How do I know Women like me for me and not my bank account (my lifestyle)?

Question

I don't want to bring a woman home because I don't want my home to show how I actually live from the get-go. Everything is done for me. How long can I date without showing my money: Two Years without bringing someone home? I am used to my driver driving me and haven't cooked for years. I want to date someone that has real personality and most of my life has been spent on travel but I don't have true love. Someone that would date me even if they thought I was poor with no education is the type of person I want.

Answer 1

pay attention to what a woman says to you. that will give her away. you should bring her home earlier than later cos it wont be so painful to leave her if she turns out to be money hungry.

Answer 2

If a woman truly likes you for who you then it shouldn't matter what your bank account is like. You should try what we here in H Town call the gold diggers special. Go on a get to know you walk in the park and have lunch at McDonalds or Burger King, Pizza Hut or whatever all the while stating what you would like to accomplish as though you haven't already done so. Find out what her goals are and what she is looking for in a man, but while you do pay close attention to her reactions during the entire date if she is really into you both of you will admit that you enjoyed each other and the next step will be just the simple phone calls and a occasional just because card. Most men mess up from the start because they shower women with gifts and they get accustomed to that when all you have to do is keep it simple and just be there for her. Go out for ice cream, have a cup of coffee, catch a movie. When the time is right to reveal the real you, you will know. Just leave money out of the conversation,
and stay grounded.

Answer 3

Dude... do you seriously have a DRIVER? Wow.

okay... if this isn't a joke and you're honestly THAT well off... I can definitely see why this is a problem for you.

I'd say to go on quite a few dates before taking a woman home. What about renting an apartment? It would be a nice place to "get away" and you could take dates there without seeming rich. Of course after a few months or so, you should have a feel as to whether there is a real connection and be able to reveal your true digs.

Answer 4

Well shoot this is way easy!

Go rent a normal looking home, furnished at all possible (remember lots of book, this way if she asks you how did you learn this or that you have books there and can point to a book and say I read it). Even a apartment. If cooking comes up reach for the many restaurant take out menu's you have already put there (or the peeps you paid to furnish the place with used furniture).
Do not have your "driver" drive the two of you anywhere. Go buy a modest vehicle that you like to drive. I new a fella who had a very prosperous business and he drove a old station wagon from the 60's - 70's and looked like crap (it ran really well though!).
Never brag about your money, or buy expensive dinners nor gifts.

If you travel for business, this is all it is and if asked about the places you have been say the company pays for everything (meaning I do not have the money to go to these places on my own).

See easy!

Answer 5

This is a tough one. Look for a girl who is caring, compassionate and generous. A girl who is constantly putting other people down over their looks, clothes etc is a no no. Watch how she is with people in general : Is she snobbish and stand-offish or kind and pleasant to all around her. Not taking her home for two years would seem a little strange. Couldn't you hire a small apartment and sparsely furnish it and then take her there till you have finally sussed her out? After you are officially dating, ask her directly how would she feel if you were poor and had just a mediocre job. If it genuinely doesn't bother her then you are on to a winner. But like I said, this is a tough one, good luck and I really hope you find the right girl.

Answer 6

Square with yourself my friend. It is ok to be troubled and worried when it comes to money and women. What I recomment is something like a dating program called "Its just lunch" where you get set up on blind dates with women whom match your personality interest. All that they know is that are meeting someone for lunch at a nice restaurant that has the same values you do. If it does not work out, what the hell, it was just lunch. If you like the girl, get her contact info and go from there. The bottom line is that if you have feelings for her and she honestly feels the same for you and is willing to love you regardless of your financial situation then she deserves to know.
Bleieve me my friend, the LAST thing you want to do is date a woman for two years and then tell her you are sitting on a gold mine. Some women might see that as intentional deception.It is better off to play it by ear, but if you are getting serious I wouldn't wait any longer than a couple of months at the most. You will know by then whether or not she digs you for you.

Answer 7

Do you need Scotty to beam you back up to the Starship? Do you already have a pre-nuptial agreement in your wall safe and you've never even been in a long term relationship? Man, relax a little. Stay away from bleached blondes and don't try to find companionship in a night club....believe it or not, (non-shallow) women have emotional wants that take precedence over material goods. You might wow us with your fancy house or hot tub, but if you can't hold an intelligent conversation or show sensitivity where it's due, you'll not maintain the relationship.

Answer 8

Ther are a couple ways that you can find the answer. You must go out to dates and eat. Calmly and affectionately, give her the choice to pay for the meal. It may seem untraditional, but there is a chance that the answer may be achieved. Another way, just ask her. The truth is important. Tell her that you want a relationship for different qualities other than sustinence. Tell her, that if she wants money, she may have to reconsider.

Answer 9

Give the woman vague generalizations about what you do and how much you make, don't lie just don't be too specific. Let her think your middle class or doing okay but not rich. This is the only way you will meet someone who is truly interested in you.

DRIVE YOUR OWN CAR! A normal car, nothing too fancy. Once she passes the test, you can be more specific.

Answer 10

how's about bringing the woman back to one of your friend's homes to pass off as ur own? or, if u have a rental home, then use that. when it gets down to it tho, u will sooner or later have to fess up, and the woman u r w/may not like it that u deceived her in the 1st place. i can see ur concern tho, because there are a lotta golddiggers out there. think if u look closely in your heart, u will know for sure whether someone has pure intentions.

Answer 11

Oh dear! If youre that well off then why not invest in an apartment that you stay in periodically when you date for example. Just say that you have another place but you prefer this one or that you'll show it to them maybe at a later time. Dont spend a lot of money on them. I know a lot of nice people with money who dont flaunt it with fancy attire, cars etc.
Real down to earth people and their money stays in their pockets and is willed to charity.
Good peeps, uno? Good luck dear! Peace.