That your 18 yr old daughtes boyfriend was cheating on her would you tell her? The problem I have is that she is so wrapped up in him that she will believe him... or forgive him. She is a freshman in college and I don't want to make any waves right now, but I certainly can't stand the fact that he is cheating on her. I am torn?
2006-11-07 07:46:11 · 9 answers · asked by zabra2boys 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is right as a mother it is your job to protect you child. DON'T TELL HER! I also have a freshman in college on a full scholarship, whom also is nuts about a boy. It wouldn't matter what I told her.... she is "in love" and love is blind and he is on a pedistal in her world. My job is to protect her and to do that I must make sure she gets the best education! Eventually with time and the distance between them the word will get out or he will choose to move on... I will be there for her.To love, comfort and console her. But for now she is happy, healthy, loving life, is getting a great education and always, always, always uses protection! Those are my priorities right now. When they say as parents you have to pick your battles with your children this one of the best examples!
2006-11-07 07:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't said how you know he is cheating on her, but I suspect you see it, and your daughter doesn't, because you are more willing to see it than she is.
You are convinced that your daughter will not react to the news in a constructive manner. You know your daughter better than I do. I will therefore take your word for it. That being the case, what purpose would be served by telling her?
As painful as it is to watch your daughter make mistakes, she needs to make those mistakes, in order to learn from them.
I suggest you just bite your tongue for now, but be prepared to offer your guidance, when she asks for it. When she tells you that the guy is cheating on her, you can indicate that you already knew that, but thought it best not to meddle. Then, she will wonder what else you haven't mentioned, and start checking with you periodically.
2006-11-07 16:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Allen Montgomery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure about the answers, apparently they were never teenage girls. Do not, I repeat do not tell your daughter that her boyfriend is cheating on her. I would make him aware of the fact that you know.....................perhaps tell her closest friend and asks what she thinks. If my mother had of told me at 18 that my boyfriend was cheating on me, i would have moved out.
2006-11-07 15:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by alysinvunderland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you sohould tell her she's your daughter and either way deserves to hear hte truth if you think she wont belive you simply get some prove of this hope this helps
2006-11-07 17:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother your "job" here is to protect your daughter.
Make him tell her. The three of you get together and then tell her "He has something to tell you." If he wont do it then you need to bring the hammer down.
2006-11-07 15:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what in the??? YES! you tell her. that's your daughter. if you know for a fact then try and get proof to show her, but by all means, tell her!
2006-11-07 15:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should tell her, and in the end she will understand that you told her because you care
2006-11-07 15:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a mom tell her that would be the bet way to not let her get hurt
2006-11-07 15:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes it\'s my duty
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2006-11-07 15:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋