Please help me! I am very confused?

Question

It started like this. I knew him five years ago and we were friends since then. A couple of years ago we use to flirt with each other and one day he asked me for a kiss, and I gave it to him with the condition to remain as friends and that's it. I saw him again a year after graduation, we talk for a while, he wanted a kiss and I gave it to him. I liked the feeling I got when I kiss him, that is why I did it. After he told me that we are better off as friends and I agree with it. Later on he tried to go for a kiss but I did not let him. Another day he tried a second time, this time he was a little more aggresive by insisting it and moving towards it, even though I said no. My "no" was weak so he took it as a yes or maybe. I asked him why is he doing that he said because he wants it but relationships are complicated. So yes besides kissing we went on to further things like when he placed my hand on his penis and his hands we going through my breasts and my vagina. I know I was a fool

and such and idiot. Today I realized that he wants nothing more than sex with me. The worst thing of all is that I alloed him to do that, therefore he has no respect for me now. I feel confused and quite unconfortable. Ok, as a human I have brains too and I know that even though I messed up this time I will not let him do that again. If I have to be rude (since I am sweet and shy) I will be.
The problem is, how will I handle his disrespect to me, and what if he tells his friends (which are mine too!!). Before I was quite respected among my peers as a mature an d a smart person. My reputation will be ruined. How will I handled that. How can I earned it again?

Answer 1

it's good that u value your body. remember that it is the most special GIFT u can give. so don't give it to anyone who hasn't proven worth it. i don't think u should worry about what people think about u. if he does tell, then he wasn't a very good friend. get rid of him. if your other friends make a big deal of it, tell 'em to mind their f*ckin business. people will always talk. don't let their opinions of u rule how u feel about yourself.

Answer 2

Attraction is not a choice hun. The fact that he re-affirmed that he wants to just be friends and doesn't want anything serious with you attracted you to him. You might not see it this way since you yourself don't know why you did it and I would have to write a book on why this attracted you but suffice it to say that it did, so there's the reason you went with it. Now, to get your 'goody two shoes' title again might be a little hard. Just hope the guy's not a dumbass and tells on you. Learn the lesson and don't kiss anybody unless you are sure of it.

Answer 3

Well I think (even tho I haven't been in this situation before) u should talk to him and ask him not to tell everyone he knows and that you guys should stop doing it, but if he doesn't then tells all his friends they either believe him or you. If they believe him then try to make some new friends, but there probably wont be any problems if they believe u. I hope this does help at least some if it doesn't I am very sorry.

Answer 4

Your true friends will continue to be your friends. If he touches you again, fight him off. In fact, get away from him- as far as you can go when you see him.