We were married on April 28, after we found out that we were expecting. I have a dress and centerpieces and I want to wear and use them both. He was in the Marines and people did this all the time when they came back from overseas. Is this ok for us to do next year? We both know that we messed up by getting pregnant, but we want to have a big wedding. Will people think that this is weird?
2006-11-07 10:11:50 · 17 answers · asked by Abby W. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Abby,
There is nothing wrong with having the wedding of your dreams. Yes, some people may get their panties in a wod...but don't let them ruin things for you. I am so proud of you that you got married and are committed to each other and working together to raise your baby. Should you have waited to be intimate after marriage...this old fashioned girl says yes! But honey, things happen. You may feel that the two of you messed up...but remember that your baby is not a mistake. God has a plan for every life no matter the circumstance. Your baby is a blessing and will bring you a lifetime of joy if you remain positive. Plan the wedding you always dreamed of and hold your head up high, as you come down that isle. Remember KizKat is smiling and praying that you all will have a lifetime of happiness!
2006-11-07 10:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by kizkat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes having a baby changes life before or after one is married. And though you love your child, you are able to see that that wasn't quite the way it should have been. But life seldom goes according to schedule.
A dress & centerpieces do not matter to some, but they matter to you. And if you & your husband want to do this for each other, then who's to say whether it's right or wrong or weird?
I'm not sure I would plan a HUGE extravagant wedding, but something for your close family & friends. Then have a really swell party and celebrate.
2006-11-07 11:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. My husband and I are planning to have our vows renewed every 5 years (a: because we want to and b: because I paid $500 for a dress that I would only wear once?!?) I think it's sweet to do a vow renewal. It gives you a chance to recreated your wedding or make it better than the first (I'm sure all of us look back at our wedding day and wish there were a few things to be fixed. Mine is not getting sick, everyone was freaking out and it got to me and I threw up the VERY FIRST MORNING we were married. Imagine this: "Good morning honey". (wife) "Good morn.... I need to throw up" Romantic huh :P)
2006-11-07 15:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by bbrose85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a wonderful 1st anniversary gift to give one another! I think it would be great and your family would probably love the event too! (I had a church wedding and the whole 9 yards, but I would love to renew our vows. I want to for our 10th coming up!) Every woman dreams of a beautiful wedding day no matter how long you have been married!
2006-11-07 10:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I MARRIED MY HUSBAND MARCH 18, 2005, WE HAD A EXTREMELY TINY WEDDING IN OUR LIVING ROOM, AND I WAS NOT HAPPY WITH THAT WEDDING.
THIS WAS MY 2ND MARRIAGE
I TOLD MY HUSBAND THAT I WANTED A BIGGER WEDDING
SO I PLANNED EVERYTHING AND DID IT ALL MYSELF
ON JULY 16TH, 2005 I HAD MY BIGGER WEDDING, AND I WAS MUCH HAPPIER
I DID THE COURT THING, AND THE JUSTICE OF THE PEACE TWICE, AND I WAS NOT ABOUT TO BE UNHAPPY CAUSE I NEVER HAD A REAL WEDDING
THIS ISN'T THE LAST, WHEN I MOVE TO CALIFORNIA, I PLAN ON A BIGGER WEDDING FOR THE FAMILY THAT WAS NOT ABLE TO ATTEND
SO THERE FOR IN ANSWER TO UR QUESTION, NO THIS IS NOT OUT OF THE ORDINARY TO RENEW UR VOW'S, HELL I DID IT IN LESS TIME THAT U ARE GOING TO DO
SO HAVE AT IT, AND DO WHAT MAKES U BOTH HAPPY
2006-11-07 11:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by katty_ferguson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's weird. I know you wanted the big party and all, but you made your choices and are married with a baby on the way. That's what you chose to do. Having a big wedding after the fact seems sort of greedy and a little "have your cake and eat it too." I personally think you should save the money and put it towards your family or maybe have a delayed honeymoon.
I think it's a sign of maturity to accept the consequences and understand you can't always get what you want.
2006-11-07 10:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Many couples now have a "civil ceremony" first to get the legality out of the way then have the bigger wedding at a later date. No you are not wierd.
2006-11-07 10:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that I don't wish you joy and great happiness, but what would be the point?
You'd spend all that money for a one day party for yourselves, (and let's face it, all the planning can be pretty stressful) when you could put that money into something lasting for yourselves and your child -- like, a college fund, for instance.
Do what you want to do, I'm sure very few people would object.
2006-11-07 10:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by hrhtheprincessofeire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think its weird to ask for another wedding. People get married in strange places. So yours was a courthouse. I think if you want to get married again you should have it in a church. Or wherever you and your husband agreed to have it. I don't think it is weird to get married again.
sincearly , madbet15
2006-11-07 11:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,I got married in a courthouse too,but still want a big wedding, so go ahead and plan your big wedding. other people wont think that its weird.
2006-11-07 10:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by tina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋