I'm 18 and he's 26 and he's my sugar daddy.
He buys me everything. EVERYTHING. His name is Jimmy. His dad owns this giant corporation and Jimmy doesn't work at all, he just gets money so he doesn't mind spending it on me.
He's bought me cars, clothes, jewelry, and lots of other stuff. My friends say I'm bad for using him?
2006-11-07 08:32:11 · 110 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's really nice and the problem is, I think he likes me.
He seems genuinely interested in me, but the truth is...I dont wanna date him. He's not attractive at all and I just want his monye =/
2006-11-07 08:35:40 · update #1
If you really love him it is ok. If not that makes you a prostitute
2006-11-07 08:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by keith s 5 · 8⤊ 2⤋
The problem for me would be if Jimmy really loves you and you are leading him on just to get the money. It doesn't matter if he is a multi-billionaire. Money is not the issue. If you are playing with someone's heart just to use him or her, then you are going to have to deal with some guilt later. This is the SAME as a guy that doesn’t have any true feelings for a girl, but just uses her for sex. The good guy tells the truth about what he wants from the girl and what he is willing to give in return and the bad guy lies and tells her that he loves her or implies there is a real future when he knows that is not true.
2014-09-01 16:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Pamiliya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My values are different. I don't think one should take advantage of someone even if it isn't his hard earned money. He may be trying to win your affection. Most people that are generous expect something in return. You may be teaching him that women are heartless and take advantage of men without any conscience. Take a closer look at him. I think the compatibility, friendship may be a better foundation. There are many pretty boys that treat women badly.Tell him your intentions. This gives him the option to either continue showering you with gifts or to stop. Leading someone on if hurtful. Be honest with him and you will be rewarded with many gifts in this life. Be deceitful and you will be paid back for that behavior somewhere down the line. I believe that deep inside you know right from wrong. Good luck on your choices. I wish you the best. The choice is yours.
2006-11-07 08:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by firestarter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's ok as long as you both agree on the terms of your relationship. if he knows he's your sugardaddy and that you dont consider this a real relationship then go for it. however, if he really likes you and expects more from you in return...like a commitment or exclusivity than you may have a problem. some guys with lots of money really dont care how they spend it or who they spend it on. and when it comes to relationships they usually dont care about the women they share it with long enough to stay with them anyway because in their mind, it all just comes and goes. so if he sees you that way than be prepared for him and all those luxuries to be here today and gone tomorrow while he moves on to the next girl.
on the other hand, if he really does like you than be careful because if you decide to break up with him there may be hell to pay considering all he's done for you. sometimes men equate money with power and will try to use it to manipulate and control you. if that happens be prepared to see his not so sugardaddy-sweet ways come out. just know that anything a man gets you that comes with a contract or any written agreement such as cars, homes, expensive jewlery, etc better have your name somewhere on it . because when he moves on, guess who has the LEGAL right to take it all away from you....??? NOT YOU!!!
2006-11-07 08:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Any guy who is 7 years older than you will naturally like a teenage girl, especially one who's affections can be so easily bought with material goods.
If you have to ask if its okay, then it probably isnt.
Get some sense about you and find someone who values you as a person and partner, and not as a hot pair of legs easily available for the price of some clothes and jewels.
Its just sickening to lower yourself to such a worthless standard.
2006-11-07 08:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not forcing him to give you anything so no you aren't doing anything illegal by accepting gifts from him. However, from a moral perspective its wrong to lead him on. If he thinks by giving you gifts you are going to have some kind of relationship with him and you let him think that its wrong. You should be honest and let him know that you are not interested in him. If you tell him that and he still wants to give you money then go ahead, he's an adult and can make his own decisions.
2006-11-07 08:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jason S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would stop what your doing. Believe it or not, there are men out there that do the same thing to women. You are taking advantage of this guy and the fact that he REALLY likes you. Looks aren't everything you know? You could be with the greatest looking guy and him be the HUGEST jerk, abuser, and liar and cheater there is. It usually does happen that way. If you don't want someone else doing this to you one day. Then I suggest you stop doing it to this man. He really cares and you should feel really bad for what you are doing. It will come back on you. Blessed be........
2006-11-07 08:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to complete the transaction, why dont you wait untill his father dies and Jimmy owns the company? Once Jimmy owns the company, you can marry him, divorce him, and take half of his fathers hardearned dollars.
Are you going to rely on him for everything that you want and need? Trust me. You will learn a great life lesson from this. Give back the car, and anything else that was too extreme, get a job, earn your own respect and what you deserve in life. The only thing that you should be accepting from him are a birthday present, x-mas, and valentines day present. You need to learn to be more self reliant. Let's just say that you think this is the guy you want to be with for the rest of your life. I can almost garantee that he will dumb you in a heartbeat for a more beautiful girl when he realizes that he can get those kind of woman. You will only be screwing yourself be relying on him. Make the right choice
2006-11-07 08:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by Frank 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have some mixed feelings about this, but I think as long as you are not leading him on too much then it is OK to continue with him as long as you both are getting what you want from the relationship. There are many relationships that are very similar to this. Some girls that I know started out having an older man as a sugar daddy and I mean DADDY where the girl was your age and the man was about 40 years old or so. Each one of these girls told me a story similar to yours. The man was nice and took care of their needs and they returned his favors with what they could offer to him. At first it was just for the money, but over time they began to see how caring and loving and truly genuine the man was. Also, they saw many examples of boys their own age being abusive, immature, and uncaring to women. Over time, the girls actually began to love the sugar daddy and a real relationship developed that was mutual.
The problem for me would be if Jimmy really loves you and you are leading him on just to get the money. It doesn't matter if he is a multi-billionaire. Money is not the issue. If you are playing with someone's heart just to use him or her, then you are going to have to deal with some guilt later. This is the SAME as a guy that doesn’t have any true feelings for a girl, but just uses her for sex. The good guy tells the truth about what he wants from the girl and what he is willing to give in return and the bad guy lies and tells her that he loves her or implies there is a real future when he knows that is not true.
However, even with both knowing what is going on, using men and women other in this manner ends up creating people who don't believe in love. It creates men who think the only way to get what they want is through force, power, and money and it makes women think that they should use sex to get what they want. It is a shame because one day we will might find love but not be able to recognize it because we have become so jaded.
Finally, I want to point out to the ladies who are doing this that this way of life can be problematic for the woman because if she does this too long, she will begin to think the only way to attract a man is through the use of her body, beauty, and sex. What happens when she is old and doesn’t have as much going for her? Men on the other hand, usually become more powerful and wealthy, as they gets older and more established. This is why we have sugar DADDYS and not so many sugar MOMMYS and why so many old men leave their old wives for a young hot 18 year old such as yourself who will be replaced when she gets too fat, saggy, wrinkled, or just out of fashion.
Be careful with this game you are playing.
2006-11-07 08:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pretty young but sounds like you are finding out how at least "part" of this world works. Listen....if you are being honest with him and he is being honest with you....you are both adults, do what you want until someone else meaningful comes around. C'mon, everyone get's so serious around here...it's not like the two of you don't know what's happening...He's sure old enough to know. You go girl!
2006-11-10 11:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man is 39 and I am 27, he buys me what ever I want. clothes, jewelry, looking for a new car now. Only I love him. I am not using him. He is very sexy and we are very in love. Leave poor Jimmy alone if you don't have feelings for him. Material things are not that important if you don't have love how can you be happy? No other guy is going to want to be with you if you have another guy taking care of you.
2006-11-07 08:41:30 · answer #11 · answered by Me! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋