when I was younger I had grandmother...she was like a mother to me, it was her who took me out places, taught me stuff and generally looked after me. I don't really remember my real mother doing any of this sort of stuff. anyway..my grandma looked after me really well...and sort of raised me really well back then as well...she started me off on horse riding lessons..and was the best grandma anyone could ever wish for..she was going to sort of raise me really well. I never thought she'd die it was awful. When she died however my life changed drastically....I was at the time sent to the local comprehensive and my I began to notce mre the neglect by my real mum. I need to ask ...what would grandma have wanted me to do with my life? Who would she have wanted me to become? I know she would have raised me well.....but I don't have a clue (since I was only 11 when she died) what that really means now. What should I do? I was never allowed to speak to her before she died. What would she WANT me to do with my life??
2006-11-07 09:41:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She would just want you to be happy!!
2006-11-07 09:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel I was lucky enough to have a few more years with mine than you did with yours.
My worst regret is not being able to say goodbye and tell her that I loved her before she died. I do not feel as though I have said my goodbyes so it is so hard still to let her go even now after 5 years
I have had counselling but I still feel that I need her more than anything
Instead of thinking what she would have wanted you have got to go out there and do what you want .... you know she would have been proud whatever you do and she will be looking down on you
You take care hun and don't worry she WILL be proud as long as you are happy
xxx
2006-11-07 17:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by toon_tigger 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious you had a close relationship with your Grandma & she wanted the best for you - by the way she took you in and took care of you. I have children of my own, and all I want for them in life is to be safe, happy and fulfilled. This means becoming strong, confident people and finding an occupation that fulfills them so that they can follow their dreams.
It doesn't matter if you don't become a millionaire as long as you love what you do and can support yourself financially. If this means becoming a parent and staying at home and doing housework and raising 10 children - if this makes my children happy and fulfilled then that's what I want for them. If they want to become a cleaner or waitress, then that's fine with me too. Whatever makes them happy.
So what you need to do is to find out what your dreams are and set goals that will allow you to achieve them. Even if it means you have to study part time while you work full time, if it's something you love to do, it won't seem like a chore.
Often the hardest bit is to decide what it is you want to do with your life. These days there are so many options out there, and you aren't limited by your sex or status in life anymore like people were 100 years ago. You also need to weigh it all up. If it's your dream to write a book, you may need to do this part time until your first book gets published, because until then you won't be able to financially support yourself. If you don't ever get published, maybe you could become an English teacher, that way you get to share your passion with others, this would still be fulfilling for you.
If you find that your passion is something you're not very good at, it doesn't mean you should give up on it, just means you need to look at all your options. For example, I love to sing, and can sing quite well, although I have a very common voice - not one that would get a recording contract. So I work part time in childcare (and sing along with the children!) but I'm also part of a local theatre company. I'm still fulfilling my dream by being able to perform twice a year.
You don't have to live for your Grandma, just for you. She would have been proud of you, whatever you chose to do with your life, as long as you try your hardest in every task you take on. One day you may have the opportunity to be a parent yourself, and you'll understand. The best quote I've ever heard is (not sure who wrote it) "When you get to heaven God isn't going to ask you, 'Why didn't you become a doctor and save millions of peoples lives?', all he's going to ask is, 'Why didn't you become YOU?'".
2006-11-07 18:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your grandma gave you a good start in life, make her proud of you by working hard to achieve success. Your grandma would have wanted you to be healthy, happy and to be able to live your dreams. Good luck.
2006-11-07 17:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She would probably want you to be the best that you can be and live up to your full potential. She would probably want you to strive to do well in all that you do and do the things that you love. She wouldn't want the fact that your mom is neglectful to ruin your life, but you should learn from it. She would probably want you to grow up and get married and have a family. But, most of all, she would want you to be happy!
2006-11-07 17:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by sg 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She'd want you to be happy, Sweetie, and only you can fulfill that. You need to follow your heart. She'd approve of you no matter what. She'd love you no matter what decisions you made in life, good or bad, lucky or unlucky. Don't cry that she has gone; laugh that you had her in your life.
2006-11-07 17:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Older&Wiser 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she would want you to be happy and do whatever it is that gives you that happiness. she's up in Heaven looking down on you and protecting you without you even knowing it. so, just think of what would make you feel fulfilled in life and know that would be what she wants for you too. good luck.
2006-11-07 17:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She would want you to live your life to the fullest. Live as if each day would be your last one on this old Earth. She would want you to be happy.
2006-11-07 19:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think to be a good, hard working, honest and decent young lady. And above all to be happy. That would make her proud xx
2006-11-07 17:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by starlet108 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think she'd live it the way you wanted to live it. You are a person; you have goals, dreams, ambitions. Go for the sky!
2006-11-07 17:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by I think... 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her and she will tell you.....
she would want you to be happy, have a job you enjoy and friends who care about you, meet someone special and have a family of your own.....
2006-11-07 17:43:20 · answer #11 · answered by Oldgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋