i been seien someone for 3 weeks now he said he was a swinger he is younger then me ..he also said he doesnt want anything serious.ofcourse we had sex several times he comes ova and we hang out he even stays at times.but lately he been wantin to see me alot more.we live close to eachother.but attimes he just comes by to hang out no sex or anything he even comes to store with me when i need to go and even pays somtimes for things.for some things even thoughi do cook at times.well.he also mentioned hed love to take me out..meanin to go to play pool or a movie etc...i said yes,,i would go wow i was shocked.does this mean he likes me or what in his own words he said he dontw ant nothing serious or to fall in love is he feeling me or am i booty call im not sure if this is possible if im a booty call is it?
2006-11-07 10:27:59 · 16 answers · asked by cbutterflyc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because he says he doesn't want to fall in love, doesn't mean it won't happen to him. If he likes hanging out with you without always getting some, then he at least wants to be friends with benefits. And if he's paying for stuff, then he wants to be more than friends. What's that saying...actions speak louder than words?
2006-11-07 10:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by Agent69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a "booty" call as long as you have him pay for things like movies, groceries, tickets for you. If you give it up and pay the bills for him then you have made yourself a "booty" call as he gets sex any time for nothing. He says no strings and that means exactly what he said. Nothing more - nothing less. Men say exactly what they mean and if you hear what they say and not what you want to here, there is no danger of your being hurt. A man will never buy the cow when the milk is free and that means let him pay his way and your way. That is his job as a man. It does not make you liberated to pay for him. It does not make you independent. What happens is if you make the mistake of becoming dependent. Don't spend money that then requires his income to pay all you bills. He said no strings. If that changes, he will tell you. If it does not change soon enough to suit you, kick him to the curb. He doesn't have any "strings" anyway. Just take what a man says literally and you have the secret. Demand more and you are alone.
2006-11-07 18:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not a swinger if he's not part of a couple...but he may be a swingle (a promiscuous single)...regardless, we're not psychics so can't tell you if he likes you (romantically) or not, but apparently he likes you enough to spend time with you and have sex with you...sounds like a friends with benefits situation where you are actually friends (versus those that only have sex and don't get together otherwise)...
Since you went into this knowing how he felt, why does it matter? If you've been hoping his feelings would change, then you may be setting yourself up for disappointment...have no expectations, and enjoy the situation for what it is now...or move on before your heart gets too involved...
2006-11-07 18:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is, of course, possible to go into a situation with one expectation, and to have everything change in mid-course. It is possible that he at first wanted only sex from you, (and it seemed mighty easy for him to get it, if I may say so,) but after getting to know you wishes to spend more time with you.
If he wants to be with you for non-sex times as well, then he probably does like you. As he is a swinger, however, if you have a problem with him sleeping with other people, then beware. Of course, with the lifestyle you've described so far, it might not bother you at all.
2006-11-07 18:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mnementh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be something more, then again, he might just want to be friendly and take you out some place. At any rate, try not to get your hopes up over much. He already told you he wasn't interested in anything serious right now, so try not to read too much into things. Otherwise, you might be setting yourself up for heart ache. I wish you all the best.
2006-11-07 18:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by LibraT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just a step above booty call;what I refer to friends with benefits.Ask him his intentions. Perhaps he wants to take it slow. Don't give it away so easily if you want more respect. Yes, there is a double standard about sex. Good luck and I hope you get what you want. Think about what it is you really want.
2006-11-07 18:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by firestarter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't he like you without wanting anything serious? Just because you like someone, does NOT automatically mean you want to get "serious". He may very well enjoy your company for things other than sex... but if I were you I would not expect it to last long, or to produce committment.
2006-11-07 18:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is how you find out. Stop putting out the booty and if he stays with you for awhile, he may really like you but if you keeps on wanting booty that is all he is out for.
2006-11-07 18:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants to play the field. Probably nothing against you, just wanting to have fun. I did that for many years and I meant no harm. It is hard to understand unless you live the life style. good luck.
2006-11-07 18:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by dave e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you having sex 3 weeks into knowing someone? How could it be anything else other than free sex for him?
2006-11-07 18:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋