That even though no one else had ever made him as happy as I did and even though he had feelings for me and cared for me that he couldn’t see us as anything other than than a FWB. I’m left confused by this. First of all, how do you determine that without getting to know someone on a deeper level? And isn’t it too soon to even think about those sort of thoughts after only 3.5 months of dating? His actions said to me that something was not right with what he said. As any rejected woman who has fallen in love, I acted rather dramatic to this news. Long e-mails telling him what I thought he wanted to hear and finally a 4 page letter that was written in a dramatic storytelling (ok soap opera) tone confessing my love for him and how my pride and the sting of his rejection would never allow us to be friends. I have since recanted. I sent him some flowers with a note apologizing for my reactions and asked if we could just be friends. Come to find out, he was engaged until Oct. of last year...
2006-11-07 08:02:08 · 6 answers · asked by PisceKween 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He took it hard to the point where he went on a drinking binge for over two months. So I am wondering, am I dealing with a guy who was hurt so badly in his past relationship (I’m the first he’s dated since her) that he won’t trust what we have and is pushing me away? Or did he forget how to act with a woman he only wanted to have a FWB relationship? Why would he treat me so well and be so public about his feelings for me if he just wanted to screw me? Why would he think of taking vacations with me if that was the case? Am I putting too much stock in all of that? Should I hold out on the hope that one day he’ll see his mistake and pick things back up or should I just move the hell on and let my love for him go? This man is special. I can feel it. I can be patient and fight for a man that I love. I don’t want to walk away but not sure if I am just letting my heart fool me.
This is where you come in, what do you think?
2006-11-07 08:02:37 · update #1
Ok you just answered your own question honey. You need to move on. You sound warm and caring and intelligent. So please just let him go. As soon as you turn your back on him he will most likely try and get you back. Because he is playing games. Just keep walking. You will find someone who is honest with you and does not say one thing and then do another. Reread what you just submitted here and listen to what you know the answer to be. I know you fell for him but you fell for his "act". He was probably just caught up in feeling close to someone again after his previous engagement fell through. To be brutally honest he used you for his security blanket just long enough for him to feel better. You were a rebound. I know you might not see this now but that's because you have your eyes sown shut. Open them and I know you'll find another great love who will give back to you what you give.
2006-11-07 08:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your in love and hes not. Hes being honest with you. He will gladly keep you around for the benefits, until he finds someone he loves.
2006-11-07 08:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
2006-11-07 08:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want it...you have to work for it...
2006-11-07 08:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who the **** would read all that
2006-11-07 08:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
boring
no one is reading all your sh!t
2006-11-07 08:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋