im just scared to tell him but i dont want him to think im not physically attracted to him. i know he is gonna ask me soon why i wont have sex with him. i jus wanna b honest without lookin foolish
2006-11-07 08:50:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say: "No."
No, is a complete sentence and thought. If he asks why, you are not obliged to give a reason. However, "Because I don't want to." is always popular with those who do not wish to engage in sexual activity.
2006-11-07 08:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you don't have to have sex for any reason if you aren't ready for it. Do make sure you are on birth control and have followed the instructions to the letter. With the Pill, you have to wait about a month for it to get into your system anyway. If you anticipate having an intimate relationship do what you need to to prepare and prevent pregnancy. However, even if you do get on the Pill, this is not his license to have sex with you.
Remember, once you start, it's really hard to do without. Remember, also, young men rarely stay in a long term relationship. Weigh your options. Be honest. Especially with yourself. If he can't deal with where you are at, re-evaluate the relationship.
2006-11-07 09:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't think that. Just tell him that you haven't found the right person yet and you hope it's him but want to take it slow. You won't look foolish. Most guys like inexperienced women because they feel like the have "conquered" something. Just remember that it is a big step so don't let him pressure you. Have fun and be safe.
2006-11-07 09:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start off small,you not gonna get any more experienced if you scared to let it happen,he will understand and if he dont then babe move on.makin love is a very natural,special thing between two people so dont rush,like i said start small but not goin all the way until you (not him) decide its the right time..best of luck hon
2006-11-07 09:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by delboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say your saving yourself until marriage. That is a defensible argument. If you say it is because you are inexperienced, then the solution is to get experience. He would gladly teach you. Choose your words carefully.
2006-11-07 09:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a lady and say "I don't believe in sex before marriage"
If he cares, he'll still date you and respect you.
If he doesn't care, he'll dump you so it's no loss.
If you're too "scared" to talk about sex, you're way too young to even think about doing it! You need to be able to talk about sex, birth control, STD's, HIV, etc. etc. Sex is for grown ups, not frightened little girls.
2006-11-07 08:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there you go be honest with him let him know whats up....and well i dont think that he well find u unattracted just because you are not experienced....maybe he will fint you more because you wont know if he is doing it right or not....lol...just tell him....
2006-11-07 08:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please, please do not think or have the assumption that you must have sex with your boyfriend. It is quite likely that you may have a few boyfriends before you eventually get married. So, respect your self don't use your body to keep a man. If he truly loves you he would be prepared to wait. Keep your virginity for as long as you can.
2006-11-07 09:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u dont want 2 have sex
2006-11-07 08:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really cares about you, you wont look foolish, tell him your just not ready yet and wait till you are.
2006-11-07 08:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by dwickleworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋