Terrible Almost 2's?

Question

MY son will be 2 on February 25th. As of right now he won't wuit whining. It's all day long. No matter what I tell him he whines or cries. He used to have a habit of when he got mad he would bang his head into what ever he as next to be it floor, table, wall, or whatever. We finally got him to stop doing that a couple months ago. Ever since then he hasn't stopped this whining and crying stuff. I've tried putting him in his room for a time out and he will just throw up all over him slef. I've tried to get him to just talk to me and he just whines. I think his problem might be that he is spoiled. Does anyone know how to get him to stop whining? I have 2 other boys one older, who doesn't whine, and a younger one who gets woke up because his brother never shut up. Please Help with any advice you may to offer. Nothing rude please and no hitting or spanking.

The thing is he has plenty of toys. He has atoy room connected to his bed room with his own tv, vcr, train tables, baby computers, cars, trucks, action figures, just about every thing. He just won't play. He just follows me around and whines.

Answer 1

I'm dealing with the same thing. Terrible almost two's. At the start of January my son will turn two. I say, kick your feet really hard and he stops his tantruming. When he whines I ignore the behavior (just as long as he is not hurting himself or others) and when he stops I give him attention and read to him or whatever. Just have to hang in there. It's the stage. I have a young baby that sometimes gets woken up, also.

Answer 2

We were given a great suggestion for behavior that really worked. If your son is exhibiting behavior that you don't want to encourage, do not engage with him. Our son often hit, and we would say, "I can't play with you because you hit. I can't pick you up because you hit. It hurts and I don't like it". You can modify this to match your son's attention-seeking behavior. When your son realizes that whining isn't going to get him attention, he'll quit.

I personally would skip the timeouts, they can backfire because your son is whining for attention and a timeout essentially makes him the center of attention.

Catch him when he's not whining and mention it casually. "Wow, I really like it when we play together like this". "Thank you for using your 'big boy' voice to ask for that toy"

I don't think you can spoil a two year old. Don't use your other children for comparison - the fact that they don't whine should tell you that you aren't "teaching" whining or spoiling your kids, they're just all different.

Answer 3

A child that is occupied never whines. Sounds like he is bored to me. Give him some small activities to do. Jigsaws, new toys, blow up some balloons, chalk and blackboard, wash-off texta's and paper. Find a large cardboard box and decorate it like a space rocket. It doesn't take much to entertain a child of this age. Take yourself back in time and act like a child yourself. He will love it. Take him for a ride on your back. Tickle him. Play with him. All the whinging will come to an end.

Answer 4

I think you need to see a doctor. Maybe he damaged something during all the head banging. You should probably not yell at him either. Regaurdless of what books say, putting a child this small in a room by himself while he is upset,will only tell him that you are unsure of what to do, and make hime feel unsafe. You should remember that children need to know that you are in charge, and that everything will be ok.

Answer 5

My son is doing the same thing, I think it is normal for a 2 year old to do this, He will eventually grow out of this stage, you just need to be patient and work with him. I hope everything goes ok, just be strong and tell your self that is just a stage and he will grow out of it in time.

Answer 6

Just ignore him until he loses the whine. Praise your two children who are talking properly, and spend time talking to them, he'll soon see that mum will only answer when the big boy voice is used.

Answer 7

I would say to just, I love that "just" don't you? Anyway just try to ignore it and praise him when he isn't whining. He just wants to be with you and he is a little guy. I know it's annoying. Try to get a break for yourself. Good luck.

Answer 8

Ignore him when he whines. I tell my 2 year-old son that I can't understand him when he whines and I turn and walk away. When I do that he will ask nicely with please and thank you.

Answer 9

If he is throwing up when you put him in his room, I would take him to your Doc and see if they could check for a physical reason for the vomiting. The child is making himself so upset the he vomits.

Answer 10

sounds like he needs more attention from you and good influences in children his age. find him some young well behaved friends and do something special with him on a regular basis