So there's this lady at work that I fancy. Thing is, she's like the most popular lady in the office and she's (supposedly) 4 years older than me. (I'm 25 btw). However, she doesn't look her age. The thing that attracted me to her is her being ladylike and cute at the same time. Rare eh?
We do know each other and can talk quite well together. Thing is, I dunno if I'm good enuff for her and if I shld go for it. She does fit into the category of vvvv friendly.
How pple?
2006-11-07 10:56:06 · 14 answers · asked by Dilemma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is nothing wrong with having a relationship with this woman as long as:
-she isnt in any other relationships, such as boyfriend, fiance, husband
-you arent in any other relationships (same deal)
- and you stay at a proffessional level while in work and focus on personal matters while on lunch break, before, and after work
Of course you are good enough for this woman, as long as you treat her respectively and like she is a human, cuz she is. Be sweet and charming, but not corny, and she will notice you in no time.
2006-11-07 11:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by sj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big deal with the age difference, by the way. 4 years is nothing, and even if she did look her age, 29 is not old. lol.
If you decide to ask her out what is the worst thing that can happen? She'd say 'no'. If she is half as cute and ladylike as you think she is, she'll be gracious.
Proceed with caution when it comes to office romance. Relationships like this need to adhere to guidelines...you know- no making out in the supply room etc.
2006-11-07 19:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T do it. Never, never get your meat where you make your bread. If the relationship sours, then one will surely be the victim of a character assassination. Meaning trashing your name in the work place and perhaps even telling false hoods about you . You can be friends and the like, but things like this rarely work out. I am not trying to be mean spirited or anything, I am merely speaking from the voice of experience and one that found it difficult to start over after such an event occurred in my life.
2006-11-07 19:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by beeotch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
25yo & 28yo, she's a little older? No problem!
You already know her.. you already talk to her... Great!
You work together... POTENTIAL PROBLEM.
Think it over...
I've been there and had it end badly... it's miserable to have your personal problems carry into the work environment... no matter how professional the two of you may be, there are always some busybodies at work who have nothing better to do than inflame an already difficult situation...
Good Luck!
2006-11-07 19:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by Auntie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who the heck is she where as she got you thinking your not good enough. I'm sure that's your thinking and not hers. Before attempting to pursue her let go of that mentality that she's better than you. Once you get rid of that ask her out. She only say of two things. Yes or no. Give it a go and good luck.
2006-11-07 18:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her to do something outside of work as friends. Get to know her that way and see if she starts to fall for you. If a friendship outside work doesn't develop, how would a relationship survive? And in terms of workplace gossip, it will be less awkward if you are friends that then start a relationship, than if you are just co-workers who start dating.
Good luck, my sister just got married this summer to a co-worker.
2006-11-07 19:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a bad feeling about this one. I doubt it will work out - women are always cagey about relationships at work, and she probably has a husband or boyfriend or both already. Ask, but be prepared for disappointment.
2006-11-07 18:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out on a date, and if she says yes, show her the best time you can. (As she is, by your description, a lady, I wouldn't try to go too far too fast.)
Go from there.
2006-11-07 18:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mnementh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go for it ,if it meant to be then it will be been,if not and she is a lady she can handle the situation and let you down easy.good luck.
2006-11-07 18:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to kno more about her. Then tell her you have feelings towards her in a joking way.
2006-11-07 18:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋