why are some people against interracial dating?

Question

i don't get it. i've actually had my momma tell me that if she did not want me with another black man because my kids (who are mixed) would not be raised right and that if she ever caught me with another black man she was going to take the kids away from me. i understand that's how she was raised, but why should i have to live my life the way she lived hers?

Answer 1

BEcause some people get skin-color mixed up with values, morals, and ethnicity, and socio-economic factors. My mother has the same problem.
She should be worried about you finding a GOOD man, regardless of the color of his skin.

Answer 2

She's afraid of a stereotype getting into your childrens lives. It's true people. There are people out there who just don't want to do the right thing no matter what there color is. All I can tell you is be carefull and put your children first in your life. If you're going to be with a man then make sure he's worth being with first.

Answer 3

Oh are people really that ignorant? No offence to your mom but that attitude belongs in the dustbin!
I think if you find a man who treats you, and your babies right, who the heck cares what race he is?
Although I would try to introduce your kids to as much racial diversity as you can, so that they are not the only black kids in school, or in your neighborhood.
This includes friends of yours that you think would be a good influence on your kids.
Personally, I think your kids are probably beautiful little creatures that will grow up just fine.

Answer 4

My mother thought the same way when I was in high school that was 10 years ago. She didnt want me going out with black guys at all. When I was Jr my friend who was a senior wanted me to go to prom with him. he was going to pay for everything. Dress, hair, nails, limo, tickets, etc. But because he was black my mom said no. She said it was going to be embarrasing showing my pictures to people. Even though she ddnt have to pay for them. When my mom was transfered to different location she only worked with one man who was black. They got along so good and now he is one of my mothers great friends. She got over that whole racist thing, that my brothers best friend was black and my sisters first boyfriend was black. This is something that you have to determine on what you want to do. We are not living in the 30's, 40's, 50's. This is 2000 do what you feel is right for you and your mother shouldnt take your children away just because of that. You should report her before she reports you, so you can have it on record.

Answer 5

It sounds like you may have larger issues than just your mother's racism. You had children, the father is gone, and your mother blames it on race. That's fairly typical of a mother who doesn't want to blame her own daughter. But the real problem is, you will likely choose the same type of man that got you pregnant the first time. His skin color is just a matter of physical preference, much like hair color or body build. We all have different things we're attracted to. Your mother doesn't like the idea of you dating another black man and you can't force her to change her feelings. She'll have to do that on her own, and one way to help her do that, is to choose a guy based on his principals and character instead of just his looks or his "cool factor".
Even better, would be to concentrate on furthering your education and working towards a professional goal for yourself. Work towards moving out of your mother's house. Make plans to work towards making a better life for you and your children and the right kind of man will more likely come into your life. I wish you the best.

Answer 6

you don't have to live your life the way your mom lived hers . . you're grown now and you're old enough to make your own choices . . . and if it means choosing between your mom and the man you love . . hey, it's your choice to make . . . . I think it's a shame that some people are still so closed-minded when it comes to race . . . but it's like to the point where you can't worry about what other people say . . you have to live your life the way you want and do what will make you happy . . just continue to love your children (I'm sure they are beautiful . . mixed babies are the most beautiful babies in the world!!) . . . and do what makes you happy!

Answer 7

I'm not against it

If I was, that would mean that I hate a part of myself

My family is all mixed up

But I tell you what----It's always the BLACK-WHITE combos that annoy some people who are still stuck so far down in the Jim Crow/KKK/Black Panther days that they cant see how the world is changing around them.

Answer 8

You don't have to live your life as she lived hers...but you may have to be prepared for a rift between the two of you for you to live you life as you see fit.

Racism and bigotry will never completely go away...at least progress has been made, but it's not enough...people should be treated and judged as individuals, not as races, religions, ethnicities, etc...it's not far to lump people together and make blanket statements about their attitudes and/or behavior...because quite often, it's just not accurate or fair...

Answer 9

I see no problem myself in interracial dating, after all I am married to a Nigerian woman. Who is the best thing to happen to me in many years. I can only say that your momma may have seen something on tele on the subject, maybe watches to much Ricky lake are something.

Answer 10

Of course not. People who like to discriminate is a real dumb! How do we judge by outside appearance? We are born to this world is to know each other, and also find our match. We know that match is only in God's hand. So kick the racism out from Ur life!!!