So I like this guy in college. We hung out together last Friday and we had a good time, so he asked me to hang out again this upcoming Friday. I said yes, of course.
Now yesterday, he broke our date without giving me a reason. I had a mutual friend ask him about me and this is what he said: "I want to hang out with her again because I like her, but she is becoming a distraction from my studies. "
The thing is this: I am very into my studied too, so we typically would only hang out once a week or less. What do you think is his problem? I like him A lot, but I am not distracted!
Should I forget about him, or should I like show him I am still interested, but give him space and time?
2006-11-07 10:55:59 · 16 answers · asked by GirlSunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't forget about him, but do give him a little breathing space while letting him subtly know that you are still interested. Stay friendly and casual.
He does sound like he could be interested in you, and that might scare him a bit.
If you suggest another activity to him, maybe make it a study date or something that seems very normal and undistracting.
2006-11-07 12:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nol do not give up on him . This is kind of a guy thing was not sure of our intelligence against would be the best way to put it so we don't like really studying what somebody else because when we think we might look stupid to them does that make sense to you. And some people need a lot more time to study and not be distracted. Just give them room if it's meant to be its meant to be
2006-11-07 11:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by easymoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, take it as a complement. The guy thinks you distract him. You must be a really good looking girl. He probably can't stop thinking of you, that is why his studies are suffering. Give him space and time. It will calm down for him soon enough. Especially if he knows you are still there, and that you are patient with him. Rushing this guy may just scare him off.
2006-11-07 11:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With guys all they see is black and white. There is no gray matter. I am sure (in his mind) he can't seem to balance college life and social life. Start slow with him. Since he is so involved in school invite him to the library to study with you, or over to your place for a study session and dinner. Let him know that you are also really into your studies and a relationship would be too complicated right now. Sometimes being up front with a guy will put his mind at ease. Who knows something great might come from this!!
2006-11-07 11:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by **Snowflake** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably really likes you but isn't quite ready for something serious.
Maybe you don't know this about guys but most of us tend to group women into two categories. The two categories are women we would want to date seriously and the other being women we just want to mess around with.
He probably sees you as a woman he would want to date seriously and he probably feels that dating someone seriously would not be good at the time since he is mostly focused on school.
You should just talk to him about it, but in a friendly, low-key, no pressure sort of way, see what he says.
2006-11-07 11:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by acvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should show him that ur interested but give him space and time for studies. He just wants a good education and he doesn't wanna mess that up by day dreaming of you and stuff. Whenever he has free time just ask him to hang out and stuff...or whenever ur free...whatever time is best that's when yall should hang out and talk. I'm sure u two will work things out.
2006-11-07 10:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by iluvashtonkutcher676 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what he means by 'distracted' means he has you constantly on his mind. Give him some time to consider what he is in and after that, remind him again that there's someone out there who fancies him.
Meanwhile, flirt wif some other guy in front of him and see if he's further distracted... mwahahaaaaaa!
2006-11-07 11:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Dilemma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the situation you are in, if I was you, I would absolutely let things cool off for awhile and see what happens. If he calls you then you will know that he is still interested in you. If he doesn't call you or talk to you then I can only say " Move On". You will find somebody who likes you out there somewhere, believe me.
Again, let things cool off and see if he calls. Good Luck to you.
2006-11-07 11:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by PsychoSam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it by ear a wee bit longer
give him space and time let him know that you are interested in him
Try this role reversal-buy him lunch or dinner if you get the chance to see him again
2006-11-07 11:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by bolounit1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too early on for him to get cold feet so soon, just leave him alone it's probably not worth the hassle. Guys who really want the girl don't break dates for ANY reason.
2006-11-07 10:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by Xander's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋