OMG! bf prob!?

Question

i told my friend about issues i was having with my bf. we have been seeing each other for about 2 months. my friend went a told him everything i said and now he thinks i am running my mouth about our personal business. she says it was because she was concerned...but she doesnt even know HIM! why would my friend do this?

Answer 1

Lose her. It sounds like she is trying to get closer to him than you are. She is either competitive by nature and will always be like this, or she has a thing for your man. Neither of these is good. Drop her and apologize to your boyfriend.

Answer 2

Well, I'd say you have two problems..
1. Your friend was talking about you to your boyfriend behind your back.
2. Your boyfriend is not being supportive of you having an outside of the relationship support group.

Answers
1. Next time you talk to your friend tell him/her that what you are telling them is in confidence and that you are looking for another persons point of view.
2. Tell your boyfriend that what you said to your friend wasn't meant to be shared with other people and that you just wanted another point of view so you could better understand his side of things.

If your friend runs and tells your boyfriend what you said again they are not a trustworthy friend and you should reconsider them as a friend.
If your boyfriend is unsopportive of you having people to confide in he should rethink whether or not he wants you to come to him alone with every single little feeling you have and how many arguments may stem from that.

Answer 3

She did that because she wants him for herself. Dump her sorry a** and get yourself a more trustworthy friend.

She did that for a number of reasons:
1) she has abolutely no respect for you;
2) she's jealous of you;
3) she wants what you have;
4) she'll continue to attempt to destroy your relationships with other people.
5) she's feeling threatened by you,
6) she feels like crap about herself, so she's going to anything in her power to "put you down" so she'll feel a tad good about herself.

And that is just the tip of an iceberg of what she really thinks and feels about you. You can only save yourself by breaking it off with her. What she did is only a beginning. She's testing your boundaries. If she can fekk with you once, she'll do it again, and each time it will get worse, until you start believing her.

Answer 4

Dont be gullible... you friend is being really sly, she wants to mess up your relationship with your bf because she is jealous... DONT tell her anything about you and your bf, she doesnt need to know your business because if shes running her mouth to your man who else is she running her mouth to..? i wouldnt trust this girl... talk to your man and explain what she is trying to do, and tell your man that she is chatting sh!t

Answer 5

She was honestly trying to help. But i think she was trying too hard and should have known not to tell him certain things.You should let her know what her saying to much has done. Talk to your boyfriend and let him know that you only told her those things because you were trying to figure out what to do...if things don't work out it'll be okay. Remember you only knew him for 2 months and it's probably for the best....

God Bless you love....

Answer 6

I did that once (and i hope you're not Hannah!!!) but The guy (lets call him T) had been held in the dark for 1 1/2 years about H fancieing him! so T had to be told sometime, maybie you';re friend feels like that aabout it?

Answer 7

I don't know why people do this but not I am also in trouble because I was talking to a gf of hers who is not romantic with her husband. I said that I am lucky my wife is very, very romantic. She exagerated the story, and told my wife that I said she is a good f**ker and can't get enough men, and now I am in big trouble. My comment was harmless, but her gf made a mess of it.

Answer 8

TO me it sounds like your friend is not a true friend, nor is she someone you can trust or confide in... if she has an eye for your man then she is doing what she can to get him for herself... if that isn't the case, she still can't be trusted with your secrets either way I think its time to start distancing yourself from her.

Good Luck

Answer 9

She probably thought she was doing the right thing...and guys KNOW that girls talk with one another so your bf should understand that it's normal for women to confide in their female friends...it doesn't mean you sky-wrote y'alls issues or posted them in a blog, and used your real names...

Let him know that you didn't disrespect him or your relationship, but things were troubling you and so you talked about them with a friend...and that's all it was...guys (sometimes) do that too, talk to friends (other guys or women friends) about personal issues so it's not like you broke a cardinal rule or anything...

Talk to your friend about privacy and not sharing things told in confidence in the future...otherwise, you may have to be more selective about what you share with her.

Answer 10

well, you were running your mouth about personal business..
and she is obviously not a good freind.
When you grow up, you realize that is much more effective to talk to the person you are having issues with than to vent to someone else

Answer 11

Sounds to me like she may not be friend material. My girlfriend did that to me and it was out of pure jealousy. I was happy and she was not. She should not interfere with you and him.
Only if you told her not to tell him the things you talk with her about. If she did not know any better then maybe it was out of concern. Talk to your girl about it, let her know it bothers you that her and him have conversation about things like that.