i totally love my bf, but our relationship started with me being the dirty whore(my words not his) he was cheating on his gf with. Its never been based on sex, we established a real intamate relationship,he was actually the greatest bf ever(minus me being the other woman). He took care of me when i was sick, helped me stop cutting myself(id been doing it since high school), he was there for the bad as well as the good. he feel so in love with me that he left his other gf because he knew he wanted to be with me. i just worry if he would cheat on her with me whats stoping him from doing the same thing to me later on? Buut look at greys anatomy...derek cheated on addison and fell in love...right?
2006-11-07 09:09:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK in most cases yes men will cheat again however if he is truly in love with you ( its sounds like he might be) then his cheating days are over so please enjoy what you have and don't spoil it with fear good luck and enjoy
2006-11-07 09:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by john_borst2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you know there's a saying "if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you!" Paranoia, jealousy, mistrust, and insecurity all stemmed out from cheating.
In some point, your bf will probably think of you being capable of snatching somebody else's boyfriend and that you're doing something like that behind his back because your relationship was founded on that.
On the bright side of it, you are probably "his missing piece" and you two belong together. Who's to say you don't? That is not uncommon, it happens sometimes. Although there's no guarantee that what happened to his ex-gf will not happen to both of you. For the meantime, give the guy a break. If he soon sense that you start un-feeling him, that will bring you more drama.
2006-11-07 09:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by RERUNS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes Human lets get that straight. Hes never going to be perfect but what he may be is perfect for you. I think that we all have to go through our share of relationships so that when we find the right one we are able to recognize it. and maybe this is what happend with your relationship. Maybe its meant to be maybe not but at the end of the day you two have to be able to trust each other. And communication is what helps. Talk to him and let him know how you feel. If its meant to be then you will know. Greys anatomy is just a show haha though we would love for things to work out like they do on TV its just not possible! Good Luck
2006-11-07 09:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by ms rachel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't base your relationship on a television show. How old were you and your bf when you started dating? How long have you been together? I don't know how I would feel being the "other woman" and then being the gf and wondering what if. However, you can't go around thinking that either. I say trust your heart but don't forget your brain either.
2006-11-07 09:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay one that is a television show not real life. And derek didn't cheat on Addison, he had left her because she cheated on him.
I do not belive the saying Once a cheater always a cheater, but you need to talk to him. Explain to him how you feel and why. Maybe he just wasn't happy with her and is with you.
2006-11-07 09:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you, once a cheat always a cheat, my kids dad left me, not just me his family for the other women. There married now and have a baby. But every chance he gets he comes back to me. So be careful and don't just assume it won't be done to you.
2006-11-07 09:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by lasifuentes1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, grey's anatomy is fiction, a tv show...in real life, people who cheat more often than not, repeat the behavior...
big reason I'd never be with a cheater or be with a guy who'd leave his partner to be with me...i'm simply not arrogant enough to assume that i'm so great he wouldn't do that to me too...
good luck to you...but don't be terribly surprised if you find he's cheated at some point...
2006-11-07 09:15:55 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grey's anatomy is TV darling, not the real world. Personally, I would be cautious since you were "the other woman," however, just because he cheated on her does not mean that he will on you or not. if he cheated on her, he would have always cheated on her. it may be different with you, however... it may not.
2006-11-07 09:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the result of "stealing mates". Whether its done by a man or woman there are always fidelity issues. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't but I will tell you, what goes around,comes around in one form or another.
2006-11-07 09:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's TV hun.
TV is fantasy.
Which is not to say that he 100% will cheat, but statistics are against his fidelity.
I hope you are the exception, good luck.
PS. If it doesn't work out, please don't cut yourself. It's 100% NOT SEXY and is tantamount to an adult tantrum. Basically, it's stupid.
2006-11-07 09:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋