my boyfriend and I have been together for about a month and a half now. Before he was my boyfriend though he liked this girl whom was pretty much perfect and beautiful in every way, she was skinny about 123 - 130 punds and fit and just comletely Gorgeous. I on the other hand am 150lbs and not as smart or as perfect as she.. but she is also my best friend so whenever I'm with my boyfriend she is with us... and I know this may sounds stupid but I'm alway's worried that he still likes her or that he just settled for me. He told her that he liked her before we where dating but she didn't return the feelings, then about 8 months later he asked me out... I guess i'm just overly self consious...
and am worried that I'm no who he would want as a girlfriend if my friend would have said yes to him.
2006-11-07 09:33:36 · 33 answers · asked by stinkerwits 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know sometimes when you spend time with a person you get to know the real them. Maybe when he spent time with you he realized you were what he wanted all along. If you are worried about her beauty, then try and lose some weight. Look good for your self!
2006-11-07 09:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 months after asking her out, he asked you.
There is a fair time gap between when he told you friend he liked her and when he asked you out.
You do have something to worry about, the fact that he liked her firstly and he still sees her, your not entirely sure whether he is completely over her and wants to be with you.
Then again, his feelings just might be true.
He DID like her, but NOW he likes her, he may have opened his eyes and realised he's not after perfection or smartness. But a girl that makes him happy and a good companionship.
Keep your eyes open and read the signs, if he wants her to hang out with the two of you a lot or he asks where she is all the time then he could be using you to get closer to her.
Don't let him play you for a fool, keep on your toes and read everything but remember to not throw everything at him, as you could ruin a perfectly good relationship.
2006-11-07 09:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, and this is not to criticize you or make you feel bad, but if he asked her out first and liked her first then you are second best. Like you said what if she had said yes to him. And the fact that she is your best friend and she hangs around when you are with him is uncomfortable because you feel you are less.
But you're not. So what if she is skinnier, what matters is how you bring yourself to other people. Personality is what counts and being yourself. Maybe if this is making you fee weird and you have the feeling you are not the right one for him, you know what to do and find someone that likes you from the start and is not jumping from best friend to best friend. Listen to you inner you. Be happy, F.U.C.K. everyone else.
2006-11-07 09:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I don't want to worry you, but if I were in your shoes, I would be worried that he is with me only to be closer to her, or get her jealous, so, the best thing is always to ask him, talk to him, stop the guessing game that every woman tries to play, why not just ASK! ask him if he still has feelings for her and what are his true intentions for her. It never hurts to find out you know. So if I were you, I would sit him down for a serious conversation.
2006-11-07 09:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do u have such low esteem of yourself? u've obviously dont think highly of urself thats why u think u ar not worthy of ur BF's feelings to u. how can you be so mean to urself? am so dumbfounded i cant even begin to address ur question. u hav not bothered to think that if he didnt want u he would have asked someone else out (not u) when ur friend said no, i mean he didnt come askin u out as soon as ur friend said no, it took him awhile; did u think he is thankful ur friend turned him down as that has given him an oppotunity to realise how wonderful and better being with u is compared to ur friend?
u need to love urself more than u ar doing right now, u cant continue to purnish urself like this each time a guy that likes u genuinely chooses u instead of soneone else who u consider is better than u.
beauty is not only what u define it to be, hear other peoples definition, they just might paint a picture of u!
Good luck.
2006-11-07 09:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by joanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same position in a way. Except I dont know her. However she is perfect. Nice hair, nice eyes, money, and shes sucha "good" girl. I don't mind it though. I am perfect in other ways that she isn't. People like people for different reasons. He may like you for more sound reasons that the superficial reasons he liked her so dont worry. I'm sure you have nothign to worry about.
2006-11-07 09:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Carleyheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said your friend was never his, so she can't be his "EX." Frankly, if he's your boyfriend, are you ever alone with him? You said that she's your best friend and so whenever you're with your boyfriend, she's there too? That's not good. If it's true, then he may be using you just to get to be around her. You need some alone time with the boyfriend to make sure he really cares about you.
2006-11-07 09:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a clarification why he's with you and not together with her, in all probability countless certainly. If he did no longer discover you alluring he does no longer be with you, so he of course thinks you're stable looking. you do no longer in all probability sound such as you're "thick" yet whilst he says he famous it lovable, it is a competent element. so which you basically have not have been given something to fret approximately. everytime you spot his ex only think of to your self that he's with you and not her and there's a competent clarification for that. playstation . previous flame does no longer mean that plenty, virtually certainly everyone has extra suitable than one love :-)
2016-12-10 04:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by trip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes not thinking about looks or how much you weigh, but that you're a better match for him that this other chicky. and btw 8 months is a long time for him to wait before he asks you out, so it clearly was not in rebound of your friend.
There is also probably a reason that they are not together and it doesnt matter how pretty or fit she is, she may just not be right for him
2006-11-07 09:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is with YOU for a reason. She obviously was not perfect, or your boyfriend wouldn't have dumped her.
You need to get over these insecurities; your beautiful no matter how much you weight. Your boyfriend is with YOU! If he ever DOES break up with you, he's not worth the air you breath.
You ARE beautiful, and don't you forget that!
2006-11-07 09:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋