My sister is bi-polar and very strange. She tries to come off as very condesending and worldly but in the same breath she is passive/aggressively attacking me with smirky little comments. We had a terrible fight last Thanksgiving and didn't speak for one year. Now I awake today to about 5 emails with assorted jabs directed at me. She is crazier than a fruitcake. And my poor nieces have to live in it. Help!!!!!
2006-11-07 10:59:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Also, she has been diagnosed with the bi-polar part. And on my behalf I have tried to be very empathetic, and sympathetic with her. I used to get 10-15 calls per day with her saying the same thing. But she never attacked me. And I told her once she did it was over as I watched her do it progressively to everyone else. She supposedly wouldn't kiss her boysfirend becuase he chewed skin off of his lip and he smelled like dead, rotting flesh, then the next minute they were madly in love. I know I sound hard but you have to know how hard it is to carry on a relationship with someone that waffles between caring and hating so drastically. Now she tells me God is caring for her and I need to talk to God. I am honestly sick of it and her. HELP me find some resolve. She is on the medication Klonipin last I heard. Thanks for listening.
2006-11-07 11:45:48 · update #1
First that pill does not help bi-polar,she needs something STRONG,lIKE prosack,or paxil,{I know i can,t spell first one right!}Secound you need to stay away from her!Do not let her drive you crazy anymore!Poeple like that,You,ll never be able to help or figer out,They are so self invovled in their own selfish needs that they will never be Honest with their self never mind anyone else!They are miserble,So they want to try to make everybody feel as ugly and mean as them,And they will always be right and never ever amitte that anything was ever their fault!I have a sister like that,{One of five,Sisters},And i had to do the same as you,I wrote her off as not knowing her,BUT i,ll always Love her for being my Blood,But that does not mean I have to like her as a friend!And i have not talked to her in 17 yrs.And i talk to all my other sisters all the time and they all had to do same in end and my brothers and its very sad but true!You need to take care of you1Nobody can help her to she really gets honest with herself and helps herself change!Good Luck and God bless,Hollywood
2006-11-07 12:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by hollywood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your sister is bipolar, she needs to gain some control over her mania. if she is narcissistic in her personality, she has a need for admiration and lacks empathy. If she is borderline in her personality, she is unstable in her interpersonal relationships and her self image. if she is Histrionic in her personality,she has a pattern of excessive emotionality and attention seeking behaviors. The best thing you can do is not engage in a power struggle with her and set firm boundaries.
She sounds like she might need to be evaluated by a psychiatrist and might need some medication that will help control her mood.
Her poor children will certainly suffer because of her moods. As their aunt, keep an open door that they might want to come and talk with you. Never criticize their mother to them. It will not make for a good family relationship.
2006-11-07 11:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by cbellsew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like a tipical reaction from the manic phase of Bipolar. Don't take it so personally. Instead, keep in mind that the manic phase of bipolar is caracterized by irritability, which is probably hard for your sister to control, as it would be for anybody.
The best thing I could recommend you to do is to look for a therapist for your sister who could medicate her and guide her.
2006-11-07 12:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by TPCAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get herself some help, but you cannot get mad at her, she has problems that she has no control over. It is her disorders that are making her behave this way, so the best thing that she can do is see her doctor or psychiatrist. Maybe she can go on some medications for her disorder.
2006-11-07 11:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by mikey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your sister been diagnosed with bipolar disorder? What you should do is examine your behaviors that often result in her intense reactions...Other than that you should look up bipolar disorder as gaining knowledge on the disorder will aid in your understanding.
2006-11-07 11:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by ebigstanks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my nephew has bi-polar, ADAD,ODHD, and ADD.
so, i know how u feel. but its not her fault. she just needs to be put on the right kind of medication and talk to a therapist.
she is asking for your help but dont know what to say.
2006-11-07 11:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by special 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family should get along. Be peacable with your sister since she is mentally ill.
2006-11-07 11:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋