My triplets are invited to a birthday party, do they each bring a gift or do they bring one gift from all 3?

Question

This goes for teachers gifts as well! I would prefer to get one decent gift than 3 mediocre. Is this kosher? What should I do when the triplets have their own birthday party. My thinking is that each child invite 1 of their own friends & that friend bring only 1 gift. I think its too much to expect each friend to have to bring 3 gifts

Answer 1

I would say one gift from all three is OK. That way, the recepient won't favor the one who gave the gift she liked better then the other two

Answer 2

I think you've got the right instincts. One really nice gift from all 3 children is a great idea.

When it comes to the children each inviting their own friends to their party and what their friends should bring ... that's a little stickier, I think. Because you're never supposed to imply what kind of gift to bring on an invitation.

When you send out the invitations, it will be personalilzed enough that the recipient can tell that it's from one child, rather than all three, right? Then, when the parent calls to r.s.v.p., if they ask about what kind of gift(s), let them know you only expect them to buy for the one child. It's nice if they want to give a gift all three children can enjoy together, but what they want to give is really up to them.

Good Luck & Have Fun!

Answer 3

Definitely, if they are attending the same party, I believe one gift from all three would be sufficient. The person who said that the child might favor the triplet who gave the better gift hit the nail on the head, in my opinion.

This would also go for teacher's gifts, if the triplets are all in the same class. Otherwise, teacher's gifts should just be something small anyway, and just gift for the number of teachers that the children have (for example, if two are in the same class and one is not, two gifts - one for each teacher).

The idea for your children's birthday is excellent! After all, I'm certain it's difficult to deal with those who feel they must buy 3 of each identical item just to gift your children (why three balls, when the three of your children could just as easily toss one around?). It will help save clutter and wastefulness in your home, and it will save a lot of worry for the parents of the children attending, as well.

Answer 4

One nice one, if they are all three invited, is fine, so is buying 3. Just keep in mind the person giving the party is feeding, buying grab bags for, and entertaining three kids, not one. Ask your kids, explain the options, and see what they want to do, if they are old enough to understand.. If the three gifts total the cost of one nice one, so be it.
You will have the reverse true, when it is your turn to host, One big one for all three, or three small ones. I would leave it up to the giver, whatever they want to do, and if someone asks, tell them that. Tell your kids in advance, so they will be expecting it, and won't embarrass you by whining "I want my own gift!" Great opportunity to teach about gifts and manners, and how to be a gracious recipient, and giver. And you are right, good idea to have each kid can pick a special friend, and call the Mom and tell them, or write it on the invitation, that their little darling is the guest of only one child, please do not buy three gifts, explain you are trying to raise the kids to be individuals in the group of three, and not be expecting a gift, too, everytime a sibling gets one. If you are writing it on the invite, try this: "Come to Marys's 7th birthday party on November 22. Cake, ice cream, and lots of fun!" Don't even mention the siblings to the little guest!
Adults will not be expecting three gifts, unless it's grandma, who would adore three drawings, or craft projects. Teachers would appreciate one, and understand the potential problems with taking triplets on a gift buying safari, each with their own ideas about what to purchase, and how to wrap it. Spend what you would if your kids were in separate classes. I'm sure the teacher has probably had to give some thought during her classes, on how to treat your kids equally, as individuals, and as a part of the whole class. She will understand your concern.
If I were the giver, I would really appreciate some help on what was expected, and really would be glad to have to buy just one gift for just one child.

Answer 5

My friend from high school was a triplet. They used to bring one really nice gift to bday parties and they used to each invite a couple friends and the friends brought one gift for the girl that invited them. My friends and I never minded that they brought one gift.. we wouldnt have cared if they didnt bring a gift we just them at the party. Good Luck!

Answer 6

We have triplet cousins in our family. Their own parties have friends of each. They get gifts that tend to be usable or enjoyable by all three. They also tend to give a group gift when they are all invited to a party. I am not sure a group gift saves money but it does make life simpler.

Answer 7

I agree with you, they should bring a single good gift from all 3 of them. As for their own birthday party, it's reasonable that they receive a single gift from each child invited, but you can put a note in the invitations that the gift should be appropriate for all 3 of them to use it simultaneously [for example, video games, board games].

Answer 8

I would bring 3 gifts to be on the safe side...after all, people look at you by your manners! In fact, 3 gifts would usually impress people...if you think 3 gifts are too much, just make them small gifts. Each person should bring their own gift, because each person is unique.

Answer 9

I see your dilemna. I would buy one nice gift for the birthday boy or girl from your triplets. In terms of inviting friends to your triplets' party, I would specify on the invitation that guests should only bring one gift if any.

Answer 10

One gift on behalf of all three of your kids is absolutely acceptable. I honestly don't even think a gift is mandatory, only voluntary and your generosity at bringing even one should be appreciated.

I think your plan to have your triplets each invite one friend to their birthday party is a great plan.

Answer 11

1 gift per child, should be fine. Bringing 3 is way too much, and money draining.but make sure it's a decent gift!!!!