We broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. We have been together for almost 5 years from the age of 17 (he was 18). He has been my first and only love. We did break up 2 years ago as well, because he has found another girl, but he came back and I thought that after this we would never separate again. But he has found another girl again. We met twice after a month after the break-up because he has been calling me and telling me he was missing me. We spent the night together and I felt that he does love me still, but not as much as before. He is still with the girl and he does not call me for some time now, as I was too cynical about his new relationship. I try, but I cannot move on... I really cannot imagine my life without him and don't know what to do with myself to get over this. I try to keep myself occipied all the time, but if I just think about him for a moment, I feel so empty and so miserable. I know... time will help, but how to untill this time would come??? Thank you!!
2006-11-07 09:08:03 · 22 answers · asked by kanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
use ur common sense
2006-11-07 09:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by george p 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't get stuck with yahoo questions in firs place. Start to communicate with other people like me just for any reason or just exchange the feeling and just for fun. You are not the only one, I saw on this net side so many terrible story's and down situations.
You don't have kids in first place - you are free and wonderful person. He didn't deserve you. Be yourself and never think about to take him back. Is hard to deal without somebody who used to be every day with you but it was not the right men for you anyway. Is better to loose 5 years of relationship and learn life.
You are just in perfect age to start see the world and begin new life. Just look for somebody much more mature who knows what he wants. Is the way I feel about you.
2006-11-07 09:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation...... I know because I'm at that point right now. I think what helps me most is that you have to cut out all communications with him. The more you allow him to still call you the more you're setting yourself for heartache.
Go out with the girls..... co-workers.... and just keep yourself busy. Find new hobbies and before you know it he'll only be a part of your history. YES.. it will take time but the more you dwell on it the more you're just going to hurt. Good Luck my dear..... I know how hard it is to get over someone. I wish it was easy too... atleast you're not like me and had a kid with this ex. Or did you?
2006-11-07 09:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by Destinee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will pass, breakups are hard, but I don't think he is the one for you.... Don't put your self through this... and now that he has been dating other girls, your relationship will NEVER be the same... you will always know that he was with these other girls and its really hard to just forget about the past like that. You should try going out with some of your girlfriends and meet new people. You probably don't want to start up anything new with anyone but you should start making friend s and going out on little dates. THat is the only way your going to get over him, is by finding someone new and it will happen. Your going to find someone who would NEVER breakup with you for anther girl, someone who thinks your perfect and he's out there. Once you find him, your think to your self" what was I thinking wantng to get back with the ex" remember he is an ex for a reason. Try not to let him use you. YOu need to be Unavaiable to him.. Don't answer his calls make him realize that he hurt you and your going to wait around for him forever.
2006-11-07 09:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are too good for him. You're too good for anyone that would push you to the curb for a new girl. Especially after being dedicated to him in that long of a relationship.
Secondly, falling in love at 17 is really hard. That is a time in your life when you should be learning to be dependent on only yourself, being independent, being happy with just you. It happened to me too at the wrong age...it was a growing time in my life when I met this person and instead of maturing by myself and learning to be okay with just me, I had this other person I became attached to.
Time will help heal. Time will help give you clarity. Most importantly, you HAVE to let yourself deal with your feelings during this time. Cry if you want to, be mad if you want to, write in a journal, pray....RELEASE those emotions. Its very important to help you heal. Realize that God made you to be more than average, and this guy you were with didn't treat you that way...
Give yourself time, get out those emotions you feel, and don't date right now. You need time to yourself. Take a deep breath and say you can do this, because you can. You're only given problems you can handle.
2006-11-07 09:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by CoCo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, I mean exactly. My ex girlfriend did the exact same thing to me, it is scary, but it is exact. I had the same mind frame as you do now, and I can tell you honestly it seems like all is lost, all hope is gone, and you cannot imagine yourself with another person. I went to God, and He healed all of my brokenness. He wrapped me into His arms, and made me a better man for it. I would say to you, get involved with some activities that you enjoy, don't dwell on this situation too much, it is easy to say that, I know I had a hard time with it. Go to church, and the reason why I say that is this, God's love for you is unfailing and never ending, and the love we show to others doesn't even come close to it. But I will pray for you that your brokenness will mend.
2006-11-07 09:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him to stop calling you. He made the chice to find another girlfriend, so you have to let him know that he can't be with you anymore. It will be real hard but thats all you can do. If you give in, he will only think of you as a second chice option. If you deny him for a while you will become more appealing to him. The you can dump him while he is persuing you. After that you will move on.
2006-11-07 09:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer. Time will eventually bring healing, so, in the meanwhile, I suggest you stay busy with hobbies, friends, and start dating again, so as not to let this guy obsess your life of what might had been.
Also think about this, he's probably gone on with his life without you. Is a guy who doesn't worry and think about you as much as you do for him worth having? Would you really be happy? Just some food for thought.
2006-11-07 09:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by rhino 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You dont. There will always be that one special person that will always have a part of your heart for the rest of your life. You will move on but you will always think about him and the times you had together. Just stay as busy as possible for now and meet as many new people as you can. Change your routine a little. Good luck.
2006-11-07 09:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How was his moral night before ( you spent the night together);Break up-Break up How many time..Do you have a Crazy Glue so you can do a perfect joint! Be wise and get rid from your EX and add IT=EXIT yourself from those zigzag path.Come and walk on the straight path in a light.Best wishes and Good luck!
2006-11-07 09:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by precede2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl let me tell u i don't see u moving on if u keep letting him come in and out of your life as he pleases i been there before and let me tell u another man in ur life can be another mistake cause u don't want to find some one just like ur ex that's in and out of ur life just look into ur self and don't be desperate and in time ur get over him he's looser anyway if he's got a girl and still messin with ur feelings like that just give ur self time and u will grow stronger day by day well you better be like that song i will survive as long as i know how to love i know i stay alive i got all my well u know da rest good luck.
2006-11-07 09:32:29 · answer #11 · answered by miss thing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋