Ok so i have a friend and hes 14 and he lost his virginity over the weekend to a girl or girls that he hardly knows. So as i was talking to him over IM last week he told me that his mom was going away for 3 days and letting him stay home and he planned on having 3 of his friends over along with 4 girls. I dont even think that he knew them very well but he just told me that they were "hott" and that he and his friends were going to "do it" with them. I kept telling him that he shouldn't do it but he did anyway.So basically my question is what should i do now?or what should he do? im just hoping that he didnt get anyone pregnant.
2006-11-07 11:14:42 · 12 answers · asked by Questions ^_^ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If this helps we both live in different states and the girls he and his friends slept with are 14 too..
Im 13 btw
2006-11-07 11:22:15 · update #1
and no i havent met him in real life
2006-11-07 11:26:49 · update #2
He's gonna wanna do what he wants to do anyway. There is nothing you can do but give him advice, but only if he ask for it. Cuz if you sound like you're nagging, you're gonna sound like his mom. But it's good that you are a good friend to put him in his place. So my advice would be: If he comes to you telling you what "his plans" are, just be like, "Can I say something?" And tell him how you feel about the situation. And see how he takes it.
2006-11-07 11:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you probably don't want to rat him out, but you need to tell his mom or some adult figure. First off 14 is way to young to have sex trust me i know. He may think that it is cool and the in thing, but if he didn't use a condom,and even if he does he can still get a girl pregnant. When i was 14, i had sex because i thought the guy was hott and that it was in thing to do, i am now 19 years old and have a 5 year old daugther. I mean she is wonderful and i wouldn't trade her in for the world, but if i had to do it all over again, i wouldn't have lost my virginity that night. Plus he has to be careful because he is under 16 which if the person that he is sleeping with is over 16 he and them can get into serious trouble. If he or you would like to talk to me my email is angelsbaby4ever2003@yahoo.com and my im is kellymarieliz.
Good luck
2006-11-07 19:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by kellymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha He is a 14 year old boy, what do you expect? Tell him it makes you feel, and that you are concerned for him. And he better be careful about that because it really does only take one time to get a girl pregnant! I just turned 16, and two weeks later got pregnant with my son! Tell him to be smarter then everyone else! But is it that you are a little upset because you like this boy?
2006-11-07 19:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Whisper J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look you realy need to stop him because i lost my virginity when i was 14 and i got in with people that i realy did not know and i made a bad chose and now i am at home with a baby and no friends because the poeple i thought i new that got me in that place is no were i just dont wont him to make the wrong chose and end up with a kid safe sex or not i had safe sex and still have a kid
2006-11-07 19:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That young lad is breaking the law real big time. I hope you have not met him in person. Drop him as an IM friend. Find someone who respects his friends as that lad certainly does not.
2006-11-07 19:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by Christopher P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pregnancy would be bad for him right now but a disease would be worse even fatal. think about it he is having sex with girls that have had sex with other guys that have had sex with other people. All you can do is talk to him as a friend but he will make his own decisions. you seem sensible don't get caught up with his "lifestyle" good luck
2006-11-07 19:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he got them pregnant! he could get girls pregnant since they're 9 or 10.
2006-11-07 19:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by mistery person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun but u'll just have to wait it out, let him know u don;t approve and go on about ur business. If he gets someone pregnant he will have to learn from that, no offense but ure better off just learning from his mistakes
2006-11-07 19:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you like him and hes already done what he's done so you should just worry about yourself and not go rushing into things because people around you have. Be smart.
2006-11-07 19:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by devinkoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his mom. It may seem like a snitch thing to do, but you might be saving him from a lot of trouble.
2006-11-07 19:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by CJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋