i dated this guy named john paul(JP for short)for 7 months.i see him constantly during and after school.he wasnt my first love but i definatley still love him.other guys have asked me out but im afraid to,i dont wanna fall...again.JP promised me he'd never leave me,and he did-for the stupidest reason.i feel so lost without him.so hopeless.when he left me he took a big chunk of me,and as much as that hole needs to be fiiled i dont want it to be right now.im afraid of moving on and forgetting about all the memories we shared together.im so confused and lonely....please help me.
alisha
2006-11-07 11:07:55 · 15 answers · asked by foblovr351 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
one small step at a time
see a counselor . . .
2006-11-07 11:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always remember our first love in a big way. It sets the bar for everyone else that we meet, which is good.
Moving on isn't easy either. The best way to do this is to dig deep within yourself and search for what you really want when it comes to relationships. Then , join a group that shares that those same issues with you. You will meet the next person in a hurry!
Keep positive too, that will help you alot!
2006-11-07 11:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me when I was in high school. Just hold your head up high, and act like you are not bothered it. Soon enough, you will realize that there are sooooo many other great guys out there....unfortunately, you will always wonder about him, and think about what he's doing, but the feelings will subside as time goes on. Just hang in there, and maybe don't date anyone else for a little while...give yourself time to heal,and get to know YOU again. Good luck.
2006-11-07 11:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No easy way. Just takes one step at a time. After a perios of time, when you look back JP will seem far far away.
Take the time to finish some projects you've been putting off. Pick up a hobby, remember to finish them all.
The pain will go away, that's a promise.
2006-11-07 11:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Father died over a year ago and I still do that.I helped care for him and He died at home.Having to watch someone you love die is so traumatic and because of his suffering In the end I constantly prayed God would take him to end it. I loved him immensely.Your probly have the same feelings I do like when his show comes on tv I tear up or there have been times at the restaurant I work at I will see a cute little old man that reminds me of him and feel the tears come.You just take it day by day and tell yourself to feel what you feel but keep strong because they wouldnt want you to be greif stricken constantly.I still feel its like a stab to my heart everyday but last year when it first happened I would just sob and now its a few tears,so I can deal with it.Really this just happened for you and there are times in the beginning when I would think oh wow I need to tell Dad about this,but he wasnt there to tell I would remember.You need to give yourself time.No you cant download when ever but you can go to the restroom and keep it private so the heartless jerks dont question your professionalism. People who were not close to their parents dont understand that a mother is like a right arm and when you lose her its hard to function.I think your normal but the world is not .its pretty cold and they dont have much patience for greif. Sometime we just live for awhile feeling numb and pain but its what you have to do to survive and it does get better with time but you will always greive.God bless you through this hard time.
2016-05-22 08:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is soooo hard when someone you love leaves you but I don't think it is fatal! You will,in time, get better and eventually you will know when you are ready to move on. Your heart needs healing and time and talking to someone will speed up the process(and it is a process) You'll get thru it and one day you will wonder why you let him do this to you. This happens to EVERYONE who loves. We ALL believe that our love is the only and last love. There is a Mr. Wonderful just for you and when you meet him you will KNOW it! I wish you well!
2006-11-07 11:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Bijous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can write down all your thoughts and frustrations on paper and burn it when you are done so no one else can read them.
Also right down pros and cons to being with JP, if the cons are more then the pros then you will know not being with him is the right decision
2006-11-07 11:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by CookFrNW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow girl, chill. You have to fall to peices to get over him!!! Can you say REBOUND BOY?!?! Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do..just be honest. Let the new guy know it is only for fun, trust me...it helps!!! Cry yourself to sleep for about a week, get drunk, get laid, and get over the loser!!
2006-11-07 11:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by starbrite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand your problem... I'm only in 5Th grade but I'm smart... I understand what you mean by losing a piece of yourself, but you gotta be strong! Hang in there Alisha!
2006-11-07 11:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by Alexandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try, if you can Alisha to just have some close friends around you. You are not ready for another relationship, so don't rush it.
2006-11-07 11:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by eddie_schaap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it must feel...just look at it in the sense that there is sumthing else better for you. so just go with that...your young...so there will be plenty of boys out there....i know its hard to see it this way....but you have to see it as god has sumthing else in store for you.
2006-11-07 11:13:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋