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Question

I have posted a few questions on here and no one seems to be able to understand so i am having a friend type for me my problem is my wife she seems to be ungratful that i helped her when i did not have to and im going to explain to you a little more because some of you think im a complete jerk I married this girl in 2001 and she is 10 years younger than me at the time she was 15 and i took her out of a bad place If she thinks so or not it was and i have given her a place to live food(real food not this frozen food stuff she ate before) she got things when i could buy it and she is now 21 and has got a attitude she has been complaining since the second year of out marriage that my family gets everything and its like she has some sort of problem with them when they love her I will give you a example more recent the got scamed i knew it was a scam but I did not say a thing to her i took her to the bank cashed the check and what happened it bounced now I HAVE lost over 3000 dollars...

for her stupidity and i called mexico and talked to my dad and he was telling me things were tight over there so i sent money to him because he needed it and she complained about it why when she lost all that money and another example when i call mexico she said it would be better to call after everything is settled down (the kids) that is not my job she should have EVERYTHING done long before i get home she has no excuse for anything shes just mad that her family does not care for her the way mine cares for me.

Answer 1

I can help you out with this one. My now husband did the same thing you did in 1992. He met a girl that was 10 years younger than he was, had had a past past, abused etc., He married her 6 months later. He gave her a job, an education, a house, a car etc. They got into a car accident 5 years later, and got a big settlement for it, ( it was in her name ), so they decided to buy things with it, but she also started to complain that he wasn't doing enough for her, his family wasn't liking her, etc...
Well one day he came home and she told him to get th ehell out of the house that she didn't want nothing to do with him anymore.
She had had enough.
She took him to court, took everything away from him, told people he was beating her up...Believe me she deserved it, but I know my husband he can't kill a fly...
And at the end , he had nothing. Except his self respect.
So my advice to you is get the hell out while you can, because after everything you've done for her, she will grow older want more and finally leave you with nothing.
There's someone else in this world that is worthy of your love, so don't waist it on her...
Give her the booth, but be sure to have all your paperwork , ( money, bank account, receipts ) and everything else in order before you do...
Good luck

Answer 2

What I can gather from your question is that she is ungrateful ( for all that you do for her) and still immature and needy.
Might I suggest she goes and gets a job and sees what the real world is all about. That way she can get a feel of what being a responsible adult is all about (have her pay for something towards the household ,like groceries) and she can use the rest of the money to spend on whatever she wants. It may do her a world of good, it may not, you won't know if you don't try. Just because you turn 21 doesn't mean your an adult, being mature takes years to develop and some people never grow up.

Answer 3

If it was tetanus then it would'e showed in the blood work as being tetanus. As for your dog it sounds like she has a neurological problem, which means she probably does have a tumor. Is she in any pain at all? I know you don't want to hear this but there is not much that can be done. Your vet is right the surgery would probably kill her before the tumor would because she is so small. It sounds like you need to think long and hard about what is best for her. I know she is probably a part of your family and more like a furry child than a dog, but it would be much kinder to put her to sleep instead of letting her starve. Lockjaw is hard to correct and if it is because of the tumor most likely impossible. I am very sorry I have been in your shoes with a lab I had. He developed a brain tumor at the age of two and had all of these symptoms. We finally made the decision to let him go because we could not get any food in him at all. If you have anything you want to talk about you are welcome to email me.

Answer 4

You sound very domineering and overbearing. If you both have children, why is it her job to have things "settled" down by the time you get home.

Gratitude is not love. She may be been grateful originally for your rescuing here - though frozen food is fine, really. But you cannot expect her to still be falling all over you in gratitude some 6 years later.

Be kind, be loving - you may well lose her if you don't loosen your hold on her.

Answer 5

First it is NOT illegal in some parts of the world to marry a girl of 15, in some places less. Secondly, it is proper to send money to family if you have it.
Thirdly, if you can help her understand there is enough love in your heart, el corazone for all, then maybe that can help.
Ella is bimba? Poquita niña, never grew up. Problem these days is some females never appreciate like they did in older days.
Maybe you should send her to Mexico, to see what hard life is about! Send her home to Papi! I do not know how to help you make her grow up.
Lo seinto!

Answer 6

How could you marry a 15 year old girl in the first place?? That's illegal!

Answer 7

Uh, Ok! This was way to rambling and confusing for anyone to understand, sweetie. It didn't help to have a friend type it. Maybe try another friend to compose your question a tad bit better.
Uh, good luck with what ever situation you have.