My husband and I have two cars, both of which need repairs. We will get one back (hopefully fixed) this week. My husbands' brother's car just broke today. It's completely shot, and he doesn't know what he's going to do. They work opposite shifts, at the same place. My BIL wants me to get up at six, drive him to work, then pick my husband up at eleven at night. His girlfriend lives with him, but she can't (or won't) take a week off work to drive him to and from. If she takes him on her way to work, he'll be getting there at six. He's too lazy to do that. We've gone a month with one car, and they refuse to go a week without our help. Am I wrong for refusing to take him to work? Plus, I'm a SAHM, and I'd have to get my baby out of bed early in the morning and late at night to do all this.
2006-11-07 08:33:42 · 12 answers · asked by teeney1116 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your BIL is a grown man. He has a woman at home and transportation. It's ok to help out but he is disrupting your baby's schedule, which really, really counts. He can check out the bus schedule, make arrangements with a co-worker on the same shift, take a cab.....
The BIL and his girl need to figure this one out. Maybe instead of her taking off work, he needs to take some time off. Apparently he can get there, he just finds it inconvenient. Let it be their problem. Hubby needs to let him know he provides for you and the baby and right now that's all he can do. (Or should be doing.) If you guys don't extract yourselves now every issue that comes down the pike is going to be your problem. Not saying don't help. Just don't take on another dependent.
2006-11-07 08:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since your BIL is to lazy to get up early enough so his girlfriend can drop him off on the way to her job and he doesn't realize that this will be not only inconvenient for you and your family because it sounds as he is self absorbed this is how you handle that situation (1) Find out exactly what time he needs to leave from home to get to work. (2) Instead of getting up at 6 to drag your baby out to take his lazy butt to work. Call your local taxi company give them his address,then call your BIL and tell him his ride is on the way make sure he has cab fare. Because you are not his personal taxi but you have a professional one on the way. Your responsibility is to your husband and child and dragging your child out at that time of the morning want happen.
2006-11-07 19:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by H Town Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your brother-in-law's transportation is not your problem. Have your husband set him straight. Your husband's first job is protecting you and your baby, let him put his foot down with the BIL.
2006-11-07 16:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah it isnt really your problem but he is still family and you are suppose to help family. And if you stay at home what is the big deal. yeah you will have to wake the baby up but he will go back to sleep you just dont want to inconvience yourself and you are being rather selfish. why are you going to make everyone be late or too early for there job if they dont have too. just remember there is going to be a time when you need help and they might be the ones that can help you.
2006-11-07 16:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No way should you be bundling up baby to save BIL an inconvenience. Put your foot down and say no.
2006-11-07 16:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by LAUGHING MAGPIE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds too complicated for your family to have to deal with. They should rent a car if they need one. Your family needs to have a vehicle available, not ferry everyone around. Don't disturb your baby's sleep or routine to do this.
2006-11-07 16:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to tell them "No!", and your bil needs to learn how to handle his business like an adult.
2006-11-07 16:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your brother in law asked, it's not your problem. If your husband asked, talk to him about it.
2006-11-07 17:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by I think... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are family and everything (at least the bro-in-law) but they are wrong for asking, knowing that you have a young child, you are defenitely not wrong for saying no... they don't want to be inconvienced so you should be.... nah... b.i.l.'s girl won't help him that's his problem, don't let it become yours
2006-11-07 16:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by jestardelsol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a bit much for you is that luv.
2006-11-07 17:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by trucker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋