Im in a point in my life where my love life has really gone down hill. Ive had it bad before but this time I truly have no one and its depressing being lonely. Ive recently gone through a rough breakup with my boyfriend and Im trying to move on and talk to other guys but Everytime I try to talk to guys I get turned down, its like I have something written on my forehead that stops guys, or anyone from getting to know me.. Even my regualr guy friends arent talking to me for some odd reason. And the very few guys that I am attracting are either physco's or werid. Should I keep trying or should I just be lonely for a little longer and let the good guys come to me?
2006-11-07 10:10:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes it's nice to be single. enjoy now that u r single. wait for the good guys to come to u.
2006-11-07 10:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by the world needs a remix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club!
It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all! Stay away from physco's and weirdo's and ask yourself why your attracting these types instead of decent guys.
Maybe your a bit needy or desperate at the moment, god knows most people behave like this after a hard break-up. You sound like your probably better off on your own for a while, never take the easy road by jumping straight into another realtionship after one has just finished, it's the cowards way with dealing with the break-up.
Maybe your not looking your best at the moment, or maybe your self esteem has been knocked by the break-up. Whatever the case you must be honest with yourself and learn to become more self aware and learn as much as you can about different types of people. In reality, it really is crappy being single and lonely, but you can't allow your depression to rule and dictate your life.
It's a funny saying sometimes, but it's true, "Everything happens for a reason wether its good or bad!"
So try to use this time to grow within yourself and let time heal you from your break-up. It took me a year to get over my ex-girlfriend of two years, who I was going to get married to and she left me for a younger man and she is still with him and supposedly very happy. I tried dating new woman after the break-up but I found that I really wasn't ready to get over my break-up just yet, I didn't look as good as I was and I certainly didn't feel in high self esteem. I decided to go back to the gym and spent most of my social life with my closest friends and eventually I started to look and feel good about my appearance and I noticed that I started to attract new women.
Sometimes it good to be single, because you can start to learn a lot more about yourself. If you are over your ex-boyfriend, then you should consider going out to social venues such as clubs, pubs etc with your friends and play the field for a bit.
Remember being in a relationship is not the most important thing in the world, try not to worry to much and give yourself a little TLC.
I hope this will help you in some way, it's a tough world we live in sometimes, but the experiences that you go through shape the person you become, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse.
Good Luck and keep positive, being negative doesn't get you anywhere x
2006-11-07 18:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by filmstu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding yourself can be the hardest yet most rewarding part of a break up.. Often time people do not take enough time to find out who they are and they don't realize that they might have lost a part of themselves in the last relationship!
My advice is to not try so hard on looking for men, focus on what makes YOU happy - learn new things, take a cooking class, or go wine tasting with friends, or pick up a hobby..
Also counseling is a good thing - This can help resolve some issues and answer questions!
Hope this helps
2006-11-07 18:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by jdavis1510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give yourself some time....you dont want to jump into a relationship right away after a breakup...cause then it will just cause problems in the new relationship...I am 19 years old and have never had a boyfriend...i know how you feel about being lonely...and the past 19 years have definitely given me some time to think things over and get to know myself and love myself....just give yourself some time to get over things...and don't get desperate...you'll find someone...just dont give in to the first person that is willing to go out with you...it won't end well!
2006-11-07 18:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so easy to get depressed. It seems like I just got out of the funk your in. Sometimes it is just better to sit back and let your situation calm down a little bit, before you try to move on. There is someone out there for you.
2006-11-07 18:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by JaNa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to slow down a little, if you continue you could end up with a real jerk.
Just take it slow and you will find the right one.
2006-11-07 18:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by Engel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can completely relate... I think you should just wait and let the good guys come to you, as hard as it may be, its going to be completely worth it in the end.
2006-11-07 18:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by Blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for a little while and let them come to you.
2006-11-07 18:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so ur sayin if im attrcted to u, im a phsyco ?
2006-11-07 18:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by llllll l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens to everyone
2006-11-07 18:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by bell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋