimes, women ( of all ages) feel if they have a child they somehow will have a hold on the man. this is a misconception.. if a man isnt ready he isnt ready... you will just end up a single parent. im not saying this is your situation ... if for some reason it is, you need some counseling... please respond if you can .. thanks :)

Answer 10

first ya got to think how old you are if you are below 18 then i understand why he said no. because maybe he thinks that you and him are just a bit too young.plus if you dont know about his religion maybe he doesnt think its right to have a baby before your married so if he really loves you then mabe youll be getting a ring soon!! Hopefully this info helped you out a bit.

Answer 11

Children are not toys and are not fun things to carry around like an accessory. Your boyfriend is smart. Grow up, get married and then think about it.