How to tactfully ask for money instead of gifts?

Question

Getting married next summer. We already have an established household and need nothing. How do we ask our guests to give money instead of presents?

Answer 1

Tell them, you want to purchase something for all of their money-gifts, it's OK nowadays. I have it done myself and people actually where glad, not to buy some idiotic gift nobody needs.
Go for it, and good Luck to the both of you.

Answer 2

This question is asked constantly. And, the answer will never change. There is no way to do it. The only tactiful option would be to ask close family members (especially the family gossip) to spread the word. You still need to register someplace as I will not give cash. I don't think that weddings should be fundraisers.

You could also do something off the wall. Do a honeymoon registry. I'd have no problem buying a couples massage or a hotel night for a couple. Or, since you have everything, give back to someone else. There are charity registry sites where you can choose a charity (or several) to receive your "gifts". I know people who have done this and it works well. Make sure to have several different types of charities. While I wouldn't donate to March of Dimes, I'd donate to Habitat for Humanity or Best Friends Animal Sanctuary. Also make sure you send out thank you cards.

Hope the wedding goes well! : )

Answer 3

This cannot be done tactfully and should not be done at all. It would be very rude. If you really don't need any things, then just say you don't want any gifts at all! People you invite to a wedding don't "have" to bring gifts, but most do because they want to help out the newly married couple. It's not their fault you need nothing for your house.

Answer 4

absolutely the tackiest ingredient a bride and groom can do is to go back out and ask people to grant them funds. do not attempt this. You register at a save so as that people can see what that is that you want/favor and likewise with a purpose to make sure if somebody else has already picked and offered an merchandise so that you do not wind up with 5 toasters. in case you've already got the products you want tell your friends to make a donation to a charity or perhaps you may ask for some favor list products. no count number what you've or do not ought to ask for funds is mistaken and purely ordinary uncool. you're attentive to the social shown truth that your travellers are lower than no legal responsibility to grant you something in any respect. after all they're your travellers. people convey delivers becasue they love you and favor to do something valuable for you. you mustn't flow about awaiting something except their solid desires.

Answer 5

Any reference to gifts on or with your wedding invitation is considered to be poor ettiquette. This is because a wedding invitation is NOT meant to carry the obligation of a gift, and mentioning gifts, cash, registeries,etc implies that you are expecting a gift.

So, how do you get the word out? The most common way is simple to let all your friends and family know, and ask them to pass on the word. Another option that is becoming more popular is putting it online. Most couples today have some sort of wedding website or blog that they use to let their guests know what's happening. You can include the link on your invitations - and have gift information on the website.

You can also include this information in shower invitations - a shower invitation does carry the expectation of a gift, so that is not considered to be rude.

You can use one or all of those methods to effectively get the word out without being rude:)

Answer 6

It your wedding do as you want this is really the best i could find for money that was cretive and not tacky about asking for a monetary gift.I also want to incclude that word of mouth and a wedding website is actually the best way to spread the message.

Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don't need a wedding list of dishes
We have the kettles, the toasters, the linen
All we lack now is a house to put it in.
If you would like to give us a gift,
We know of something that would give us a lift
Please donate your love to our own little 'Well'
How grateful we'd be, we just cannot tell.

To save you from looking, shopping, or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you don’t mind trying.
Come to our wedding to wish us both well,
And make some use of our little wishing well.
Your wishes will be used to find a home of our own
Which we will have you to thank, when our family has grown
Now that we have saved you all of the fuss,
We hope that you will come and celebrate with us!

Answer 7

You don't. Any comments on the invitation about what to give, where you are registered, or any other mention of that type of thing are just plain wrong. Your guests attendance is the only gift you require, and if they do choose to give you a gift you graciously accept. If someone asks what you want, then you can tell them, but otherwise don't mention it.

Answer 8

Hmmm, for my husband and I, this came easy because we were having our reception 2 states away from where we lived. So saying we don't want to carry a lot back on the plane naturally led to lots of money and gift cards.

But your best bet is going to be word-of-mouth. Tell your parents and closest friends that you know won't be offended by such a request. So when people ask them what you need, they can tell them. Really all the hard work of saying "we'd rather have cash" was almost entirely done by our mothers :)

Congrats on the wedding!

Answer 9

Unfortunately, it's never in good taste to ask for money. Get the word out to family that this is your preference. This way anyone who asks them they can tell you'd prefer money. Keep in mind that some guests do not feel comfortable giving money but will want to give you something.

Do you have any hobbies that you'd like to register for? Such as picnicking, camping, gardening, wines, etc. This way those guests who want to give you something can make it something you will actually use.

Answer 10

There's really no tactful way to ask for money; it's in questionable taste.

You could mention it to a few friends and hope they would spread the word.

Answer 11

Depends on your personality me and my husband made a joke of it. We put a note in the invitations saying after paying for the wedding we’re broke so they should contribute to the Bella and Shuo fund. Cash is preferred, cheques are welcome (wedding cake will be sent out on clearance), credit card transaction will incur a 2.5% surcharge.