Different religions?

Question

My boyfriend is seventh day adventist...and im catholic/christian...i dont pratice catholic beliefs, b/c ive always really stuck to christian...my bf says he wont marry me unless i convert....and i wont...many of the things that they believe i just dont..its sad that he doesnt respect me enough to let me believe wat i do...but im not sure of what to do.....ive tired tellin him what i do believe...but hes selfish and hard headed help

Answer 1

As hard as it is to do, find someone else. If it's this hard now, wait until you have kids with him :( Custody over their minds would be a Real Serious Issue.

Answer 2

your future doesnt look to promising. Im a pretty strong believer you need to be on the same spiritual page. too many child rearing issues later on, and resentment.
my suggestion is look a little deeper into why they believe what they believe attend the Bible study and pray about it. Then you will know, where God wants you, and not where you feel you should be, you might be suprised.
The SDA is a credible Christian Religion, I would never consider it a cult. Different, but not a cult.
Being hardheaded when it comes to Faith and beliefs is a redeeming quality.
You might have a truly good man, let God be the judge for you.

Answer 3

Michelle,

The answer here is simple, but difficult. This is what is called an irreconcilable difference. You should split with this guy and go find one of the hundreds of others you can have a happy compatible life with.

Some beliefs and habits are deal breakers and this is one of them. If you are so fundamentally opposed on this issue then you really don't belong together. Carry this one step further. If he could let you go your way and he his on this, what will happen if you have a family. Where will the children go?

This has big mess written all over it. Now is the time to call it quits and move on. I know the pull will be difficult for other reasons, including sexual attraction, but it really is what you should do.

Answer 4

If you guys can go with out trying to implement each other's belief on each other, then stay together (the Bible says that you can be that way), but if he can't put aside the differences, and love you for you, then let him go(that's being unequally yoked, because you don't believe and you won't practice and the Bible speaks against that type of division)...tell him that if he really wanted to draw you into what he believes, then he would do it with love and kindness, and maybe one day...if you feel like it, then you'll convert. The Bible also talks about that...if he's that stubborn then let him go.

Answer 5

They must believe in the trinity.accepted Jesus as savior.if he doesnt that may be a problem as for you dont bow down to statues ok just alittle help.And how do you convert into that.Becareful with some of their doctrines and if he wont marry you than maybe there is someone better always trust in the Lord,pray.

Answer 6

You want to marry someone you describe as selfish and hard headed?? Yes, you need help.
I know a lot about the sda faith, and you are correct, its full of falsehoods in many peoples all, they do have much truth, but it is a legalistic relgion, and therefore not Christain as far as I am concerned. Its a cult.
God tells us we are not to be unequally yoked, meaning we must be on the same page together, especially spiritually. If you marry outside your faith, God will not bless your marriage. That is Biblical. and boy who would want that? Not only that, you say you are catholic, but dont practice it. wasssup with this? Either you believe it or you dont. You cant go to heaven on a belief, you go because of your obedience to God, and on your love and your faith. Instead of worrying about marrying anyone now, if you were my child, I would say to start praying and studying and find out just what you believe and begin to practice it. No other way to heaven, but thru Jesus. Also no pope can give absollution. The only one that can offer total forgiveness, absolution, is GOD. Its in the Bible all over the place. I studied my way out of many varous relgions and I found truth. Now, I am a full gospel Christian, believing in all of the Bible and knowng I must live my believs and obey God. How else will He know I love Him. He says IF YOU LOVE ME< YOU WILL FOLLOW MY COMMANDs> HUH????? B ut, I know if ;you seek truth, you will find it. then, let God lead you to the right man, and certainly one that is not hard headed and selfish. another question. if you have kids, is this who you would want for your kids? Would they want a selfish father? Much to think on and pray about before marriage. I pray you victory.

Answer 7

I think you might be forced to choose between him and your beliefs in this instance.

I once dated a Christian man who, after four dates, told me to convert to Christianity or he couldn't see me anymore. I could not, in good conscience, convert to a religion I didn't sincerely agree with or believe in. (Which is ironic since he tried four times to get into my bed.) So I broke up with him and I've never regretted that decision. It also showed me that his intolerance toward my beliefs was not something I wanted in a partner anyway.

So you have to ask yourself the question - is he worth converting for? It sounds to me like it's all or nothing with this guy. His way or the highway. My advice - there are other fish in the sea.

Answer 8

I'm not sure but I think 7th Day Adventists believe that you HAVE to worship on Saturday and not Sunday but that is not what the early Christian church did. They worshiped on the 1st day of the week which is our Sunday. Also, SDA's also believe that the church has replaced the Jews but that is not true either. God made a covenant with the Jewish nation and he never breaks his covenant. He has a special plan for the Jews which will take place in the tribulation and millennium. I think I would stay in the Catholic church for now (and I'm not Catholic but a born-again Christian). SDA's are really works oriented and we are saved by grace, not works.

Answer 9

I think you can work this out as fellow Christians, though it may take mediation with your family and pastoral counsel. I encourage you to pray and consult together, one on one or as a group, to find an answer that works for you.

A personal friend of mine with a prayer ministry had bad fights with her husband over whether to close his business on Saturdays to recognize the Jewish Sabbath. And they have worked it out where they both accept Christ but attend the Jewish synagogue. So each couple must find their own path.

If he is selfish he may need to learn some charity which is the meaning behind true Christianity. That may be why he is yoked with you, to help him receive this lesson. Please refer to Matthew 18:15-20 and James 5:16. Please ask both your families and pastors/priests to consult and pray and support you.

You will find the right answer and gain for having overcome this conflict. God bless you and keep you. Best wishes, Emily

Answer 10

There are reasons why religion should be kept personal and out of things like government, work and relationships. Seems that your fiance is unable to grasp the concept of respect and personal choice.

How badly do you want to marry and are you prepared to fight this fight for the rest of your life ?

Answer 11

What kind of help do you want? A miracle? No can do, sister.

He's made his position clear and you have been unable to change his mind. You can't change your views, either. And if neither of you can change, then you can't get married.

If marriage is what you want, then you two have to end it while you're both still young enough to find other mates. I'm sorry, but there's no way around this.

Good luck to both of you.