how can u tell when a man is cheating?

Question

wat are some of the main signs?

Answer 1

Needing to go out for items more often. Taking more showers, making sure he looks nice. Maybe changing clothes. Watch money. Watch for odors, perfumes. Not wanting sex. Sometimes, the wife, or girlfriend, will get extra nice attention too out of guilt when he is around. Just a few thoughts.

Answer 2

getting a lot of mysterious calls/messages, getting upset if you go near their things cause they have something to hide, taking more care of their appearance than usual and working back going out a lot.

Basically you really cant tell but some women get a gut instinct about this. My advice would be if you are very suspicious and not feeling right about the relationship to gently approach the subject. Its better to know where you stand than to keep wondering and feeling upset and insecure.

I would ask Him if hes happy in the relationship and give him a chance to confess if hes doing anything. If you really feel uneasy tell him you don't feel right about things and ask if theres anything you don't know about.

Answer 3

he acts differently
is indifferent to ur feelings
is not caring or affectionate like he used to be
ignores you suddenly
doesn't make time for u like he did before
doesn't try to work things out with you
comes home later and later, skips dinner time w/ you, etc
his stories dont' match, or he's not where he said he was

*remember, if he really cared and respected u, he would try to make you happy, feel safe and secure. if he isn't, there is a problem, even if it's not cheating. and if u become suspicious of more, than u may have a case. just be careful and try to weigh how trustworthy of a man he is verses your suspicions. good luck

Answer 4

There aren't any absolute signs other then actually catching him in the act.

However, if you have a strong suspicion, then that means there is something fundamentally wrong in your relationship and it would, perhaps, be best to walk away before something bad does happen.

Answer 5

There are quite a few signs - not all absoloute define proof that he is having an affair without concrete evidence, but the most common signs to look out for and the most reliable ones are listed below:

He is more sexually adventerous than usual with you.
He smells os unfamiliar perfume and lip-stick stains.
He acts distracted quite a lot of the time as if something else is on his mind.
He is argumentative and/or distant the rest of the time.
He has recently begun to wear different clothes and looks smarter than usual.
His phone is constantly going or being texted a lot.
He is agitated and moody.
He is always in a hurry to get something done so that he can get free time away from you to go out.
He is out a lot more than usual and late coming back.
He makes a lot of sexual references in his speech.
He doesn't talk about his feelings.
He is nicer than usual to you.
Acts very discretely.

Generally, his behaviour will be a mixed bag of everything and he seems more eratic in his behaviour than normal. You gut feelings will also be telling you that something isn't quite right and if he is having an affair, he will slip up along the course and start leaving evidence and signs around he isn't aware of.

I wouldn't go through any of his personal things as he will just blame you for not trusting him and then blame you for him having an affair because you don't trust him, so let the evidence come to you and it will sooner or later because even very clever or careful men slip-up along the way.

If you know where he might be when he is out, follow him, but not where as he can see you, you will have to be very discreet about it if you really can't live with this hanging over you. But I wouldn't reccommend doing this.

One very good thing you can do and is very effective, is to start being independant and as much as possible. If you don't drive, take some lessons for example. Brush up on some skills to improve job prospects, - when he sees you being independent from him, he will soon come running because he will be curious about where you are and what you are doing and this will distract him from his affair - guaranteed!

But genuinely do things you want to do and not superficially to get him back because if he thinks that you only are doing this so that he can be more interested in you, then your plans will fail. It will also build your self-esteem up too if you get yourself out more and do the things that you would like to do. This somehow makes men more attracted to us and why they need to be kept on their toes, so don't sit around in a wrecked or worried state as this will just allow him to treat you the way he probabley is right now.

Take back some powers from the relationship and get yourself into gear with something you can focus upon and get your right to some independance back - this is how women get to keep their men because the more we are 'predictable' in every situation, the more they will come to take us for granted and what I tell you is fact. Healthy relationships that last for years are those that operate on this basis. Women who do entirely as their men expect and sit around waiting for the man all of the time makes a lot of men fear the woman's neediness of them and why so many married women end up with husbands cheating on them.

Only an insecure man have affairs anyway but it is unhealthy to be too reliant on a man. They may say one thing, but in reality, men do like their women to have some independance of their own though not too much of it where they are never seen. The balance has to be just right and that takes time to figure out.

If you find out that he has been cheating, it will be too late for you to want anything more to do with him because you will never be able to trust him again. But getting yourself more out and about in your own life, will soon stop him in his tracks with any affair and come running back in your direction I promise you this. Let him know that you feel neglected and that he has to give you more quality time, but importantly is to also build back some self-esteem as this will be very low if you are sitting worrying over him. He will respect you more as a person if he sees that you are not going to sit around waiting for him to be faithful.

I hope things turn out good for you and my advice is true to it's word, and will work if you do these things.

Answer 6

If you notice changes in his everyday habits, more excuses, no explanations and leaving out the house more frequently.

Answer 7

Carly Simon wrote a song about this about ten years ago.

"When Tom came home his hair was combed
He bought snakeskin boots in Rome
That's not like him

His socks are clean, his shirt is pressed
It isn't just the way he's dressed
He smiles out of context and acts so polite
He's staying at his cousin's overnight

The protein shakes, that's not like him
The carrot cakes, that's not like him
The oatbran flakes, that's not like him
And the sweet name he called me in his sleep last night
Oh, that's not like him

He whispers on the telephone
He goes out smelling of cologne
That's not like him

It's just a superficial thing
But he's misplaced his wedding ring
He's become quite a connoisseur of wine
He's quoting Yeats and Gertrude Stein

The Soho pub, that's not like him
The racquet club, that's not like him
Those books on love, that's not like him
And the sweet name he called me in his sleep last night
Oh, that's not like him

I caught a glimpse of Tom today
At a checkout counter, about to pay
He had a girl on his arm
I'm glad he's helping out the poor
It's not like the Tom I knew before
Something so touching it made me cry
But my heart was racing, I don't know why

Those new blue suede shoes, that's not like him
The Ray Ban shades, that's not like him
Those downtown ways, that's not like him
And the sweet name he called me in his sleep last night
Oh, that's not like him

The red suspenders, that's not like him
The berries in the blender, that's not like him
Those twelve step groups, that's not like him
And Guadeloupe, that's not like him
Those books on Zen, that's not like him
The Karate classes, that's not like him
The fishing gear, that's not like him
Not like him
That's not like him"

Uh, sweetie, I think you can get the picture.

Answer 8

He loses interest in you and starts making excuses not to be around you.

Answer 9

less attention on you, girls phone numbers, going out without you and insisting on that, no sex, money missing, the list goes on. oh, this varies from guy to guy.

Answer 10

Lipstick on his collar.
Panties in his car glove box.